My Patterns
Genetics & Evolution
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Core Values
What Do I Value?
201. In a relationship, I want to "FEEL" (Choose 4)
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Accepted
Accomplished
Appreciated
Confident
Content
Enthusiasm
Fearless
Free
Hopeful
Independent
Inspired
Passion
Playful
Respected
Secure
Strong
202. In a relationship, I want to "BE" (Choose 4)
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Adaptable
Assertive
Brave
Curious
Decisive
Dependable
Grateful
Mindful
Objective
Practical
Loyal
Original
Selfless
Spontaneous
Thankful
Thoughtful
203. In a relationship, I want to "HAVE" (Choose 4)
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Ambition
Awareness
Commitment
Courage
Empathy
Faith
Family
Friendship
Humor
Intimacy
Prosperity
Serenity
Stability
Success
Tradition
Vision
204. In a relationship, I want to "SEEK" (Choose 4)
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Adventure
Certainty
Clarity
Connection
Cooperation
Direction
Fairness
Growth
Harmony
Knowledge
Purpose
Simplicity
Status
Tranquility
Variety
Warmth
205. In a relationship, I want to "DEVELOP" (Choose 4)
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Authenticity
Balance
Community
Confidence
Creativity
Discipline
Fairness
Honesty
Humility
Independence
Productivity
Positivity
Resolve
Self-Respect
Significance
Worthiness
206. In a relationship, I want to "SHARE" (Choose 4)
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Community
Companionship
Encouragement
Energy
Enthusiasm
Kindness
Leadership
Motivation
Openness
Organization
Spirituality
Support
Tolerance
Transparency
Truth
Volunteering
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207. How many of the 16 INTROVERT traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Introverted Traits
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208. How many of the 16 EXTROVERT traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Extroverted Traits
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209. How many of the 16 INTUITIVE traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Intuitive Traits
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210. How many of the 16 SENSING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Sensing Traits
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211. How many of the 16 THINKING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Thinking Traits
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212. How many of the 16 FEELING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Feeling Traits
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213. How many of the 16 PERCEIVING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Perceiving Traits
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214. How many of the 16 JUDGING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My JUDGING Traits
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FEELINGS
How I Might Feel
215. In my Romantic Relationships (Pick 2)
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A - I often feel unsure how my partner feels about me; I wish we were “closer”.
B - I feel unsure about letting my partner get too close. I don’t want to be hurt.
C - I feel comfortable to get close to my partner and can easily share and be vulnerable.
D - I like my space and independence. I don’t like others to get too close.
216. In my Romantic Relationships (Pick 2)
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A - I wear my feelings on “my sleeve”. It’s easy to see what I am feeling.
B - I tend to keep my feelings to myself. I don’t want to be too vulnerable.
C - I find it easy to share my feelings; when appropriate.
D - I don’t worry about feelings, I have work to get done.
217. In my Romantic Relationships (Pick 2)
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A - I have a lot of needs, it’s important that I find a supportive partner.
B - I would like to find a supportive partner, but my expectations are low!
C - I am pretty self-sufficient but I also enjoy support from others.
D - I prefer to be self-sufficient. I can take care of myself.
218. In my Romantic Relationships (Pick 2)
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A - I don’t want to be alone, I don’t feel complete unless I am in a relationship.
B - I don’t want to be alone, but I don’t think I’ll ever find the right person.
C - I am comfortable being alone, but am willing to get close with the right person.
D - I am good being alone. People are hard to get along with.
219. In my Romantic Relationships (Pick 2)
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A - I find that I usually love my partner more than they love me.
B - I am never really sure if we love each other or not!
C - I am confident that my partner loves, respects and trusts me!
D - I find that my partner usually loves me more than I love them.
WORDS
What I Might Say
220. What I "might" say... (Pick 2)
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A - They are everything to me, I wouldn’t be able to live without them.
B - I don’t want them to leave, but I can understand why they might want to.
C - I wouldn’t be happy if they left, but I will be fine.
D - I’m not really worried, if they want to leave they can leave.
221. What I "might" say... (Pick 2)
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A - I have a first date tonight, this could be the one!!!
B - I have a first date tonight, but don’t see the point in even going…
C - I have a first date tonight, I wonder what they will be like!
D - I have two first dates tonight, I have to make sure the first one ends at the right time.
222. What I "might" say... (Pick 2)
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A - I’m going to text them right now and find out what’s going on!!
B - I don’t say anything because I don’t want to upset them.
C - I should say something, because it’s starting to bother me.
D - Why even bother saying anything, it will just create drama.
223. What I "might" say... (Pick 2)
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A - I don’t know if they love me…
B - I can’t understand why they would love me.
C - I know they love me, even when we have some conflict!
D - Of course they love me, what’s not to love!
224. What I "might" say... (Pick 2)
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A - I don’t understand why everyone is so distant!!
B - I don’t understand why I feel like everyone is going to hurt me.
C - I don’t understand why so many people have trouble finding a good partner!
D - I don’t understand why everyone is so needy!
CONFLICT
During INTENSE Conflict
225. During intense conflict... (Pick 2)
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A - “Their Fault” - I don’t understand why they won’t be more sensitive to my needs!
B - “My Fault” - I don’t understand what I have done. I don’t know why this keeps happening to me!
C - “Curiosity” - I want to understand the problem so I ask questions to discover more.
D - “Whatever” - I’m tired of all this unnecessary drama. I would rather be working.
226. During intense conflict... (Pick 2)
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A - “Dread” - I think that this might be something that could cause my partner to leave.
B - “Shame” - I am mad at myself as I always seem to do something to screw things up.
C - “Forgiving” - I understand how tough life can be and I know we will work things out.
D - “Frustrated” - I don’t understand what we are even fighting about. This is all so stupid!
227. During intense conflict... (Pick 2)
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A - “Tears” - I often get emotional. My partner doesn’t seem to hear or understand me.
B - “Passive” - I go pretty quiet. I don’t know what to say and don’t want to make it worse!
C - “Forthright” - I communicate openly and honestly. My partner knows what I am saying.
D - “Detached” - I focus on the facts and try to take the emotions out.
228. During intense conflict... (Pick 2)
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A - “Distress” - I can easily feel overwhelmed. Conflict creates significant stress and confusion for me.
B - “Guilt” - I feel bad about what is happening and just want the conflict to stop.
C - “Genuine” - I feel comfortable continuing the conversation and accept my part in what is happening.
D - “Distant” - I am confused as to why this is still a conversation. I would rather be golfing.
229. During intense conflict... (Pick 2)
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A - “Heartache” - I would be devastated if the relationship ended.
B - “Worried” - If it ends, I don’t know how I would find anyone else.
C - “Accepting” - I’m pretty sure we will work this out. Let’s keep trying.
D - “Cold” - I’m not too worried if it ends. I can find someone else.
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Self
230. I know my Core Values, and I use them as a guide to keep myself in “alignment” with the world.
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231. I am confident and I believe in myself. I have a desire to grow and change.
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232. I consciously direct my attention away from autopilot and I live my life in the present.
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233. I can easily share my thoughts and feelings. I always feel comfortable and do not “walk on eggshells” in any way.
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234. I communicate well. I actively listen, I have an open mind and I am willing to listen to both sides of the topic.
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234Y Awareness - Self
Others
235. I easily see things from the perspective of others and I can be vulnerable and respond to others accordingly.
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236. I show compassion to others by offering forgiveness for their flaws and accepting them as they are.
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237. I easily show appreciation and go out of my way to be supportive, kind, respectful and trusting of others.
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238. I can easily let go of my ego and accept my flaws. I don’t get defensive or take things personally.
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239. I am grateful for all that I have and for all of the great people in my life.
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239Y Awareness - Others
Relationships
240. I am both comfortable with and have a desire for affection in my relationships. (Touching, vulnerability etc.)
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241. I am a good companion and partner. (Open minded, flexible, vulnerable, fair, sincere etc.)
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242. I provide unconditional acceptance and care. Opinions, thoughts & feelings are accepted & validated.
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243. I am good at noticing the good things about myself, my partner, the people around us and life in general.
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244. I find it easy being raw and open about my thoughts and feelings.
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244Y Awareness - Relationships
Growth
245. I take the time to recognize and understand my own flaws and I am taking steps to improve on the ones I can.
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246. I take responsibility for who I am, where I am at and my path to getting here. I don’t “blame” anyone.
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247. I accept myself and others for where we are at, I hold no judgements and carry no “baggage”.
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248. I feel that I can easily be respectfully transparent with others about who I am, how I think and what I feel.
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249. I am very good at following through with my commitments both to others and to myself.
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249Y Awareness - Growth
249Z Awareness - TOTAL
250. MY ACES Score (How many questions that I answered YES to)
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How many YES's
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251. Abandonment
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252. Alienation
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253. Defectiveness
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254. Dependence
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255. Emotional Deprivation
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256. Entitlement
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257. Failure
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258. Mistrust
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259. Perfectionism
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260. Self-Sacrifice
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261. Subjugation
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262. Openness
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263. Conscientiousness
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264. Extroversion
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265. Agreeableness
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266. Neuroticism
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267. Avoider
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268. Controller
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269. Hyper-Achiever
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270. Hyper-Rational
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271. Hyper-Vigilant
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272. Pleaser
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273. Restless
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274. Stickler
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275. Victim
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