R.E.F.R.E.S.H. Assessment by Ashes Redeemed

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Are you a Christian woman who has experienced betrayal in her marriage?This may include the discovery of a husband's extramarital affair, emotional infidelity, or habitual pornography use...
YESNO
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What was the nature of the betrayal?* This field is required.Check all that apply
Extramarital affair
Emotional infidelity
Pornography
Something else
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To better understand your situation, please tell us specifically how long has it been since you discovered this?* This field is required.If there have been multiple revelations, please indicate how long it has been since the initial discovery
Within the last 12 months
Between 1-3 years
More than three years ago
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Which of these is your biggest concern at this time?Select the option that best describes your main worries right now
Choose one
Choose one
The immediate aftershock of discovery
Deciding whether to stay or go
Old wounds of betrayal still impacting my sense of confidence & wellbeing
None of these
5
What things have you tried already to resolve this issue?Check all that apply
Counseling (pastoral, spiritual)
Clinical counseling
Couple's counseling
Books/podcasts
Something else
Nothing so far
6
How much support do you have available to you at this time?
Unsure
I have little to no support
I have some support
I’m confident I have all the support I need
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Which of these (if any) are you currently experiencing?Check all that apply
Ruminating on the betrayal
Difficulty eating or sleeping
Trouble focusing on the task at hand
Strained relationships
I feel like my world is spinning
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Given your current circumstances, what is the best case scenario you're hoping to achieve?The more you share with us, the more detailed your assessment will be.
Huge
Large
Normal
Small
Ok
Ok
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What is the worst case scenario you're hoping to avoid?The more you share with us, the more detailed your assessment will be.
Huge
Large
Normal
Small
Ok
Ok
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Do any of these sound like you?
I feel like I should be further along in my healing than I am
I often think about leaving my marriage
I desire to reconcile my marriage if possible
I've forgiven my husband in my "head" but don't always feel this way in my "heart"
I have regret for things that I've said or done in my marriage
I feel partially responsible for my husband's actions
I have engaged in an affair myself (emotional, physical)
My husband has already abandoned the marriage
I am divorced or currently in the process of divorcing
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Which of these areas of your life are a priority for you?
Sense of confidence & self-worth
Body image
My faith
Feeling OK about sex again
Setting boundaries
Planning for my future
Overall health & wellbeing
12
Which of the following best describes you?
I consider myself a Christian and align with most/all traditional Christian beliefs
I do not consider myself a follower of the Christian faith
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Understandably, even among those in the Christian faith there can be a wide variety of perspectives and interpretations when it comes to marriage, sex, and betrayal. For transparency, the perspective from which we support women is as follows:

Our Beliefs

Marriage is used throughout the Bible as a reflection of Christ’s relationship to the Church itself (Ephesians 5:32).

We believe that God has commanded that no intimate sexual activity be engaged in outside of a marriage between a man and a woman.

Furthermore, we believe that God intends sexual intimacy to occur between a man and a woman who are married to each other (1 Cor. 6:18; 7:2-5; Heb. 13:4).

Just as adoption points us to a deeper understanding of all believers being adopted into God’s family through Christ, biblical marriage and families point us to a deeper understanding of the Church as the bride of Christ.

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Are you someone who is in agreement with the previous statements?
YESNO
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On a scale of 1-10, how important is it to you to get the clarity you need to make a decision about your marriage that you feel good about?
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2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
Not Important
Extremely Important
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Email Address* This field is required.Where should we send your results?
example@example.com
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Name* This field is required.
First Name
Last Name
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Would you like someome from our team to personally reach out to you via emailregarding support options for your situation?
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