Restoring Connections Assessment

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We are so encouraged by your willingness to complete the Restoring Connections assessment. It is a helpful tool that will provide insight into your responses and behaviours during the crucial moments that impact your most important relational connections.

Some of the questions may be a little confronting. We ask you to answer them as honestly as you can. It may be helpful when contemplating the question to imagine yourself in a real-life scenario and observe how you think you would most truthfully respond. In saying that, we don't want you to think too long - usually, your first reaction to the question is an accurate evaluation.

At the end of each section, we will provide you with a brief assessment about your results and some advice on how to move forward.
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Are you ready to be completely honest with the important people in your life, including sharing things you may have been hiding?* This field is required.
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Are you ready to discover that you are wrong about some things?* This field is required.
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Are you ready to let go of your pride and allow yourself to be healed?* This field is required.
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Are you ready to take full and absolute responsibility for all of your choices, words and actions?* This field is required.
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Are you ready to embrace your need for intimate, resilient relational connections with others?* This field is required.
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Are you ready to be fully seen and known by others, and to put in the hard yards to understand them in return?* This field is required.
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Are you ready to fight to protect the most important relationships in your life?* This field is required.
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Foundations Calculations
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Based on your responses to the Foundations questions, you are genuinely on your way to nurturing and developing long-lasting and deeply rewarding connections with those most important in your world.

Continue through the assessment while we unpack:

Personal Responsibility
Proactive Care
Powerful Communication and
Healthy Boundaries
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Based on your responses to the Foundations questions, you might need some more time to prepare your heart for the commitment required to apply yourself wholeheartedly to the understanding and tools needed to strengthen your key relationships.

Feel free to carry on through the assessment while we look at 4 key areas that are important for healthy relationships:

Personal Responsibility
Proactive Care
Powerful Communication and
Healthy Boundaries.
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I see positive and negative emotions as being equally important parts of any close relationship* This field is required.
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When something upsets me, I am usually aware of what specific emotion[s] I'm feeling and why* This field is required.
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I take my emotions seriously and include them in my decision making* This field is required.
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I'm curious about who I am, and I see my personal struggles as opportunities to discover more about my true self* This field is required.
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I actively learn about how my personal history and experiences have shaped the way I think, feel and act* This field is required.
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I have a clear sense of what is important to me, and my life is guided by these values* This field is required.
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I take full responsibility for all of my words, actions and choices all the time* This field is required.
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I take full responsibility for my emotional state at all times* This field is required.
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When someone upsets me, I focus on deciding what I will do next rather than dwelling in judgment about what they've done, and anxiety about what they will do next* This field is required.
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When I am in pain, I take unrushed time to process and forgive whoever I need to forgive* This field is required.
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When I've done something I regret, I take unrushed time to process and forgive myself* This field is required.
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When someone has caused me pain, I can assume the highest of their motives and focus on how to move things forward productively* This field is required.
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Personal Responsibility Calculation* This field is required.
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Personal Responsibility is an area of strength for you. This means that when you encounter relationship challenges, you probably tend to:

focus primarily on how your own behaviour has contributed to the state of the relationship

actively look for ways that you can learn, grow, and change through the present challenges

have a clear sense of what you’re feeling and what you need from the other person

and you’re not likely to:

spend your mental and emotional energy on blaming others

believe that you are trapped, powerless, and incapable of moving forward

avoid apologising for your behaviour and committing to change
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Personal Responsibility is an area of potential growth for you.

This means that when a close relationship is under strain, you may tend to:

spend your mental and emotional energy on blaming others

believe that you are trapped, powerless, and incapable of moving forward

avoid apologising for your behaviour and committing to change

and you’re not likely to:

focus primarily on how your own behaviour has contributed to the state of the relationship

actively look for ways that you can learn, grow, and change through the present challenges

have a clear sense of what you’re feeling and what you need from the other person
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I feel free and empowered to decide who are the most important people in my life* This field is required.
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I say no to less important things in order to give most of my attention to the most important relationships in my life* This field is required.
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When I want to strengthen a relationship, I am creative and optimistic about finding ways to actively care for them with the time, money and energy that I have* This field is required.
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I actively and consistently express care for the people who matter most to me, even if they don't have much to give back* This field is required.
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In my important relationships, I feel confident that my need to be cared for and the other person's need to be cared for are equally important and can be met at the same time* This field is required.
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When an important person in my life has caused me pain, I see it as an opportunity to grow my ability to actively care, even when I'm hurt* This field is required.
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I am actively learning about the important people in my life and discovering how to care for them more effectively* This field is required.
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I make time and space for the people I care about to give me feedback and help me understand how to express my care for them more effectively* This field is required.
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When I discover something new about someone I care about, or a way in which my behaviour has negatively impacted them, I work at adjusting my behaviour to better care for them.* This field is required.
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I recognise that in order to feel closely connected to someone, I have emotional needs that need to be met* This field is required.
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When I feel disconnected from someone, I know what I need from them in order to repair and strengthen the connection between us* This field is required.
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When an important relationship is under threat, I lean in emotionally, keeping my heart open and hopeful* This field is required.
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Proactive Care Calculations
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Proactive Care is an area of strength for you.

This means that even when someone’s behaviour causes you to feel hurt, angry, or frustrated, you are still likely to:

remember how important this person is to you, regardless of how they are currently making you feel

focus on learning as much as you can about yourself and the other person through the painful experience

creatively find ways to express care to them in tangible ways that they can feel

and will tend not to:

punish the other person by avoiding any meaningful expression of care for them

distance yourself from the other person emotionally for fear of being hurt again

believe that nothing you can do or say will ever help this person to feel cared for by you
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Proactive Care is an area of potential growth for you.

This means that when navigating feelings of disconnection with someone you care about, you are more likely to:

punish the other person by avoiding any meaningful expression of care for them

distance yourself from the other person emotionally for fear of being hurt again

believe that nothing you can do or say will ever help this person to feel cared for by you

and find it difficult to:

remember how important this person is to you, regardless of how they are currently making you feel
focus on learning as much as you can about yourself and the other person through the painful experience
creatively find ways to express care to them in tangible ways that they can feel
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When an important relationship is strained, I have the courage to communicate face-to-face with the person.* This field is required.
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Before jumping into a sensitive conversation, I forgive, let go of judgments and get myself into a healthy emotional state, ready for a mutually respectful exchange* This field is required.
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In preparation for a sensitive conversation, I take unrushed time to define and rehearse my thoughts, feelings and needs so that I can communicate clearly* This field is required.
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At the start of a sensitive conversation, I make sure that the other person and I are on the same page as to the goal of the conversation* This field is required.
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During a challenging conversation, I intentionally use my facial expressions, tone of voice, and carefully selected words to help the other person feel safe to be honest with me* This field is required.
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If I start feeling confused, trapped, and/or frustrated in a conversation, I start asking questions to pursue clarity and keep the conversation in a healthy space* This field is required.
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When a relationship is strained I can communicate what I'm experiencing and feeling, as well as give the other person space to communicate with me what they are experiencing and feeling* This field is required.
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During a sensitive conversation, I remain clear at all times on which of us is communicating, and which of us is listening and seeking to understand* This field is required.
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When I feel trapped, angry, and/or disrespected, I use self-control to remain calm and offer respectful communication with a soft tone and a kind facial expression* This field is required.
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In my important relationships, I am proactive about establishing clarity and agreement between us on what we can and should expect from each other* This field is required.
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In the process of resolving an issue with someone, I am proactive about establishing clarity and agreement regarding who is apologising to who, and for what exactly* This field is required.
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In the process of resolving an issue with someone, I am proactive about establishing clarity and agreement regarding exactly what we can and should expect from each other going forward* This field is required.
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Powerful Communications Calculations
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Powerful Communication is an area of strength for you.

This means that even when someone’s behaviour causes you to feel hurt, angry, or frustrated, you are still likely to:

focus on truth-telling as a means of moving the relationship forward

spend time genuinely listening to the other person in order to deeply understand them

consider how you can use words, facial expressions, body language and tone to help the other person feel cared for

and will tend not to:

lash out in anger or shut down completely as a means of protecting yourself

believe that the other person will never truly understand you

focus more on being right than building a connection with the other person
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Powerful Communication is an area of potential growth for you.

This means that when navigating feelings of disconnection with someone you care about, you are more likely to:

lash out in anger or shut down completely as a means of protecting yourself

believe that the other person will never truly understand you

focus more on being right than building a connection with the other person

and find it difficult to:

focus on truth-telling as a means of moving the relationship forward

spend time genuinely listening to the other person in order to deeply understand them

consider how you can use words, facial expressions, body language and tone to help the other person feel cared for
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I measure the healthiness of my lifestyle against that of people I admire most, not against cultural norms* This field is required.
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When my life is moving away from my core values and towards chaos, I get curious, proactive, and creative about making changes* This field is required.
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In good times and in hard times, I actively seek out help from others so that I can learn and grow through accountability to people I trust* This field is required.
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Instead of judging people, I put energy into managing myself well so that I can have a healthy level of connection with absolutely anyone, even those I disagree with profoundly* This field is required.
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I like helping people understand exactly what I need from them, so they can choose whether or not they want to change their behaviour to earn my trust* This field is required.
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I realise that the boundaries I need today might not be necessary tomorrow, because I'm learning and growing, and others are too* This field is required.
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I feel free, empowered, and responsible to live my life according to my values and current priorities* This field is required.
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I stick to healthy rhythms, routines and limits for myself to make sure that the most important people in my life always get me at my best* This field is required.
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When necessary, I kindly communicate with others what my boundaries are to foster healthy understanding regarding what they can and should expect from me* This field is required.
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I realise that my needs won't always be met, even by those closest to me, so I plan ahead and determine how I'll manage myself when it happens* This field is required.
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I am proactively building strong connections within a wider community around me, so that when I go through challenging times with individuals, I have others that I can lean into for guidance and practical help* This field is required.
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When my human relationships don't meet my legitimate needs, I turn to an infinite source of power, love, and peace* This field is required.
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Healthy Boundaries Calculations
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Healthy Boundaries are an area of strength for you.

This means that when you encounter relationship challenges, you probably tend to:

exercise your freedom to decide who and what is important to you in this difficult moment

know your own limits and work within them so that you can remind kind and respectful

be comfortable with not being everything to everyone all the time

and you’re not likely to:

allow your own priorities and values to get overridden by the other person’s needs

become confused about your own thoughts, feelings, desires, and concerns

react in frustration or go numb when the other person’s behaviour causes you to feel out of control
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Healthy Boundaries are an area of potential growth for you.

This means that when a close relationship is under strain, you may tend to:

allow your own priorities and values to get overridden by the other person’s needs

become confused about your own thoughts, feelings, desires, and concerns

react in frustration or go numb when the other person’s behaviour causes you to feel out of control

and struggle to:

exercise your freedom to decide who and what is important to you in this difficult moment

know your own limits and work within them so that you can remind kind and respectful

be comfortable with not being everything to everyone all the time
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We hope you found this assessment helpful as a point of encouragement and an indicator of the areas you can work on to improve your close relationships.

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