Sub/Slave Questionnaire
To Potential Submissive/Slaves:
This may be the most detailed questionnaire you have ever completed about yourself. However, in a Mistress/slave relationship, TOTAL truthfulness is required in order for it to be successful. It is essential that you provide scrupulously accurate answers, so I can realistically assess your personality, wants and needs, as well as whether I need to address other issues besides your desire to serve.
Aim:
The basis of the relationship with your potential Mistress and your own growth as Her slave demands complete honesty, relaxed, and focused attention to all details requested. If you are unable to wholeheartedly give this your focused attention, be honest with your answers, and do NOT waste My time or yours. Do NOT leave any questions blank, if no, none, or not done, simply state that.
The Questionnaire:
Copy and paste the application into an email, answer the questions and email to "_______________". The spacing of this questionnaire does not determine the length of your answers. The questionnaire is expected to be returned via e-mail within five(5) days.
Date completed:
Name(Formal names ONLY):
Contact telephone number and time you normally can be reached:
Email address:
What country/state/county/city do you live in:
Part One: General overview and information:
1. How many years of experience do you have as a slave?
2. How long have you known of your interest in BDSM?
3. What is your sexual orientation?
a. heterosexual exclusively
b. bisexual
c. homosexual
d. bi curious
e. open to training controlled by my Mistress?
4. Main interest
a. sensual and physical
b. psycho sexual and mental
c. both equally
d. serving your Mistress
5. Are you… (rate each from 1=lowest to 10=highest) if an explanation is necessary, do so.
Sadistic ____
masochistic ____
Dominant ____
submissive ____
Switch ____
6. Your level of interest in bondage:
a. total helplessness
b. light bondage
c. not my favorite thing
d. outside my limits
e. never tried it
7. Pain (what you are, or what you are looking for)
a. pain slut
b. whipping, caning, paddling
c. light paddling, sensual whipping, no marks
d. not interested
8. Do others know you are submissive? Do you hide this side of yourself from others?
Part Two: Detailed questions. All answers are expected to elaborate on the subject matter in question. No one (1) word answers are to be given. All answers should be a minimum of one full sentence.
1. i seek and require the guidance of a Mistress to….?
(What being a slave is going to do for you?)
2. i seek and require the guidance of a Mistress because….?
(Why do you feel you have a need for a Mistress?)
3. How important is the fulfillment of these needs to you?
4. i seek to provide my Mistress with….?
(psychologically, emotionally, and sexually.)
5. my concept/definition of ‘submission’ is….?
6. my concept/definition of ‘servitude’ is….?
7. my concept/definition of “commitment’ is….?
8. my favorite sexual fantasy is….?
9. Describe the following areas that you have endured and how you would like your limits expanded within each situation.
a. cock & ball torture
b. ass play
c. bondage scenes
d. whipping scenes
10. Describe one area not mentioned you have endured and/or how you would like your limits of such expanded.
11. In what area(s) do you require concentrated training?
12. Are you willing to accept the idea of being trained as the property of your Mistress?
13. Describe how you will serve your Mistress in Her absence.
The following two questions deal with your current and initial preferences. These two questions may be answered with either a “Yes, Ma'am!” or a “No, Ma'am!” as long as you elaborate upon them with a minimum of one full sentence:
14. Do you prefer your Mistress to be:
a. rough, tough, and stubborn?
b .firm, stern, yet considerate?
c. something else? What?
15. Do you prefer to:
a. be commanded and ordered about?
b. be given a set rules to obey?
c. know the reason for some commands/orders?
d. have no say in your training and use?
e. have input in your training and use?
16. Tell me of your sexual energy ?
a. i like sex anytime i can get it with multi-partners.
b. i like sex, but there are other things that are just as important to me.
c. i like it about three times a week.
d. Once a week is enough for me.
e. i can live without Sex. It is a low priority in my life. Serving is more important.
f. i like sex, however i like it in my relationship, outside of a relationship i can live without it.
Part Three: Experience Level
As your Mistress, I may not necessarily engage in all of the following-described conduct but you never know what my kinky mind will want to try in the future. Be honest, if you have no desire to explore something you've never tried or have previously tried but abhor, do not be afraid to put it as a hard limit, or list it as a soft limit and it can be discussed before trying. Not all Dommes and slaves enjoy all the same kinks. This list is to state what you have tried, are willing or are not willing to try for the first time or as a repeat. It can always be adjusted in the future. It is not finite.
For each item, you need to provide two answers:
For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity even if only one time, alone or with another. For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5 (if you don’t understand what the item is attempting to describe look it up. Do not leave any blank answers or ?'s.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit) and that you have absolutely no desire to do this.
0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Mistress to do it if it She truly wanted it. (a soft limit). These will always be discussed before doing.
1 means you don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object if it was asked of you.
2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis.
4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible.
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Mistress to know.
Abrasion :
Anal sex (top) :
Anal sex (bottom) :
If so, ever without condoms?:
Anal plugs (small) :
Anal plugs (large) :
Anal plug (public, under clothes):
Animal roles :
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders) :
Asphyxiation :
Ass licking (giving):
Ass licking (receiving):
Bathroom use control :
Beating (soft) :
Beating (hard) :
Bestiality (k9):
Bestiality -other:
Biting:
Being bitten :
Blindfolds :
Ben Wa balls or Kegel Balls:
if yes how long did you wear?
Breath control :
Branding :
Boot worship :
Bondage (light) :
Bondage (heavy) :
Bondage (multi-day) :
Bondage (public, under clothing) :
Brown showers (scat) :
Cages (locked inside of) :
Caning :
Catheterizing :
Cattle prod or stun gun (electrical toy) :
CBT:
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) :
Chains :
Chastity belts :
Clothespins :
if you have had them used where?:
Cock sucking:
Do you swallow?:
Collars (worn in private) :
Collars (worn in public) :
Cuffs (leather) :
Cuffs (metal) :
Diapers (wearing) :
Denied privacy:
describe the denial:
Double Penetration (anal and mouth):
Dildos :
Eating Cunt:
Electricity :
Enemas (for cleansing) :
Enemas (retention/punishment) :
Enforced chastity :
Erotic dance (for audience):
Erotic dance (private) :
Examinations (physical) :
Exercise (forced/required) :
Exhibitionism :
Eye contact restrictions :
Face slapping :
Fantasy rape :
Fear (being scared) :
Fisting (anal) :
Flame (fire play) play :
Foot worship :
Forced masturbation :
Forced nudity (private) :
Forced nudity (around others) :
Forced servitude :
Full head hoods :
Gags (cloth) :
Gags (inflatable) :
Gags (phallic) :
Gags (rubber) :
Gags (tape) :
Gas masks :
Given away to another Mistress (temp) :
Servicing another Mistress upon command:
Golden showers :
Hairbrush spankings :
Hair pulling :
Hand jobs (giving) :
Harnessing (leather and or rope) :
Homage with tongue (non-sexual) :
Hoods :
Hot Creams (Ben-Gay) on genitals:
Hot oils (on genitals) :
Hot waxing :
Housework (doing) :
Human puppy dog :
Humiliation :
Ice cubes :
If you have experienced, where?: (nips, ass)
For impact play list your general answer, then answer for the different types of elements.
Immobilization :
If so, how?
Impact play :
Rough body play (punching, kicking, open hand face slapping, etc.) :
Spanking (hand, paddles, strops, slappers, belts, etc.) :
Caning (batons, canes, sjambok, etc.) :
Flogging (cat-o-nine, galley-whip, quirt, flogger, etc.) :
Single tail (snake-whip, signal-whip, bullwhip, etc.) :
Interrogations :
Leather clothing :
Leather restraints :
Licking (non-sexual) :
Lingerie (wearing) :
Manacles & Irons :
Massage (giving) :
Massage (receiving) :
Medical scenes :
Modeling for erotic photos :
Photographing training sessions with your Mistress:
Mouth bits :
Multi-partners:
Mummification :
Needle Play:
Nipple clamps :
Nipple rings (piercing):
Nipple play/”torture” :
if a type not listed then explain:
Nipple weights :
Obeying verbal commands such as “kneel”, “stand” or “Present.”
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking :
Orgasm denial :
Orgasm control :
Outdoor scenes :
Outdoor sex :
Pain (severe) :
Pain (mild) :
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent) :
Prison scenes :
Punching:
if yes to punching, explain
Punishment Scene :
if yes, describe the scene play
Cock & ball torture:
describe torture:
Restrictive rules on behavior :
Rubber/latex clothing :
Rope body harness :
Role playing:
Saran wrapping :
Sensory deprivation :
Serving as ashtray :
Serving as furniture :
Serving as a maid :
Serving as toilet (urine) :
Serving orally (sexual) :
Serving another Mistress (supervised) :
Serving another Mistress (unsupervised):
Serving others as sex slave:
Shaving (body hair) :
Shaving (head hair) :
Slave positions training:
Sleep deprivation :
Spandex clothing :
Spanking :
Speech restrictions (when, what) :
Spitting :
Spreader bars :
Stocks :
Straight jackets :
Strapping (full body beating) :
Strap-on dildo receiving:
Strap-on dildo giving:
Suspension (upright) :
Suspension (inverted) :
Suspension (horizontal) :
Supplying new partners for Mistress:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine: yours?; others?
Swapping (with one other couple) :
Tattoos:
TENS Unit (electrical toy) :
Tickling :
TPE :
Uniforms :
Verbal humiliation :
Vibrator on genitals :
Violet Wand (electrical toy) :
Voyeurism (watching others) :
Video (watching others) :
Video (recordings of you) :
Waxing (hair removal) :
Whipping :
Wooden paddles :
Wrestling :
1. What are your known hard limits?
(anything listed as a No in part 3 should be listed here)
2. What are your known soft limits?
(anything listed as a 0 in part 3 should be listed here)
3. What are your top three favored?
(OTK spanking, flogging, degradation, CBT, ...etc.)
Part Four: Photos are required
Attach three photos wearing black/white/pink boxer (lace or silk pants, if you're a little/baby or sissy) briefs. you also have the option
to wear a black hood in each photo. 1 photo in humble pose , 1 photo in
wait pose, and 1 photo in expose pose. Make sure the angle is the same as
in the photo to the right.
1. What do you think is your best physical feature?
2. What you think is your worst physical feature?
3. What is your age?
4. What is your height (do not exaggerate)?
5. What is your weight?
6. What is your wingspan? (fingertip to fingertip)
7. What is your reach? (on tip toes to fingertips with hands stretched
as high above you as possible)
Part Five: Dating history
If you have never had training answer with "i am an untrained slave Mistress" and skip to question 7.
1. Prepare a detailed description of your former training. Start at the beginning and take it Mistress by Mistress. Also include any vanilla or non BDSM related relationships.
2. Describe the type of training you received and/ or types of scenes you had.
3. Explain any problems with the relationships, including vanilla or non BDSM related relationships.
4. How long you were trained and what the major thing you learned from each.
5. Describe what you did and did not like about previous training experiences, what you did and did not like about any vanilla or non BDSM related relationships.
6. Describe how your were rewarded and/or punished.
7. Describe any experience you have had as a switch.
8. What has been your most intense scene involved in BDSM?
9. What is your current marital status?
10. Have you been married before?
if yes, very short summary of details what happened, caused it to end:
11. Have you ever been unfaithful to your lover or Mistress?
Describe:
12. Is there any reason why you would not be able to commit 100%?
(past, present or future reason)
13. Are you opposed to your Mistress having more than one pet slave? What about a kennel with multiple pet slaves?
14. Have you ever intentionally made your sex partner or Mistress mad?
If so why:
Circumstances, frequency:
15. Do you freely admit when you have done something wrong and are you prepared for the punishment?
16. Have you ever submitted to a male?
Part Six: Health Issues
1. Do you smoke? If so, amount per day?
2. Do you drink? How often? Amount?
3. Do you use drugs? Prescription? Other drugs?
4. Do you have problems controlling your temper?
5. Have you been in a drug abuse program?
6. Have you been diagnosed with mental problems?
Describe:
7. Do you have any disabilities (visible or invisible)?
Describe:
8. Do you wear glasses or contact lenses?
9. Do you have any special dietary needs or restrictions?
10. What is your diet? (Vegan, Keto, Paleo)
11. Are you allergic to dogs, cats, or other animals?
12. Do you have any sexually transmitted diseases? Can you provide an STD screening report from your doctor?
13. Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
14. Cock size? Measure. Don't guess.
Cut/Uncut
14. Do you have problems reaching orgasm?
15. What is the most you have ever cum in a 24 hour time period?
Describe circumstances.
16. How often do you masturbate and what methods do you use?
17. Are you subject to any form of loss of consciences or seizures?
18. Do you have panic attacks or phobias?
19. Do you now or have you suffered from depression?
20. What was your last illness that resulted in hospitalization and when?
21. Have you had any major surgeries?
22. Do you have any medical conditions?
23. Are you on any medications?
Be aware that simple things such as use of hormone treatments, blood pressure medication, iron deficiencies and similar illness or medications can cause a much higher risk of leaving marks and that no impact play of any kind is completely risk free from leaving marks and sometimes bruises may arise days later when they were not present previously.
Part Seven: How useful are you
DOMESTIC SKILLS:
Describe your abilities in domestic service such as cooking, cleaning, general house-work.
OTHER SKILLS
Describe your abilities at
Massage
Dancing
Computer skills
Bookkeeping
Financial record keeping
Other skills:
Part Eight: The dungeon
1. List sex toys you own and BDSM related toys.
2. List & describe any BDSM related equipment and furniture.
Part Nine: A little more about you
1. Have you violated any law in the past two years?
2. Have you ever been arrested?
Describe:
3. Do you have any strongly felt political beliefs?
Describe:
4. What personality trait of yours do you think your friends like the most?
5. What personality trait of yours do you think your friends like the least?
6. What is your worst habit, i.e., is there anything you do which you wish you could stop doing?
7. Overall, what do you think makes you the sort of person other people want to be around?
8. Title of the last motion picture you saw:
9. What are your musical tastes?
10. What is your current employment? How long?
11. What is your work schedule?
12. Describe your hobbies. What do you do with your time away from work?
13. Describe what social activities you regularly enjoy.
14. Describe your abilities when it comes to handling your personal finances:
15. What are your thoughts about obeying a Mistress’s orders? Are there any situations in which you think you would hesitate to follow your Mistress’s orders?
16. Do you feel that any current or prior religious beliefs will cause you personal conflict with being a slave and obedience?
17. In what areas would you not be willing to defer to your Mistress’s orders? Specifically, control of a slave involves control of his mind. Are there any portions of your thoughts which would be off limits to your Mistress. Explain.
18. Are you willing to enter into an ownership agreement if the chemistry is right? If so, what rights would you, as a slave insist on being part of such a contract?
19.What are your biggest fears about becoming a slave to Mistress?
20.What do you look forward to the most about becoming a slave to Mistress?
21. Are you willing/able to relocate to become a 24/7 slave if Mistress wishes that?
22. Suppose your Mistress does something which strikes you as being absolutely stupid, irresponsible, or asinine, i.e., something that makes you realize that your Mistress has flaws. How do you believe you would handle this? How do you think it might affect your ability to be submissive to your Mistress?
23. Any comments (on any areas) not covered by the questionnaire that you feel are relevant in your case that have not been addressed.)
23. Do you have anything else to add or any questions related to this application?
"Searching for play partners online can feel transactional, like flipping through a catalogue. I've found that the opportunity to dance in conversation with someone for a little bit, to explore a connection based on fit, consent and chemistry, is certainly worth the effort".
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