RED FLAG QUIZ2

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1. What is your age range? (Red flags and abuse can happen at any age, though it may take different forms.)

15-20 years old

20-30 years old

30-40 years old

40-50 years old

50+ years old

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2. Does your partner usually plan the activities you do together, without much input from you? (Normally doing activities together that they want to do, and rarely doing or participating in activities you'd like to do)

YES

NO

3

3. Does it seem like your partner has been the unfortunate "victim" in all of their failed relationships?

YES

NO

4

4. Does your partner speak badly about their former partners?

YES

NO

5

5. Has your partner ever yelled at you, put you down, or belittled you at home or in public?

YES

NO

6

6. Do most of the arguments with your partner remain unresolved or keep repeating?

YES

NO

7

7. Does your partner call you names during heated disagreements?

YES

NO

8

8. Has your partner ever behaved in a way that frightened you?

YES

NO

9

9. Does your partner fail to take responsibility when they've done something wrong or have hurt your feelings?

YES

NO

10

10. Has your partner ever kept pushing you to do something you're not comfortable with, even after you've said "No"?

YES

NO

11

11. Has your partner ever accused you of cheating (when you haven't) or are they extremely jealous?

YES

NO

12

12. Have there been times when your partner does or says something that catches you off guard, throws you off balance or "feels wrong" but you don't exactly know why?

YES

NO

13

13. Does your partner ever give you the "silent treatment" or go out of their way to ignore you?

YES

NO

14

14. Does your partner make negative or biased statements about you, the opposite sex or groups of people? (Examples might be: "All women are crazy!" or "You're unstable" or "All men are pigs!")

YES

NO

15

15. Does your partner adhere to strict gender norms? (Example: Doing dishes or taking care of the kids is "women's work" or that men do the yard work, etc.)

YES

NO

16

16. Does your relationship feel like a "roller-coaster ride" with no stability?

YES

NO

17

17. Does your partner lie to you about money, drug/alcohol use or people they are spending time with?

YES

NO

18

18. Does your partner make statements like, "I never did that" or "I never said that" when they actually DID?

YES

NO

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19. Do you feel confused, sad or depressed in your relationship or after spending time with your partner?

YES

NO

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20. Do you feel like your partner has double-standards? (They are allowed to do something, but you aren't)

YES

NO

21

21. Does your partner's personality change when you are with other people vs. when you are home together with no one else around? (Is mean to you at home and loving and doting in public)

YES

NO

22

TOTAL NUMBER OF RED FLAGS (1-20)