Sex Survey for Men Who Have Sex with Men

Thank you for taking this sex survey. It is anonymous and is made up of questions I have received from men and women about sex with men. Your answers will help others to feel better about themselves as opposed to "I can't be normal" or "I'm probably the only person who feels this way." You advice will also help those who are new to having sex with men.

A sense of humor as well as honest and thoughtful answers are always welcome. Your responses can be a long as you'd like, and please be sure to hit the SUBMIT button at the end of the page.

If you learned about this survey on Reddit, please let me know which Subreddit you were on.

Your age:

Would you describe yourself as being totally gay, mostly gay, or bisexual?

Are you intact or circumcised?

During an average week, approximately how many orgasms do you have (include both masturbation and partner sex)?

How important to you is penis size in a partner? Please explain.

Blowjob Questions

What are some of the thoughts and emotions you experience when you are giving a blowjob?

Assume that aliens have taken over the planet and decided that when it comes to oral sex, human men could either give blowjobs or receive blowjobs, but not both. Which type of man would you choose to be: a blowjob giver or blowjob receiver, and why?

Do you prefer to give blowjobs to guys who are well hung, who are average-sized, or whose penis is on the more modest end of the size spectrum? Please explain why.

When you are giving a blowjob, what are some of the things a partner can do to help make it a really good experience for you?

When you are giving a blowjob, what are some of the things a partner has done to make it a less than optimal experience for you?

I am often asked for advice about giving blowjobs to guys who are uncut. If you have any suggestions about giving blowjobs to men with intact foreskins, please provide as much detail as possible.

If you are giving a blowjob to a man with a foreskin that won't retract, are you still able to get him off with your mouth, or do you also need to stroke?

Do you like it when a guy comes in your mouth, or do you finish him off by hand?

Please give your thoughts about the taste, volume and consistency of semen, and how it varies from man to man.

When a partner is giving you a blowjob, what are some the things that make it feel really good as opposed to not-so-wonderful?

What are some of the funniest things that you have experienced when giving or receiving a blowjob?

Some guys really like to 69, others say they'd rather be giving a blowjob or receiving one, but not both at the same time. What do you think about doing 69 and why?

Body Count: Approximately how many different men have you given blowjobs to during your lifetime (a totally rough guess is fine). This includes quick hookups (e.g. cruising on Grindr and Squirt, on a trail, at a bar) as well as in long term relationships.

Anal Sex Questions (If you are a Side, skip to the next section.)

If you have anal sex, do you prefer being a top, a bottom, or are you versatile? Please explain.

If you like receiving anal sex, what are some of the emotions you experience while a partner is inside of you?

If you don't like having anal sex, what are some of the reasons why?

If you are receiving anal sex, are you able to come from the thrusting alone, or do you need stimulation on your penis as well?

If you like receiving anal sex, what are some of the things a partner can do to make it feel extra good?

If you like receiving anal sex, what are some of the things a partner has done to make it a less than enjoyable experience?

If you are being a top during anal sex, are there things a bottom can do to make it feel better for you?

If you are going to have anal sex, are there preparations you make ahead of time? If so, what?

What are some of the funniest things that have happened to you when giving or receiving anal sex?

If you've just bottomed, does cum drip out of your butt? How do you handle it if you've got to go to work right away?

Do you have any advice for someone who is thinking about having anal sex for the first time?

Body Count: approximately how many different guys have you had anal sex with during your lifetime (a rough guess is fine). About what percent of the time were you a bottom, and what percent of the time were you a top?

Some Final Questions

Mutual Masturbation: Do you enjoy mutual masturbation? If so, please describe your feelings about it.

Frotting: Do you done much frotting (face to face rubbing dicks and balls together)? If so please describe what it's like for you.

Sex while stoned: If you have sex while using marijuana, how is it for you? Also, does it impact your ability to get hard and how long you can last?

Chemsex: If have Chemsex, please describe the chems you prefer, why you like Chemsex, and how it impacts your experience of sex.

What are some of the things that can make giving you a handjob feel great as opposed to "It's better when I do it myself"?

If you've ever had sex with a straight or mostly straight guy, what was the situation, what did the two of you do, and how was it for you?

For men who are Bi: This might seem like an odd question, but can you explain some of the differences between having sex with a woman vs a man besides just the obvious? (eg, are there things you prefer about men and things you prefer about women, are there differences emotionally, do men or women get you harder?) Details are welcome!

If you have any questions for me, I will be happy to answer, but you will need to leave your email address. Also, if there are questions you think I should include in a future survey, or if have any other suggestions, please leave them here.

Thank you so very much for taking this survey! And please be sure to click on the SUBMIT button below.