I am going to ask you to write out the issues you are facing according to the following format:
(1) The Issue.
Describe the problem.
(2) What did you do to help create this situation?
If I wanted to get myself into the exact same position that you are in now, what steps would I have to take? This is an important question to ask to change your perspective from “the problem is caused by someone else and therefore can only be solved by someone else” to “this problem was in part caused by me, therefore there are things that I can do to unwind it”.
(3) What is your proposed solution?
If you have truly written out how you helped create the situation, then you now likely see the steps needed to back out of the situation. Either way, please write all the specific actions that you would prescribe to solve this issue. Even if you have no confidence in your solution, write it out anyway. It is much more effective for me to react to your proposed solution, than it is for me to invent a solution for you. For each action, please list who will do it, and by when they will do it.