When We Are Not Getting Along:

When We Are Not Getting Along:

My Feelings, Thoughts, and Behaviors
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Select all the statements that reflect the way you feel or what you do when you and your partner are fighting or not getting along.
I criticizeI attackI blameI defendI analyzeI rationalizeI get quietI become cold or aloofI clam upI withdrawI avoid conflictI leaveOther
ScaredAfraidHurtVulnerableWorried or nervousDisappointedLet downSadAlone or lonelyHopelessDown or depressedEmpthyDisconnectedIsolatedIgnoredShut out or pushed awayRejectedAbandonedMisunderstoodPartner is never there for meFrustratedAngryLike getting backLike protecting myselfGuardedClinging to my partnerFlooded with emotionUnable to calm myself downOverwhlemedConfusedUnable to focus my thoughtsNumbI have trouble putting thoughts into wordsSmootheredIt's always my faultJudgedBlamed or criticizedPut downI don't know what I have doneAnalyzedInvalidatedDiscounetedAttackedControlledIntimidatedDismissed or "blown off"Uncared for or unwantedUnlovableUnattracitveUnimportantInadequateSmall or insignificantI don't matterI've failed
My heart speed upTense somewhere in my bodyUneasy in my stomachTightness in my throatPressure in my chest
I often want to avoid talking about our relationshipDuring an argument, I become silent, withdraw and don't want to discuss thingsMy partner often pushes an issue and won't let it dropI often want to push my partner to talk about our relationshipI often get angry and critical to get my partner to talkMy partner withdraws a lot and own't face an issue when I want to talk
Should be Empty:

When We Are Not Getting Along:

Select all the statements that reflect the way you feel or what you do when you and your partner are fighting or not getting along.