Are You in a Toxic Relationship?
Let's find out . . .
Does your partner give you the benefit of the doubt? (Click the question for an example!)
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Does your partner weaponize things you have told him in the past? (Click the question for an example!)
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Does your partner hold things against you? (Click the question for an example!)
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Does it ever feel scary or unsafe to express how you feel because you fear he will have a big emotional reaction and it just isn’t worth the fight?
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Does it seem like he doesn’t much care about how you feel or what you may need?
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Do you try to talk to him about something he’s done to upset you, and he turns it around and makes it about you? (Click the question for an example!)
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Does it feel like you have to ask his permission to do things?
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Does he tell you who you can and can’t spend time with?
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Does he tell you what to wear or what pictures of yourself you’re allowed to post on social media?
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Do you feel uneasy in leaning on him for support?
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Does it feel like it’s your job to regulate his emotions?
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Is he nasty or disrespectful to you? Does he roll his eyes at you when you speak, especially in the presence of others?
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When he’s angry does he freeze you out and refuse to speak to you?
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Does your relationship feel more adversarial than collaborative?
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When you argue, is the winner the person who says the meanest, cruelest thing possible to hurt the other person?
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Do you have to gauge his mood before talking with him? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells trying to not make him mad?
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Does it feel like there’s more negative about the relationship than positive?
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Does the fact that you’re taking this quiz mean you already know it isn’t working?
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This is your score! Write this number down for reference in the next step.
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Important Note
This is not a diagnostic tool. If you suspect you may be in an abusive relationship, please seek help immediately. You can find the National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org/
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