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FRIEND YOUR FEAR:
Parking Options:
- North side of Greenleaf: Inexpensive city street parking (ticketing begins at 8 AM, they are prompt).
- Beach parking lot: Free until 9 AM (ticketing also begins promptly at 9 AM).
- South side of Greenleaf: If you’re lucky, you might find a free spot.
- Full engagement and participation is expected.
- Each group member must be either paid-in-full before the training begins.
OPERATING AGREEMENTS SHORT LIST
- Create value for myself.
- Create value for the training and do not detract. Participate fully.
- Do my best.
- Be in the here and now.
- Be on time.
- Take responsibility for your own experience, especially charges and reactions.
- No side conversations.
- Do not give advice or disagree.
- Have a beginner’s mind.
- Speak about my own experience.
- Tell the truth.
- Be curious and honest about what I do and do not understand.
- Participate in accelerated learning activities.
- Be as selfish as possible.
- Be coachable and open-minded.
- Keep confidentiality.
- No business transactions.
- No social or romantic involvement.
- Be fully conscious, fully available, and fully engaged by refraining from mood-altering substances.
- Practice e-etiquette.
- No Recording.
- Engage with the performative learning tools.
OPERATING AGREEMENTS DESCRIPTIONS
The following operating agreements will help you get the most out of your participation in the program and enhance the quality of your life in all areas.
The agreements are as follows:
Create value for yourself. Those who benefit the most in workshop learning don’t wait for information to come to them. They participate and generate meaning and value for themselves. The more you can accept this responsibility to create value for yourself, the more you will find creative ways to contribute, participate, and benefit.
Create value for the training and do not detract. Use your participation to move the group or training forward and not detract or delay it in any way.
Participate fully. The more you invest and participate in the training, the more you will benefit. Research has shown that those who participate the most get the most out of their experience. Full participation also means that you will be fully engaged with your camera on through the duration of the training. In rare cases where having your camera on would detract or distract from others’ experience (you need to move around unexpectedly or an emergency situation arises) you will inform the group and turn your camera off to maintain group cohesion.
Do your best in every way possible.
Be in the here and now. You are here to explore your experience in the here and now and ways to live more presently in the moment, and you agree to accept coaching. Conclusions and generalities you have made, and philosophies you have about life are seen as avoidance of here and now emotional engagement. As such, they are a distraction that has no place in this training, and you will be interrupted if you begin sharing them. Instead, you agree to respond using skills you are learning in the seminar, especially naming the emotion you feel in the moment, in order to develop your facility with apprehending your state in the here and now to have greater leverage in your life moment by moment.
Be on time. You and others have invested significant resources to participate in this training. To make your work together the most productive, it is critical that you show up on time and ready to work.
Take responsibility for your own experience, especially charges and reactions. Any time an issue arises or you have a charge or reaction, you agree you will immediately do the following, seeking help from a leader or assistant as necessary:
Identify the feeling underneath and take responsibility for yourself, your pain, or your issue. Identify your projection or transference.
For example: I may start feeling angry, but underneath I am hurt. Whatever the feeling, I take responsibility for my pain and I reclaim the projection, transference and unfinished business underneath it.
No side conversations. Your team’s success depends on everyone paying attention and supporting the group unity. Do not have side conversations, unless engaging in your assignment. Keep your focus and attention on the group momentum so that you, and all of the team members, can have the greatest collective success.
Do not give advice or disagree. Giving advice prevents fellow participants from accessing their own innate wisdom, deep yearnings, and feelings on a given topic or assignment. Disagreeing dismisses the possibility of learning from statements or perspectives that are different from your own. Test everything, but refrain from saying, “I disagree.” Rather than advice-giving or disagreement, group members serve each other best by asking clarifying questions such as, “I am curious, can you explain.....to me?” or, “Can you tell me more about what you mean by.....?”
Have a beginner’s mind. The best coaches and teachers are those who are always learning and are deepening their insights and learning in new ways.
They operate with what yogis call beginner’s mind—they are discovering anew at all times, no matter how familiar the material may be.
Be as selfish as possible. The more you want, the more you will invest, and the more you invest, the more you will get out of this experience. Ask questions, participate, and use the exercises and group discussions to apply the material to yourself and your work.
Be coachable and open-minded. Be coachable and be open to having your opinion shifted and changed. The more the environment is open, the more likely it is that creative solutions will emerge for everyone involved.
Keep confidentiality. We maintain an environment of integrity, safety, and freedom to participate by upholding confidentiality. Students do not disclose the content of other students’ work. Students agree to share only from their own experience when talking with others.
No business transactions. We believe that growth and development are enhanced when there are no ongoing issues of exchanging money or conducting business between students. To this end, we ask that participants refrain from conducting business transactions with each other during the training. Referrals and networking are okay. Existing business relationships can continue.
No social or romantic involvement. We provide an environment of personal and spiritual growth where students can experiment with new beliefs and behaviors. The safety for this experimentation is aided when there is no social, romantic, or sexual involvement. To this end, we ask that participants do not engage in social, romantic, or sexual relationships with other participants or leaders of the training. Existing relationships can continue.
Be fully conscious, fully available, and fully engaged by refraining from mood-altering substances. To this end, participants agree to refrain from mood-altering drugs or substances such as alcohol, marijuana, etc. 24 hours ahead of and during the training, and 24 hours ahead of and during all coaching sessions.
Practice e-etiquette. Please turn off your cell phone during group time. It’s understandable that you may need to tend to an emergency, but the more you can fully immerse yourself in the training, the more you will get out of it.
No Recording. If you intend to share a photo to social media; if it includes other participants or leaders, you agree to ask their permission before posting.
Engage creatively with the performative learning tools. Participate fully in the exercises and material.
CANCELLATION POLICY:
This is a non-refundable training, except in case of emergency, or in cases with good cause shown.
Please type your full name on and sign below, signifying you have read, understand, and will comply with the Operating Agreements above.