Rex X test

1

Did this relationship start with a lot of emotion, passion, excitement, suspense, or other powerful feelings?* This field is required.

NOYES

2

When your relationship started, did it involve a “saving the princess”: dynamic, such as rescuing you from a prior bad relationship, poverty, bad parents, etc. – or you rescuing him from such?* This field is required.

NOYES

3

When your relationship started, did your partner share with you any “horror stories” of bad prior relationships (romantic or general)?* This field is required.

NOYES

4

Who seems to give more attention, emotional support and understanding to the other partner?* This field is required.

THEM OR EQUALLYME

5

When a challenging situation arises, who usually comes up with a solution?* This field is required.

THEM ME

6

You are often frustrated with the idea the your partner is not pulling their load as they really should* This field is required.

TRUE FALSE

7

When your partner is being inconsiderate, it is very irritating and upsetting to you* This field is required.

TRUE FALSE

8

Do you feel that your partner needs you primarily because of your support and caretaking, and – in a sense – you came into this relationship in order to help him?* This field is required.

NOYES

9

In your relationship, are you FOR THE MOST PART free to speak your thoughts and opinions, or do you need to maintain caution for fear of criticism?* This field is required.

I can say what I want, as long as I’m ethical

I can get criticized for most innocent statements, so I always think before I share anything – or at least, should.

10

Compare how you interact with your partner in this relationship to your interactions with other people – at school, work, etc. When sharing your thoughts and opinions, do you need to use MORE caution in your relationship (as compared to other people in general) for fear of causing hurt or offense?* This field is required.

No – I don’t see a difference

Yes. My partner can get triggered a lot easier than most people I know

11

Does your partner seem to show less interest in things that other people around you tend to be interested in or excited about?* This field is required.

I can’t say that

Yes. He often finds many things that people get overly excited about trivial and insignificant

12

In general, would it be fair to say that your partner seems to have less interest in what is going on in your life then other people around you UNLESS IT INVOLVES HIS INTERESTS OR PARTICIPATION?* This field is required.

NOYES

13

When you and your partner are having a conversation, is it a frequent occurrence that you’re not able to fully finish what you were saying or explaining and find yourself sidetracked into an entirely different subject?* This field is required.

NOYES

14

If you were to ask your partner “Why did you do this?” would his reaction most commonly be:* This field is required.

To explain his motive

To offer justification for what he did

15

When your partner makes a mistake, is he more likely to:* This field is required.

Admit his mistake

Blame someone else for what happened

16

When you encounter obstacles or challenges in your family life (kids’ behavior, financial issues, conflicts with relatives. etc.), in conclusion, whose fault is it determined to be, in your COLLECTIVE decision:* This field is required.

Can be either one of us

I usually get the blame

17

Are you finding it difficult to maintain friendships, because eventually your partner finds something unacceptable with your friends/relatives behavior and points it out to you?* This field is required.

NOYES

18

Does your partner feel disrespected or singled out by the people around you two (your friends and relatives)?* This field is required.

NOYES

19

When something LEGITIMATELY UPSETTING happens, does your partner usually handle it with grace?* This field is required.

NOYES

20

Do you now have less people in your life (friends, people you keep contact with) then before you entered into this relationship?* This field is required.

NOYES

21

After you and your partner get into an argument, what is the dynamic:* This field is required.

We each take responsibility for saying wrong things and feel bad about hurting each other

What he did is usually made to look small and justifiable, and how I reacted is made to look huge and unacceptable

22

Would you say that your partner always has a need for being the center of attention?* This field is required.

NOYES

23

Does your partner like to talk about his accomplishments, victories or success stories?* This field is required.

NOYES

24

Do you find that you’re the one who cares about other people’s preferences, while your partner insists that everything needs to be kept in the family, and that caring too much about others is unhealthy and borders betrayal and infidelity?* This field is required.

NOYES

25

Does your partner tend to see everything as black and while, with little understanding or tolerance for any gray areas?* This field is required.

NOYES

26

Is it fair to say, that your partner expects loyalty from you, but when it comes to himself, loyalty is an abstract term?* This field is required.

NOYES

27

Would you call your partner an emotionally reactive person (Someone who get triggered easily and/or likes to paly on the feelings of others)?* This field is required.

NOYES

28

Do you feel free in your relationship, or do you often find yourself walking on egg shells?* This field is required.

NOYES

29

How does your partner feel about you being assertive, independent and successful?* This field is required.

He is happy for me and proud to be married to a successful woman

He interprets my assertiveness as a personal threat, and my success as either competition or a statement that he is not worth anything

30

What are the dynamics of when your partner does something nice for you?* This field is required.

We both feel equally good

He has a “now you owe me” attitude – expecting either favors or forgiveness, depending on the situation

31

When your partner is trying to get his way, what is his style of communication?* This field is required.

To offer convincing reasons, arguments or ethical urgings

To just power through by demanding agreement

32

Are you aware of any SIGNIFICANT problems in your partner’s family, upbringing or in his life before he met you (addiction, child abuse, failed relationship prior, etc.)?* This field is required.

NOYES

33

Does your partner pretend he is better at something than he actually is (and/or than you may be) but this is clearly not the truth?* This field is required.

NOYES

34

What fears might hold you back from standing up for yourself effectively?* This field is required.

Hard to say or determine. Need to think about this

Definitely the fear of being too controlling, unfair or insensitive

35

How reliable is your partner? Would you choose him and your primary support if you were sent on dangerous military mission?* This field is required.

Yes, I could trust him

No. He is not that reliable. I trust him, but in difficult situations he loses it and is unpredictable.

36

If you do not reply to his message for a couple hours or do not answer his phone call, how will he respond?* This field is required.

Depends on the situation – like, if he knows that I am busy or the other way around

I will sense tension. Even if he says “no big deal”, I will still sense tension

37

How does your partner take NO for an answer?* This field is required.

It varies and depends on the situation

He is not very good at taking NO for an answer. I try to avoid these situations

38

Who resolves difficult and stressful situations in your family?* This field is required.

We both do it together

Me

39

Score %* This field is required.