Self -Compassion

Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with your personal failings. You may try to change in ways that allow you to be healthier and happier, but this is done because you care about yourself, not because you feel are worthless or unacceptable as you are. Having compassion for yourself means that you honor and accept your humanness. Things will not always go the way you want them to. You will encounter frustrations, losses will occur, you will make mistakes, come up against your limitations, and fall short of your ideals. But this is the human condition.

Please read each statement carefully before answering. For each item, indicate how often you behave in the stated manner, using the scale of options.

1. When I fail at something important to me, I become consumed by feelings of inadequacy.*

2. I try to be understanding and patient towards those aspects of my personality I don’t like.*

3. When something painful happens, I try to take a balanced view of the situation.*

4. When I’m feeling down, I tend to feel like most other people are probably happier than I am.*

5. I try to see my failings as part of the human condition.*

6. When I’m going through a very hard time, I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.*

7. When something upsets me I try to keep my emotions in balance.*

8. When I fail at something that’s important to me, I tend to feel alone in my failure.*

9. When I’m feeling down I tend to obsess and fixate on everything that’s wrong.*

10. When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people.*

11. I’m disapproving and judgmental about my own flaws and inadequacies.*

12. I’m intolerant and impatient towards those aspects of my personality I don’t like.*

Calculation

SELF COMPASSION