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Do I have insecurities that are impacting my life and relationships?
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1 - Self-Talk / Inner Dialogue
How we speak to ourselves will reveal how we see ourselves. Self-esteem lives in our internal narratives.
1. When I make a mistake, I tend to criticize myself harshly.
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False - I have Self Compassion
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True - I am hard on myself.
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0 is False - I have Self Compassion, 5 is True - I am hard on myself.
2. I often compare myself to others and I feel inferior?
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False - I don't compare myself to others.
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True - I feel that others are doing better than I am.
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0 is False - I don't compare myself to others. , 5 is True - I feel that others are doing better than I am.
3. I feel that I always need to "prove" myself to others.
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False - I feel like others value me.
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True - I don't feel like I am "enough".
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0 is False - I feel like others value me. , 5 is True - I don't feel like I am "enough".
4. I have trouble accepting compliments.
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False - I can easily say thank you!
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True - I usually dismiss them.
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0 is False - I can easily say thank you!, 5 is True - I usually dismiss them.
My Self-Talk Total
2 - Response to Failure/Criticism
Emotionally secure people can separate their worth from their performance. This is a powerful marker of healthy self-concept.
5. I easily become defensive or shut down when someone gives me critical feedback?
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False - I am good at receiving feedback and being curious.
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True - I tend to get defensive and feel "triggered".
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0 is False - I am good at receiving feedback and being curious. , 5 is True - I tend to get defensive and feel "triggered".
6. I avoid trying new things out of fear of failing, not fitting in, or not being good enough?
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False - I am very adventurous.
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True - I avoid doing new things.
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0 is False - I am very adventurous., 5 is True - I avoid doing new things.
7. After something goes wrong, I have trouble bouncing back and being happy again.
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False - I can quickly recover and feel content again.
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True - I tend to go into a negative spiral.
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0 is False - I can quickly recover and feel content again. , 5 is True - I tend to go into a negative spiral.
8. I view mistakes as a sign that I have failed.
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False - I view mistakes as an opportunity for growth!
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True - When I make mistakes I feel I am not good enough.
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0 is False - I view mistakes as an opportunity for growth!, 5 is True - When I make mistakes I feel I am not good enough.
My Failure/Criticism Total
3 - Decision-Making / Independence
Confidence in your own voice, values, and choices shows self-trust. Insecurity often leads to dependence or chronic self-doubt.
9. I have trouble making decisions.
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False - I am good at making decisions.
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True - I fear being wrong or being judged!
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0 is False - I am good at making decisions. , 5 is True - I fear being wrong or being judged!
10. I find myself second guessing my decisions.
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False - I trust my instincts!
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True - I often wonder if I am doing the right thing.
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0 is False - I trust my instincts!, 5 is True - I often wonder if I am doing the right thing.
11. I am uncomfortable being alone.
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False - I enjoy time by myself!
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True - I struggle being alone.
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0 is False - I enjoy time by myself!, 5 is True - I struggle being alone.
12. I worry that I will never be content in life.
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False - I have inner peace, I will be okay!
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True - I worry that I will never be happy.
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0 is False - I have inner peace, I will be okay!, 5 is True - I worry that I will never be happy.
My Decision Making Total
4 - Emotional Regulation and Coping
Your ability to feel, process, and manage emotions without avoidance or overwhelm is a key sign of internal security.
13. It's easy for me to feel overwhelmed.
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False - I am free of anxiety!
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True - I am full of anxiety!
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0 is False - I am free of anxiety!, 5 is True - I am full of anxiety!
14. I often suppress or avoid my difficult emotions.
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False - I feel free to deal with my emotions.
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True - I hide my real emotions from others.
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0 is False - I feel free to deal with my emotions. , 5 is True - I hide my real emotions from others.
15. During conflict I either lash out or avoid.
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False - I am calm and secure during conflict.
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True - I often react in ways that create more pain.
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0 is False - I am calm and secure during conflict. , 5 is True - I often react in ways that create more pain.
16. I have trouble dealing with emotional discomfort.
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False - I can easily process my emotions effectively.
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True - I have trouble dealing with discomfort.
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0 is False - I can easily process my emotions effectively. , 5 is True - I have trouble dealing with discomfort.
My Emotional Regulation Total
5 - Relationships
Emotional security is often formed (or damaged) in relationships. Feeling secure, valued, and respected is essential to healthy self-esteem.
17. I feel uncomfortable expressing what I really feel.
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False - I feel free to express my true feelings in a relationship.
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True - I often "walk on eggshells" and keep my feelings to myself.
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0 is False - I feel free to express my true feelings in a relationship. , 5 is True - I often "walk on eggshells" and keep my feelings to myself.
18. I am not good at setting boundaries.
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False - I am good at setting and enforcing healthy boundaries.
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True - I have trouble setting and enforcing healthy boundaries.
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0 is False - I am good at setting and enforcing healthy boundaries. , 5 is True - I have trouble setting and enforcing healthy boundaries.
19. I often wonder if I am good enough for a healthy relationship.
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False - I am confident that I deserve a great relationship.
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True - I often wonder if I am good enough for a great partner.
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0 is False - I am confident that I deserve a great relationship. , 5 is True - I often wonder if I am good enough for a great partner.
20. I often feel taken advantage of in a relationship.
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False - I feel that my relationships have great "balance".
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True - I feel that i give far more than I get.
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0 is False - I feel that my relationships have great "balance". , 5 is True - I feel that i give far more than I get.
My Relationships Total
My Mini Assessment Total
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