Am I a lesbian?

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1. Are you friendships with women often INTENSE?

Heck noMaybe?OMG yes!My bestie is basically my wife

CORRECT ANSWER: If you answered yes, you might not be straight. Women who come out later in life tend to have a pattern of very intense female friendships. Another clue is if you have found yourself feeling jealous of your friend's husband or boyfriend.

2. Were you not especially interested in dating or sex in high school/college?

I was boy crazy!Sure, I dated guysI dated, but I wasn't feelin' itUgh, not interested in dating AT ALL

CORRECT ANSWER: Women who aren't straight often report that they dated guys to fit in during their youth, or failed to see why their friends were so boy-crazy.

3. When you found your brother's secret stash of Playboy mags, what did you do?

Gross, I tossed them in disgust!I read the articlesI was FASCINATEDUm, I stole them and kept them for myself!

CORRECT ANSWER: A little curiousity is pretty normal for straight girls, but if you were obsessed, kept coming back to those images, or felt stimulated by them, you might not be straight.

4. Do you fantasize about women when you're having sex with your husband? (Be honest!)

NOPENot reallyOccassionallyPretty much every time, yes

CORRECT ANSWER: If fantasizing about women is pretty much what gets you through having sex with your husband or boyfriend, you might not be straight.

5. Are you a huge ally to the LGBTQIA+ community?

I am not a fan of the Alphabet MafiaNot really, don't careYes! Love is loveHeck, I'm on the Pride Committee!

CORRECT ANSWER: Often times, women who aren't straight and still not totally aware of their authentic sexuality show up as very strong allies to the LGBTQIA+ community.

6. Thinking of your all-timer fave movies and TV shows, do you love them because you're a big fan of one of the female characters?

No, I watch for the plot and production valueIt's not the ONLY reason I watch...Yes! She makes the whole show!I'm totally crushing on the female lead

CORRECT ANSWER: If you find yourself strongly admiring or even secretly crushing on the female lead in your favorite show, you might not be straight.

7. Scenario: Your husband/boyfriend suggests a threesome with you and another woman. How do you respond?

No thank youI mean, I'll think about itYes! How about this weekend?Yes, but can my husband not be there?

CORRECT ANSWER: In straight relationships, couples sometimes lean into threesomes or group sex to keep the femal partner engaged in sexual activity.

8. Do you secretly watch lesbian porn, or focus on the woman when watching straight porn?

I don't watch pornI focus on the man in the sceneI focus on everyone in the sceneI focus on the woman in the scene

CORRECT ANSWER: If you're watching lesbian porn to satisfy your sexual desires, you might not be straight.

9. Is your TikTok or Instagram algorithm showing you a lot of lesbian content?

What's TikTok?Not reallyYeah, I see lesbian content in my feedI follow the hashtag #lesbian

CORRECT ANSWER: The algorithms don't like: social media feeds will show you more of the kinds of content you're interested in.

10. Do you and your husband/boyfriend admire women together?

No way, I'd be jealous!We've never done thatHa ha! No but sounds like fun!Oh yeah, it's practically a sport for us

CORRECT ANSWER: Admiring other women with your husband gives permission to you both to express sexual desire for other women.

11. How many quizzes about figuring out your sexuality have you taken?

This is my first!A coupleOk, a lot!Every quiz I could find

CORRECT ANSWER: Surprise! It doesn't matter!

There is no online quiz that can put a label on you, because the only person who gets to decide your sexual orientation is YOU.

Need help on this journey? If you find yourself wondering if you aren't straight, there is some helpful info and resources available here.

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