Intimacy for Life Marriage Assessment

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Please indicate how you rank your relationship in the following categories.
The questions are scaled from 1 as the lowest to 5 as the highest.
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1. To what degree are you experiencing your partner as safe and secure emotionally:* This field is required.
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2. To what degree are you experiencing your partner as safe and secure physically:* This field is required.
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3. To what degree are you experiencing your partner as safe and secure spiritually:* This field is required.
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4. To what degree do you experience your partner as loving toward you:* This field is required.
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5. To what degree do you experience your partner as accepting of you:* This field is required.
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6. To what degree do you experience your partner as available for you:* This field is required.
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7. To what degree do you experience your partner as responsive to you with your needs and wants:* This field is required.
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8. To what degree do you feel you understand your partner:* This field is required.
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9. To what degree do you feel your partner understands you:* This field is required.
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10. To what degree are you aware of your areas of vulnerabilities and sensitivities:* This field is required.
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11. To what degree are you aware of your partner’s areas of vulnerabilities and sensitivities:* This field is required.
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12. To what degree do you communicate openly to resolve areas of issues, conflicts and challenges in your relationship:* This field is required.
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13. To what degree do you help one another with each other’s issues:* This field is required.
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14. To what degree do you acknowledge your mistakes to your partner:* This field is required.
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15. To what degree does your partner acknowledge their mistakes to you:* This field is required.
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16. To what degree do you listen to your partner:* This field is required.
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17. To what degree does your partner listen to you:* This field is required.
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18. How would you rank your ability as a couple to have decision-making/resolve in conflicts?* This field is required.
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19. To what degree do you share openly and vulnerably with your partner:* This field is required.
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20. To what degree does your partner share openly and vulnerably with you:* This field is required.
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21. To what degree do you feel that you as a couple have regular, consistent conversations to stay on the same page with parenting, finances, home management, and/or calendar planning:* This field is required.
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22. To what degree do you prioritize time away just for the “us”:* This field is required.
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23. To what degree do you have mutual ways of finding enjoyment and fun together:* This field is required.
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24. To what degree do you have physical expressions of comfort and care in your relationship:* This field is required.
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25. To what degree do you experience fulfillment in your sexual relationship:* This field is required.
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26. To what degree do you share a conjoint purpose/meaning in your relationship:* This field is required.
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27. To what degree do you have shared spiritual practices, such as but not limited to, prayer, worship, service, discussions, or church attendance:* This field is required.
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TOTAL:* This field is required.RESULTS ON NEXT PAGE
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RESULTS:

113-145: Congratulations! You have scored in the highest level of connection in your marriage. There are many things that are going well in your relationship. As things are never perfect, you can continue to build your regular rhythms of maintaining this intimate bond and continual growth in the categories listed while strengthening in the areas that show a healthy foundation. You can benefit from the principles spelled out in my book, “Naked and Exposed: Learning to Love Well Using the Intimacy For Life Method In Your Marriage.”

83-112: You have scored in the mild level category of distress in your marriage. As all marriages experience this from time to time, this is definitely time to begin addressing the area of challenges in your marriage. Leaving these unaddressed will continually see a slippery slope of the reduction of intimacy in your marriage. My book, “Naked and Exposed: Learning to Love Well Using the Intimacy For Life Method in Your Marriage,” will be an excellent resource for you to begin this journey. Many couples are able to do this on their own, but if not, I would recommend reaching out for a Free Consultation to discuss your unique challenges in your relationship and how to get to the place in your marriage that you desire.

53-82: You have scored in the moderate level category of distress in your marriage. You have either been experiencing distress for a while or have a recent crisis resulting in a decline. Either way, you are in a risky category that could result in a continual decline if not addressed. Staying in this place for long periods of time is a predictor of relationship dissatisfaction, erosion of intimacy, and predictors of possible divorce. My book, “Naked and Exposed: Learning to Love Well Using the Intimacy For Life Method in Your Marriage,” will be an excellent support resource. However, I would highly recommend that we get on a Free Consultation to discuss how we can partner together on this journey to help get your marriage back on track.

52 and below: You have scored in the severe level category of distress in your marriage. I am glad you are here and have taken this first step. It is highly recommended that you reach out for a Free Consultation to begin addressing the distress in your marriage with professional help. Getting immediate intervention can bring some quick relief in your marriage from the patterns and pain that are currently in the relationship. Although my book, “Naked and Exposed: Learning to Love Well Using the Intimacy For Life Method in Your Marriage,” is a great resource, it is highly unlikely that the principles in the book will not be sufficient to arrest the decline in the relationship bond. I am here for you on this journey and would like to partner with you to help you quickly find your road to remediation, health, and healing.
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