My Patterns
Genetics & Evolution
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Core Values
What Do I Value?
201. In a relationship, I want to "FEEL" (Choose 4)
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Accepted
Accomplished
Appreciated
Confident
Content
Enthusiasm
Fearless
Free
Hopeful
Independent
Inspired
Passion
Playful
Respected
Secure
Strong
202. In a relationship, I want to "BE" (Choose 4)
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Adaptable
Assertive
Brave
Curious
Decisive
Dependable
Grateful
Mindful
Objective
Practical
Loyal
Original
Selfless
Spontaneous
Thankful
Thoughtful
203. In a relationship, I want to "HAVE" (Choose 4)
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Ambition
Awareness
Commitment
Courage
Empathy
Faith
Family
Friendship
Humor
Intimacy
Prosperity
Serenity
Stability
Success
Tradition
Vision
204. In a relationship, I want to "SEEK" (Choose 4)
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Adventure
Certainty
Clarity
Connection
Cooperation
Direction
Fairness
Growth
Harmony
Knowledge
Purpose
Simplicity
Status
Tranquility
Variety
Warmth
205. In a relationship, I want to "DEVELOP" (Choose 4)
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Authenticity
Balance
Community
Confidence
Creativity
Discipline
Fairness
Honesty
Humility
Independence
Productivity
Positivity
Resolve
Self-Respect
Significance
Worthiness
206. In a relationship, I want to "SHARE" (Choose 4)
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Community
Companionship
Encouragement
Energy
Enthusiasm
Kindness
Leadership
Motivation
Openness
Organization
Spirituality
Support
Tolerance
Transparency
Truth
Volunteering
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207. How many of the 16 INTROVERT traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Introverted Traits
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208. How many of the 16 EXTROVERT traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Extroverted Traits
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209. How many of the 16 INTUITIVE traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Intuitive Traits
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210. How many of the 16 SENSING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Sensing Traits
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211. How many of the 16 THINKING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Thinking Traits
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212. How many of the 16 FEELING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Feeling Traits
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213. How many of the 16 PERCEIVING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My Perceiving Traits
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214. How many of the 16 JUDGING traits shown in the boxes below do you feel that you might have? (Write the number in the box below)
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My JUDGING Traits
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215. I feel comfortable asking for what I need without feelings of guilt or fear.
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216. I believe I’m worthy of love, even when I make mistakes.
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217. I find it easy to trust people unless they give me a reason not to.
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218. I feel safe getting emotionally close to others.
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219. Being in a relationship feels calming. My relationships are "peaceful".
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219Y Attachment S Total
220. I often need reassurance that I’m loved or wanted.
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221. I overthink things when someone pulls away or goes quiet.
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222. I worry that I might be “too much” for people emotionally.
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223. I feel afraid that the people I care about might leave me.
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224. I sometimes feel like I care more than the other person does.
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224Y Attachment A Total
225. I sometimes convince myself someone doesn’t really care — just so I can pull away first.
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226. I’ve ended or sabotaged relationships that felt “too good” because it scared me.
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227. When someone is kind or nice to me, I question whether or not it is real — it almost feels threatening.
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228. I question whether I deserve real love, even though I desperately want it.
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229. I swing between wanting deep connection and suddenly needing distance — and it confuses even me.
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229Y Attachment F Total
230. I prefer to handle things on my own, even when I’m struggling.
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231. I don’t like depending on others — it makes me feel uncomfortable.
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232. I avoid opening up because I don’t want to feel vulnerable.
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233. I feel smothered when someone wants too much closeness.
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234. I often act like I don’t care just to keep my space.
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234Y Attachment D Total
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Self
230. I know my Core Values, and I use them as a guide to keep myself in “alignment” with the world.
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231. I am confident and I believe in myself. I have a desire to grow and change.
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232. I consciously direct my attention away from autopilot and I live my life in the present.
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233. I can easily share my thoughts and feelings. I always feel comfortable and do not “walk on eggshells” in any way.
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234. I communicate well. I actively listen, I have an open mind and I am willing to listen to both sides of the topic.
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234Y Awareness - Self
Others
235. I easily see things from the perspective of others and I can be vulnerable and respond to others accordingly.
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236. I show compassion to others by offering forgiveness for their flaws and accepting them as they are.
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237. I easily show appreciation and go out of my way to be supportive, kind, respectful and trusting of others.
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238. I can easily let go of my ego and accept my flaws. I don’t get defensive or take things personally.
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239. I am grateful for all that I have and for all of the great people in my life.
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239Y Awareness - Others
Relationships
240. I am both comfortable with and have a desire for affection in my relationships. (Touching, vulnerability etc.)
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241. I am a good companion and partner. (Open minded, flexible, vulnerable, fair, sincere etc.)
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242. I provide unconditional acceptance and care. Opinions, thoughts & feelings are accepted & validated.
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243. I am good at noticing the good things about myself, my partner, the people around us and life in general.
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244. I find it easy being raw and open about my thoughts and feelings.
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244Y Awareness - Relationships
Growth
245. I take the time to recognize and understand my own flaws and I am taking steps to improve on the ones I can.
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246. I take responsibility for who I am, where I am at and my path to getting here. I don’t “blame” anyone.
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247. I accept myself and others for where we are at, I hold no judgements and carry no “baggage”.
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248. I feel that I can easily be respectfully transparent with others about who I am, how I think and what I feel.
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249. I am very good at following through with my commitments both to others and to myself.
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249Y Awareness - Growth
249Z Awareness - TOTAL
250. MY ACES Score (How many questions that I answered YES to)
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How many YES's
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251. Abandonment
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252. Alienation
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253. Defectiveness
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254. Dependence
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255. Emotional Deprivation
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256. Entitlement
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257. Failure
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258. Mistrust
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259. Perfectionism
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260. Self-Sacrifice
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261. Subjugation
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262. Openness
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263. Conscientiousness
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264. Extroversion
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265. Agreeableness
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266. Neuroticism
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267. Avoider
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268. Controller
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269. Hyper-Achiever
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270. Hyper-Rational
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271. Hyper-Vigilant
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272. Pleaser
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273. Restless
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274. Stickler
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275. Victim
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