Adult Attachment Questionnaire: Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised (ECR-R)

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INSTRUCTIONS

The statements in this assessment explore how you feel in an emotionally intimate relationship.

You can answer the questions thinking of close relationships in general OR you can use them to focus on a particular relationship.

For example, you can think of your relationship with your current romantic partner, romantic partners in general, your mother or father, your best friend, or friends in general.

You can take the assessment multiple times thinking of different relationshps to understand how your relationship styles may vary.

When answering, choose a number between 1 to 7 to indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement.

All responses are confidential.
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1. I'm afraid that I will lose my partner's love.* This field is required.
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2. I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me.* This field is required.
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3. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me.* This field is required.
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4. I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as much as I care about them. * This field is required.
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5. I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or her.* This field is required.
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6. I worry a lot about my relationships. * This field is required.
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7. When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she might become interested in someone else. * This field is required.
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8. When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I'm afraid they will not feel the same about me.* This field is required.
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9. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me.* This field is required.
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10. My romantic partner makes me doubt myself.* This field is required.
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11. I do not often worry about being abandoned. * This field is required.
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12. I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I would like.* This field is required.
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13. Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason.* This field is required.
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14. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.* This field is required.
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15. I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won't like who I really am.* This field is required.
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16. It makes me mad that I don't get the affection and support I need from my partner.* This field is required.
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17. I worry that I won't measure up to other people. * This field is required.
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18. My partner only seems to notice me when I’m angry. * This field is required.
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19. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down. * This field is required.
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20. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.* This field is required.
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21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners. * This field is required.
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22. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners. * This field is required.
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23. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.* This field is required.
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24. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.* This field is required.
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25. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.* This field is required.
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26. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.* This field is required.
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27. It's not difficult for me to get close to my partner. * This field is required.
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28. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner. * This field is required.
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29. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need. * This field is required.
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30. I tell my partner just about everything. * This field is required.
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31. I talk things over with my partner. * This field is required.
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32. I am nervous when partners get too close to me. * This field is required.
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33. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners. * This field is required.
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34. I find it easy to depend on romantic partners. * This field is required.
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35. It's easy for me to be affectionate with my partner. * This field is required.
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36. My partner really understands me and my needs. * This field is required.
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Your anxiety score is: {anxiety}

Your avoidance score is: {avoidance}

Want to visualize your Attachment Style? On the graph below, follow these steps:

1 - plot your anxiety score on the horizontal axis.

2 - plot your avoidance score on the vertical axis.

3 - connect the lines and you can see which "attachment style" quadrant that you fall into.

Don't worry if this is confusing. Our therapist will be glad to explain this!
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Your result: Secure Attachment Style

Your anxiety score is: {anxiety}

Your avoidance score is: {avoidance}

Your Attachment Style: Secure

Scoring Breakdown

Below 3.5: Low anxiety or avoidance

3.5 and above: High anxiety or avoidance

Interpreting Your Score

- Secure attachment (Low Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 50-60% of the population

- Anxious attachment (High Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 15-20% of the population

- Avoidant attachment (Low Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 20-25% of the population

- Disorganized (fearful) attachment (High Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 5-10% of the population

What this means

You likely feel comfortable with closeness and independence, able to connect with others while also maintaining your sense of self.

You tend to trust others and communicate your needs openly, without excessive fear of rejection or abandonment.

In relationships, you are usually emotionally available, responsive, and supportive, both when giving and receiving care.

You can navigate conflict and stress with resilience, using healthy coping strategies and a belief that relationships can be safe and reliable.

Next Steps

Therapy can help you continue to grow, deepen emotional insight, and strengthen your relationships—even if you already have a secure attachment style. Our therapists would love to support you in taking that first step.
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Your result: Anxious Attachment Style

Your anxiety score is: {anxiety}

Your avoidance score is: {avoidance}

Your Attachment Style: Anxious

Scoring Breakdown

Below 3.5: Low anxiety or avoidance

3.5 and above: High anxiety or avoidance

Interpreting Your Score

- Secure attachment (Low Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 50-60% of the population

- Anxious attachment (High Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 15-20% of the population

- Avoidant attachment (Low Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 20-25% of the population

- Disorganized (fearful) attachment (High Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 5-10% of the population

What this means

You may worry about being abandoned or unloved, and often seek reassurance or closeness in relationships.

You might feel intensely preoccupied with your partner’s availability or feelings, and become anxious when you sense distance or disconnection.

Your emotions in relationships may feel heightened or overwhelming, especially when needs for closeness aren’t met.

Conflict or perceived rejection can trigger fears of being “too much” or not enough, leading to cycles of protest, clinging, or self-doubt.

Next Steps

If you recognize patterns of anxious attachment in your relationships, therapy can help you build greater emotional security, understand your relational triggers, and develop healthier ways of expressing needs. Our therapists are here to support you in creating more balanced, fulfilling connections—starting wherever you are.
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Your result: Avoidant Attachment Style

Your anxiety score is: {anxiety}

Your avoidance score is: {avoidance}

Your Attachment Style: Avoidant

Scoring Breakdown

Below 3.5: Low anxiety or avoidance

3.5 and above: High anxiety or avoidance

Interpreting Your Score

- Secure attachment (Low Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 50-60% of the population

- Anxious attachment (High Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 15-20% of the population

- Avoidant attachment (Low Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 20-25% of the population

- Disorganized (fearful) attachment (High Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 5-10% of the population

What this means

You may feel most comfortable when emotionally independent, and tend to pull away when relationships start to feel too close or emotionally intense.

Expressing needs or vulnerability might feel uncomfortable, unnecessary, or risky, leading you to rely more on self-sufficiency.

You might minimize emotional needs—your own and others’— and struggle to fully open up or stay engaged during moments of intimacy.

In relationships, you may feel easily overwhelmed by demands for closeness, and cope by creating emotional or physical distance.

Next Steps

If you notice avoidant patterns in your relationships, therapy can support you in exploring those protective strategies with curiosity and care. Our therapists can help you gently reconnect with your emotional needs, deepen trust, and build relationships that feel safe, supportive, and genuinely connected—without sacrificing your sense of self.
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Your result: Disorganized (Anxious/Avoidant) Attachment Style

Your anxiety score is: {anxiety}

Your avoidance score is: {avoidance}

Your Attachment Style: Disorganized (Anxious/Avoidant)

Scoring Breakdown

Below 3.5: Low anxiety or avoidance

3.5 and above: High anxiety or avoidance

Interpreting Your Score

- Secure attachment (Low Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 50-60% of the population

- Anxious attachment (High Anxiety & Low Avoidance) - 15-20% of the population

- Avoidant attachment (Low Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 20-25% of the population

- Disorganized (fearful) attachment (High Anxiety & High Avoidance) - 5-10% of the population

What this means

You may crave closeness and connection but also fear getting hurt, leading to push-pull dynamics in relationships.

Trust can feel difficult, and you might struggle to feel safe either being vulnerable or emotionally distant.

You may feel conflicted or confused about your needs, unsure whether to seek comfort or protect yourself by withdrawing.

Relationships can feel emotionally intense or unpredictable, often marked by cycles of closeness, fear, and retreat.

Next Steps

If you relate to disorganized attachment patterns, therapy can offer a safe space to untangle these inner conflicts, heal from past relational wounds, and build a more secure foundation for connection. Our therapists are here to help you feel more grounded, understood, and empowered in your relationships—at a pace that feels right for you.
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