Your 'TO' List
List what you want instead. For example, “I want to be at ease and relaxed” And dream a little. How do you want your life to be? Who do you want to be in that life? How will that feel? So, take your time over the 'TO' list. Reflect on what DO you choose to experience in your life? Who would you be in that life? How would that feel?
Here is an example...
TO
Confident anywhere I go – looking forward to social events
Able to drink socially and know when I have had enough and stop – not getting drunk any more
Socially connected – friends.
Happy to be in my own company - I can go out if I choose or be alone and enjoy that.
Positive mood and outlook on life
Calm, confident, clear
Confident and I feel it and look it. Able to speak in public and speak my mind in a confident way so people listen to me
Able to be assertive but not get into fights.
I can walk away when I need to.
Waking up feeling OK – happy, not overwhelmed by the day ahead
Having energy
To be free of the awful feelings – to be calm