FIRAC for Family
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My Email
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example@example.com
This FIRAC is intended for:
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Our mediator only
To deliver to my family through a 1-on-1 follow up session
DEFINE THE TOPIC. In one (1) word, or sentence, describe a single topic that summarizes the center focus we are addressing in this FIRAC submission:
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FEELINGS
Select or type the two (2) strongest feelings you are experiencing while evaluating this issue.
My two strongest feelings at the present moment are:
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Frustrated
Confused
Anxious
Disoriented
Sad
Angry
Lonely
Abandoned
Threatened
Disrespected
Overwhelmed
Exhausted
Excited
Delighted
Fulfilled
Hopeful
Playful
Intrigued
Other
If other emotion, please use one word to describe your emotion
If other emotion, please use one word to describe your emotion
FACTS
What did the other person say or do that contributed to your current emotional state. Remember: facts are objective. These are not your interpretations, but circumstances you describe based on your five senses: what you saw with your eyes; what you heard with your ears; what you smelled with your nose; what you experienced from a touch to your body; what you tasted with your mouth. Facts could also be CIRCUMSTANCES you wish to address. Please address the circumstances by focusing on addressing the questions: Who? What? Where? When?
Who is the focus of this discussion?
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Me. I have an unmet need or a specific request from my spouse
My spouse. I want to addressimy spouse's behavior
Both. We have mutually contributed to this matter and I am acknowledging my contribution to the circumstances that gave rise to the conflict.
The mediator. I have a concern or concerns that I want to confront the mediator about concerning the services being provided.
Not applicable. This FIRAC is concerning a decision we need to make together and I want to work on building an agreement.
Other
What was said to you or done to you? OR What is the nature of the decision you want to work on?
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What did you say or do (that led to the encounter, and/or how you responded)? OR What is the most important thing you need your spouse and/or mediator to understand about your point of view on this topic?
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If applicable, where did the encounter take place?
If applicable, when did the encounter happen?
ISSUE
The issue in family communication is always "how can we find a win-win to address the current topic described in the facts
What course of action do you propose as a win-win approach to resolve your differences as you understand them?
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What degree of flexibility are you open to with this proposal?
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I am open to entertain reasonable counter-offers
My proposal is very close to the limits of my boundaries
This is my best and final offer (this is a deal-breaker, and I will not bend on it)
RULE
The rule of Intimacy Diplomacy states that each person should be treated with honor and respect while navigating a path to harmony.
Counter Offer
ANALYSIS
This is where we apply the rule of law to the facts you provided to recommend options for you both to consider for reaching agreement. These are the mediator's notes.
Mediator's notes
Likelihood of Agreement
Already agreed
High likelihood
Very unlikely
Impasse
CONCLUSION
Your mediator will confirm the agreement designed by your family that resolves this topic in a mutually beneficial way. If an agreement cannot be reached due to an impasse, the mediator will explain the reason for impasse and present mutually beneficial alternatives for your mutual consideration.
Agreement Details for this Topic
Submit
Agreement Reached
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