If you scored:
7 or more: You are well on your way to having a secure bond with your partner and can use therapy to strengthen it.
Less than 7: You are probably feeling insecure in your relationship and therapy can help you strengthen your connection with your partner.
Understanding the emotional connection between you and your partner and sharing how you see it is the first step to creating the connection you both want and need.
- Does your partner's view of how accessible, responsive and engaged you are fit with your own view of yourself?
- How safe do you feel in your relationship? Try to remember that your partner is speaking about how safe and connected he/she feels right now in your relationship, not about whether you are a perfect partner.
- You can now take turns talking about the question/answer that was most positive and important for you. Keep the conversation to five minutes each. If you feel comfortable, try to discuss the answer that brought up the most difficult emotions for you. Do this in the spirit of helping your partner tune into your feelings. Avoid criticism and blame. Keep this conversaation to five minutes each.