Attachment Style Quiz

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How do you feel when your romantic partner needs space or time away from you?* This field is required.
I feel anxious and fear they’ll abandon me.
I’m relieved because I prefer emotional distance.
I trust they’ll come back and it doesn’t bother me.
I’m conflicted—I want them close but fear being hurt.
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When a friend doesn’t respond to your texts or calls immediately, what’s your reaction?* This field is required.
I start to worry that I’ve done something wrong.
I feel indifferent and may even forget about it.
I assume they’re busy and will get back to me later.
I’m unsure—I both want a response but don’t want to seem needy.
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How do you express your emotions when you’re upset with your partner or someone close to you?* This field is required.
I tend to need reassurance and attention to feel better.
I often keep my feelings to myself and avoid emotional expression.
I express my emotions calmly and clearly, addressing the issue head-on.
I either lash out or withdraw, depending on how vulnerable I feel.
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When your child or close family member is upset, how do you respond?* This field is required.
I worry deeply and feel compelled to help them immediately.
I find it difficult to connect with their emotions and stay distant.
I offer comfort and listen, trusting they’ll be okay.
I try to comfort them but feel afraid that I might not be enough.
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How do you feel about long-term commitment in relationships?* This field is required.
I want it, but I constantly worry my partner might leave.
I’m uncomfortable with commitment and prefer my independence.
I feel secure with long-term commitment and welcome it.
I want commitment but often sabotage it due to fear of being hurt.
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When you argue with a friend, how do you typically handle the conflict?* This field is required.
I feel anxious and want immediate reassurance that the friendship is still intact.
I avoid addressing the conflict and distance myself emotionally.
I openly communicate, aiming to resolve the issue calmly.
I feel conflicted—sometimes I want to fix it, other times I avoid the issue altogether.
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How do you feel when your romantic partner expresses love or affection toward you?* This field is required.
I feel happy but often worry it won’t last.
I appreciate it but can feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable with too much affection.
I feel secure and enjoy the connection without fear.
I crave the affection but may push them away due to fear of intimacy.
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How comfortable are you with asking for help from friends or family when you need emotional support?* This field is required.
I’m afraid of being seen as needy and often hesitate.
I prefer not to ask for help and deal with things on my own.
I feel comfortable asking for help and trust others to support me.
I want help but fear being a burden or getting rejected, so I rarely ask.
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How do you feel when your partner or friend is angry or frustrated with you?* This field is required.
I feel anxious and want to fix the situation immediately to avoid being abandoned.
I distance myself and try to avoid the confrontation.
I address it calmly, trusting we can resolve the issue.
I feel torn between wanting to resolve it and withdrawing to avoid more hurt.
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When you meet new people, how quickly do you feel comfortable with emotional closeness?* This field is required.
I become attached quickly but worry about being too much for them.
I keep my distance and avoid emotional closeness for a long time.
I take my time but don’t fear intimacy when it develops naturally.
I want to get close but pull back due to fear of rejection.
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How do you handle jealousy in your romantic relationships or friendships?* This field is required.
I often feel jealous and need constant reassurance.
I don’t feel jealous often, but if I do, I pull away.
I feel secure and trust my partner or friends, rarely feeling jealous.
I feel conflicted—I want reassurance but fear pushing the other person away.
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When your child or someone close to you disappoints you, how do you respond?* This field is required.
I feel deeply hurt and may question their love for me.
I detach emotionally and avoid expressing my disappointment.
I communicate my feelings and trust the relationship will remain strong.
I withdraw but also wish to fix things quickly to avoid further emotional pain.
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How do you feel when a partner or friend shares personal vulnerabilities with you?* This field is required.
I feel honored but also worry I won’t be enough for them.
I feel uncomfortable and may distance myself.
I feel connected and welcome their vulnerability.
I feel conflicted—part of me wants to help, but I also fear being too close.
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In your daily life, how comfortable are you with setting boundaries in your relationships?* This field is required.
I struggle to set boundaries because I fear losing the person.
I set strict boundaries to avoid emotional closeness.
I set healthy boundaries and communicate them clearly.
I feel torn—I want boundaries but fear rejection if I set them.
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How do you feel about relying on your romantic partner for emotional support?* This field is required.
I feel like I need constant reassurance but am afraid to ask for it.
I prefer not to rely on anyone and handle things on my own.
I’m comfortable leaning on my partner and offering support in return.
I crave support but fear being hurt if I ask for it.
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When you're spending time with friends, how do you feel if they don’t give you their full attention?* This field is required.
I feel anxious and worry that they’re losing interest in me.
I don’t mind—it gives me space, which I prefer.
I’m okay with it and don’t feel insecure.
I feel conflicted—I want more attention but fear seeming needy.
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How do you feel about expressing your needs in relationships?* This field is required.
I worry that expressing my needs will push people away.
I prefer not to express them and handle things myself.
I’m comfortable expressing my needs and trust they will be met.
I feel torn between wanting to express them but fearing rejection.
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How do you feel when you’re physically or emotionally distant from your romantic partner?* This field is required.
I feel anxious and constantly think about them, fearing they’ll leave me.
I feel relieved—I prefer emotional and physical space.
I trust the distance is temporary and don’t feel worried.
I feel conflicted—sometimes I miss them deeply, other times I pull away.
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When you're with your child or loved one, how do you feel about showing affection?* This field is required.
I love showing affection but worry it won’t be reciprocated.
I feel uncomfortable and tend to hold back on affection.
I’m comfortable giving and receiving affection.
I want to show affection but fear being too vulnerable.
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How do you respond when someone you love lets you down?* This field is required.
I feel personally rejected and worry about the relationship.
I tend to brush it off and distance myself emotionally.
I address it calmly and trust the relationship will grow from it.
I feel torn between forgiving them and protecting myself by pulling away.
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How do you react when your partner or loved one gives you feedback or criticism?* This field is required.
I feel anxious and worry they’ll stop loving me.
I detach emotionally and may distance myself.
I accept the feedback and see it as an opportunity for growth.
I feel conflicted—part of me wants to accept it, but I also feel hurt and pull away.
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How do you handle moments of vulnerability in relationships?* This field is required.
I feel exposed and worry my partner or friends will leave me.
I avoid being vulnerable and keep my emotions private.
I embrace vulnerability and see it as a way to deepen connections.
I’m conflicted—part of me wants to be vulnerable, but I often withdraw to avoid rejection.
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When you're spending time with your child or close family, how comfortable are you with emotional closeness?* This field is required.
I crave closeness but worry I’m too much.
I feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness and tend to withdraw.
I enjoy emotional closeness and trust the relationship.
I feel torn between wanting closeness and fearing rejection or hurt.
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Anxious Attachment:
If you scored mostly A’s, you have an anxious attachment style. You likely feel insecure in relationships, often fearing abandonment and needing constant reassurance. You may find yourself overthinking, overanalyzing, and putting your partner’s needs above your own to avoid rejection. This can lead to clingy or needy behaviors, emotional highs and lows, and difficulty trusting your partner’s love and commitment.

Core Fear: Abandonment and rejection.
Key Patterns: Seeking validation, becoming preoccupied with the relationship, and difficulty being alone.
Healing Steps: Start building self-worth independently of relationships, practice self-soothing, and learn how to regulate your emotions when you feel triggered by fear of abandonment. Working on trusting your own sense of worth rather than relying on external validation is crucial.
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Avoidant Attachment:
If you scored mostly B’s, you may have an avoidant attachment style. You value independence and often withdraw emotionally from relationships. Intimacy feels threatening, and you might push people away to protect yourself from vulnerability. You may prefer to keep emotional distance and find it hard to trust others, relying heavily on yourself.

Core Fear: Losing independence or being controlled.
Key Patterns: Avoiding emotional closeness, dismissing the importance of relationships, and shutting down during conflicts.
Healing Steps: Start by allowing small moments of vulnerability and gradually opening up emotionally. Learn to express your needs and emotions in safe environments, and challenge the belief that closeness will lead to loss of autonomy.
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Secure Attachment:
If you scored mostly C’s, you have a secure attachment style. You are comfortable with both intimacy and independence. You trust your partner, communicate openly, and can navigate conflict calmly. Secure attachment allows for emotional regulation, healthy boundaries, and balanced relationships. You are comfortable expressing your needs and trusting your partner to meet them without fear of rejection.

Core Strength: Balance of emotional intimacy and independence.
Key Patterns: Open communication, healthy conflict resolution, and emotional regulation.
Strengthening Steps: Continue to reinforce open communication, set boundaries that honor both you and your partner, and practice emotional regulation to maintain this balance. Encourage your partner or loved ones to reciprocate healthy attachment habits.
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Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment:
If you scored mostly D’s, you may have a fearful-avoidant attachment style. This style is characterized by a deep desire for intimacy but an equally strong fear of getting hurt. You might feel stuck in a push-pull dynamic—craving closeness but pulling away when it feels too intense. Inconsistency and fear of betrayal or rejection often lead to emotional turbulence in relationships.

Core Fear: Intimacy and betrayal.
Key Patterns: Inconsistent behavior in relationships, alternating between seeking closeness and pushing people away, and difficulty trusting.
Healing Steps: Work on emotional regulation to balance these conflicting needs. Gradually build trust in relationships by focusing on creating safety within yourself first. Practicing mindfulness and somatic techniques can help reduce emotional overwhelm and fear of intimacy.
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