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EQ ACCELERATOR & EQ INTENSIVE STRUCTURE:
- Full engagement and participation is expected.
- Please Inform the leaders asap if you have any conflicts for any of the weeks. If you have an unavoidable, unexpected conflict arise, let the group know (on the WhatsApp or chosen group platform) as soon as you know.
- Each participant will receive a total of Six 25 Minute coaching sessions - 2 per month. You will be assigned to a coach.
- Each group member and leader agrees to be in a private place for the duration of each class in a room where the door can be closed for privacy. If you have a situation that precludes you from being in a private space during class, please contact the group facilitator.
- Each group member must be either paid-in-full before the program begins, OR if paying month installments, the monthly payment MUST be complete by the beginning of each 4-week period.
OPERATING AGREEMENTS SHORT LIST
- Create value for myself.
- Create value for the training and do not detract. Participate fully.
- Do my best.
- Be in the here and now.
- Be on time.
- Take responsibility for your own experience, especially charges and reactions.
- No side conversations.
- Do not give advice or disagree.
- Have a beginner’s mind.
- Speak about my own experience.
- Tell the truth.
- Be curious and honest about what I do and do not understand.
- Participate in accelerated learning activities.
- Be as selfish as possible.
- Be coachable and open-minded.
- Keep confidentiality.
- No business transactions.
- No social or romantic involvement.
- Be fully conscious, fully available, and fully engaged by refraining from mood-altering substances.
- Do Not record the screen or sound from the training. Ensure that the training audio/video is not broadcast to anyone else in my home who is not registered for the training.
- Use Zoom chat only for purposes that move the training forward.
- Practice e-etiquette.
- Engage with the performative learning tools
- Follow the Seven Rules of Engagement
OPERATING AGREEMENTS DESCRIPTIONS
The following operating agreements will help you get the most out of your participation in the program and enhance the quality of your life in all areas.
The agreements are as follows:
Create value for yourself. Those who benefit the most in workshop learning don’t wait for information to come to them. They participate and generate meaning and value for themselves. The more you can accept this responsibility to create value for yourself, the more you will find creative ways to contribute, participate, and benefit.
Create value for the training and do not detract. Use your participation to move the group or training forward and not detract or delay it in any way.
Participate fully. The more you invest and participate in the training, the more you will benefit. Research has shown that those who participate the most get the most out of their experience. Full participation also means that you will be fully engaged with your camera on through the duration of the training. In rare cases where having your camera on would detract or distract from others’ experience (you need to move around unexpectedly or an emergency situation arises) you will inform the group and turn your camera off to maintain group cohesion.
We will use the same zoom link every week. Please save it for easy reference, and you should also have received a calendar invite. Let us know asap if you have not.
Do your best in every way possible.
Be in the here and now. You are here to explore your experience in the here and now and ways to live more presently in the moment, and you agree to accept coaching. Conclusions and generalities you have made, and philosophies you have about life are seen as avoidance of here and now emotional engagement. As such, they are a distraction that has no place in this training, and you will be interrupted if you begin sharing them. Instead, you agree to respond using skills you are learning in the seminar, especially naming the emotion you feel in the moment, in order to develop your facility with apprehending your state in the here and now to have greater leverage in your life moment by moment.
Be on time. You and others have invested significant resources to participate in this training. To make your work together the most productive, it is critical that you show up on time and ready to work.
Take responsibility for your own experience, especially charges and reactions. Any time an issue arises or you have a charge or reaction, you agree you will immediately do the following, seeking help from a leader or assistant as necessary:
Identify the feeling underneath and take responsibility for yourself, your pain, or your issue. Identify your projection or transference.
For example: I may start feeling angry, but underneath I am hurt. Whatever the feeling, I take responsibility for my pain and I reclaim the projection, transference and unfinished business underneath it.
No side conversations. Your team’s success depends on everyone paying attention and supporting the group unity. Do not have side conversations, unless engaging in your assignment. Keep your focus and attention on the group momentum so that you, and all of the team members, can have the greatest collective success.
Do not give advice or disagree. Giving advice prevents fellow participants from accessing their own innate wisdom, deep yearnings, and feelings on a given topic or assignment. Disagreeing dismisses the possibility of learning from statements or perspectives that are different from your own. Test everything, but refrain from saying, “I disagree.” Rather than advice-giving or disagreement, group members serve each other best by asking clarifying questions such as, “I am curious, can you explain.....to me?” or, “Can you tell me more about what you mean by.....?”
Have a beginner’s mind. The best coaches and teachers are those who are always learning and are deepening their insights and learning in new ways.
They operate with what yogis call beginner’s mind—they are discovering anew at all times, no matter how familiar the material may be.
Be as selfish as possible. The more you want, the more you will invest, and the more you invest, the more you will get out of this experience. Ask questions, participate, and use the exercises and group discussions to apply the material to yourself and your work.
Be coachable and open-minded. Be coachable and be open to having your opinion shifted and changed. The more the environment is open, the more likely it is that creative solutions will emerge for everyone involved.
Keep confidentiality. We maintain an environment of integrity, safety, and freedom to participate by upholding confidentiality. Students do not disclose the content of other students’ work. Students agree to share only from their own experience when talking with others.
No business transactions. We believe that growth and development are enhanced when there are no ongoing issues of exchanging money or conducting business between students. To this end, we ask that participants refrain from conducting business transactions with each other during the training. Referrals and networking are okay. Existing business relationships can continue.
No social or romantic involvement. We provide an environment of personal and spiritual growth where students can experiment with new beliefs and behaviors. The safety for this experimentation is aided when there is no social, romantic, or sexual involvement. To this end, we ask that participants do not engage in social, romantic, or sexual relationships with other participants or leaders of the training. Existing relationships can continue.
Be fully conscious, fully available, and fully engaged by refraining from mood-altering substances. To this end, participants agree to refrain from mood-altering drugs or substances such as alcohol, marijuana, etc. 24 hours ahead of and during the training, and 24 hours ahead of and during all coaching sessions.
Practice e-etiquette. Please turn off your cell phone during group time. It’s understandable that you may need to tend to an emergency, but the more you can fully immerse yourself in the training, the more you will get out of it. For a training held on Zoom, e-etiquette includes the following:
Join from your computer if possible so you can type to participate in chat and interactive activities on video.
We do not recommend that you participate by phone, unless you do not own a computer or in cases of emergency. If you absolutely need to participate by phone, do so from the Zoom app if possible. If you need to dial in for audio while connected by computer, join your phone with your Zoom ID so you do not have duplicate identities in the meeting. Make sure your Zoom name is your full name. When logged into the meeting, check what username appears in the bottom right corner of your video. Rename yourself by clicking the three dots in the upper right corner of your video. This facilitates attendance– taking and group formation. In general, keep your video on so other participants can see and engage with you.
Please do not eat or drink during our one-hour class.
No Recording. By participating, you agree not to record the screen/video or sound/audio from the training. If you intend to share a photo to social media; if it includes other participants or leaders, you agree to ask their permission before posting.
No broadcasting to non-registered participants. Everyone who is participating must be registered, have signed these agreements, and must participate from their own device, so they can individually participate in the experience. If you are participating at home where non-registered participants may hear, please be in a private space, preferably where you can close the door.
Use Zoom chat only for purposes that move the training forward, and in ways that follow the other agreements. I understand that inappropriate or detracting chat may result in immediate removal from the training at the sole discretion of training leaders.
Engage creatively with the performative learning tools. Participate fully in the exercises and material. Use the chat to comment, share, express, ask questions. “Raise your hand” by typing that you want to share in the Chat.
Follow the Rules of Engagement: (The Heart of the Fight by Dr. Judith and Dr. Bob Wright for more detail.)
RULE #1: Accentuate the positive. Focus on what is good, exciting, novel, and what works. Add humor, joy, affection interest, affirmation, and other forms of creative behaviors from the right side of the engagement continuum.
RULE #2: Minimize the negative. Eliminate passive-destructive behaviors like avoiding, stonewalling, withholding, keeping secrets, or zoning out. Do away with misengaging and pseudo-engaging such as impersonal, logistical, judgmental, whiney, blamey, or gossipy conversations. Stop destructive engagements such as criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and withdrawal.
RULE #3: No one gets more than 50 percent of the blame. When you find yourself assigning blame, remember that no matter who instigates a conflict or makes a situation difficult, you are part of a system, and the highest percentage of blame you can assign is 50 percent.
RULE #4: Take 100 percent responsibility for your happiness and satisfaction. It is not the responsibility of the program, your group, your leaders, your coach, or anyone else in your life to make you happy. If you want something to be different, it is yours to author. Persistently and responsibly sharing your yearnings and engaging fully with your assignments will help develop more clarity, understanding, growth, value for yourself – regardless of whether anyone or anything else changes!
RULE #5: Express and agree with the truth, always. In any disagreement, verbally acknowledge when someone says something that is true or when you are wrong. Say it as soon as you recognize it, even when you’re mad or would rather not give the satisfaction, concede, or look bad. Try saying, “You’re right,” “Good point,” “Hadn’t thought of it that way,” “I see your point,” or even a begrudging acknowledgment of the truth such as, “Your point is right on, but I sure don’t like your tone.”
RULE #6: Fight for, not against. When someone says or does something that is irritating or challenging, fight FOR something rather than just asserting your perspective or fighting against something or someone. Recognize what you want and yearn for and express yourself fully, with an aim, rather than complaining, harping, defending, avoiding, or manipulating.
RULE #7: Assume goodwill. Look for the positive intent in any relationship or interaction, rather than scanning for what others are doing wrong or doing towards us. Assuming goodwill lowers your fight-flight-freeze response and makes room for understanding.
CANCELLATION POLICY:
This is a non-refundable training, except in case of emergency, or in cases with good cause shown.
Coaching sessions have a 24-hour cancellation policy. If you need to reschedule your scheduled session, notify your coach directly by text or phone call AT LEAST 24 hours prior to the start of the session (more notice is appreciated if you can) to avoid losing the coaching session. You and your assigned coach will schedule your sessions at a mutually agreed upon time at the beginning of the 12-week class.
Please type your full name on and sign below, signifying you have read, understand, and will comply with the Operating Agreements above.