This Document is my promise.
A promise to make sure that others can trust me and I can trust others.
Trust is:
Reliability, mutual respect, accountability, valuing others, having integrity with my actions, and being honest with my words.
I maintain this trust and guard my church communities physical and emotional safety through the following:
How we talk to each other:
I am aware of my tone of voice. I don't curse, use inappropriate, or hateful language at others, or while with the group. I know my audience before I speak.
When someone hurts my feelings I will say "ouch" as a simple call out. If I need help calling out I will ask an adult.
When someone lets me know that what I said crossed a line I will do my best to genuinely make it right. If I need help making it right I will ask an adult.
How we act with one another:
I change my filter when I am at church (It is probably not the same one I use at school)
I will respect that each person's view in our group has weight, so I will seek compromises instead of "to win".
I will not engage in completely exclusive relationships at church (aka I include more than just one person.I will also not engage in any sexual activities. For my own safety and the safety of my group I will stay in groups of three or more. I will not be violent with people or objects.
I will not bring drugs, alcohol, tabacco, firearms, knives, or other potentially dangerous, illegal, or destructive items
How we show respect to Deacon Bri and other adults:
I don't roll my eyes.
I try to the best of my ability to not "flip their switch" and purposefully irritate them.
I will not argue with them in front of everyone. I will follow instructions, and If I have a problem or a concern I will pull them aside as soon as there is an opportunity and talk to them one on one. I will trust that the adults and Deacon Bri are always prioritizing me, and all I need to do is talk to them.
How we show respect to each other
I practice patience, grace, mercy, and forgiveness
I try to be with and for my group by trying to know where others are at emotionally as people.
I try to see the bright side, even when I am annoyed, or frustrated at what is happening.
I err. on the side of caution when talking to others, and hold the highest bar on how | show respect.
How we tolerate difference:
I am open with my church community, and trust that they will also be open with me. I do not use language that harms anyone individual or group for thier race, gender identity, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, physical or mental ability, or mental illness.
When I break the covenant
I can expect an adult to pull me aside and have a one on one conversation about my behavior. I may be expected to make something right. I will trust that if the "call out" is happening to the whole group that the adults are seeing that most people are breaking the covenant and I will take a moment to check in with myself and adjust myself accordingly. If my behavior is violent, sexual, if I have used drugs or alcohol, or any other behavior at the discretion of the adults and DeaconBri and that means it may be inappropriate for me to be around hte group at this time I will be sent home at my parents expense. I will always be welcomed back when my behavior is in line with this covenant.