The Conscious Breakup Quiz

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Is/was contempt present in the relationship?Contempt is purposeful disrespect through mocking with sarcasm, ridicule, or mean spirited mimicking. Generally used to create a position of moral superiority.
Almost never
Sometimes
Often
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Is/was disgust present in the relationship?Disgust is the felt sense that something is toxic in behavior or appearance.
Almost never
Sometimes
Often
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Was/is substance abuse present in the relationship?Using intoxicants to the point of needing them to feel "okay"
Yes
No
It was, but we are better now
4
Was trust broken in the relationship?Cheating, significant lying, significant manipulation
Yes, and it still hurts
No
It was, but we mostly healed through it
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What was/is the quality of emotional intimacy and connection?Were you able to be vulnerable with one another? Cry? Admit confusion, hurt, and fear without blowups?
Excellent emotional connection and intimacy
One sided emotional connection and intimacy
Neither of us felt safe with exploring our true feelings together
What are feelings?
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On an average day, how much did you enjoy spending quality time with you partner?Quality time is time spent together focused on one another- not watching TV and looking at your phones
I enjoyed it a lot
I moderately enjoyed it
I would mostly prefer to not be with my partner
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How satisfying was the physical intimacy?Touch, sensuality, sexuality?
Very satisfying
Moderately satisfying
Not satisfying
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Was/is this relationship inspiring you to grow as a person and a couple?Rule of the universe: Systems must become more complex or they die
Yes, we openly talk about our growth individually and as a couple
Somewhat, we want to grow but feel stuck
No, one of both of us is resistant to personal and relationship growth
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Do you and your partner generally put in equal effort into supporting each other and the relationship?Try your best to think of specific examples for both of you rather that going on a vague sense
Yes, we support each other and the relationship in a good way
Not really, one of us tends to put in noticeably more effort
No, being in this relationship was like having a child that I needed to take care of
No, I am essentially a child in an adult body and I more or less expect others to put in all the effort
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Would you want your best friend to have a relationship like this?Is this relationship loving, nurturing, and enjoyable enough to wish on a best friend?
Yes
Maybe
No way!
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Breakup Quiz Score30-20: You're relationship is mostly healthy and is likely a nourishing space for you and your partner. Consider clearing out any belief systems that make your happiness dependent on your partner and to create even more sovereignty, stability, and freedom. 20-10 Your relationship likely needs healing to thrive. Strongly consider any and all belief patterns that keep you in a state of dis-ease and contemplate graduating from this relationship if you or your partner are unable to take accountability for the energies and attitudes that are being co-created in your relationship. 10-0 You are in a significantly unhealthy relationship and likely require deep healings to reset your energy consciousness before another relationship be attempted. Work to discover the deep well of personal and creative love that resides inside of all of us so that you may free yourself of the emotional and chemical dependencies of romantic love.
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