Ted defines a bad backup singer as someone who validates or joins in the criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling—which he warns will bring about the death of a marriage. Below are four examples of bad backup singing. Read each scenario aloud as a group and select the offense taking place using the provided offense list.
Criticism: The inability to receive any opinion from your spouse without attacking
Contempt: Meanness and sarcasm
Defensiveness: The inability to receive a person’s opinion without seeing it as an attack on yours
Stonewalling: Withdrawal from a situation or conversation