This application is how all couples work with me begins — and it does something most applications don't: it decides where we start.
Each of you completes your own copy, separately. You'll provide your partner's name and email at the end — and I contact your partner personally, after I've read your application, never automatically. If your partner doesn't yet know you're reaching out, nothing goes to them until you and I have spoken about how — and whether — to invite them. Some people begin this process alone; there's a path for that too.
Once I've read what you've sent, I'll tell you directly where we start: the Strategic Relationship Assessment, a structured four-session process ending in a written map of what's actually happening in your relationship; the Clarity Consultation, for couples where one of you is genuinely undecided about the relationship itself; or, if you're beginning alone for now, individual work focused on you inside this relationship. You don't need to know which one you need. That's my job, and it's why the application asks what it asks.
Three things to know before you write.
Most of this application works on a no-secrets basis. What you share here may inform our conversations, including joint sessions. Don't write anything you wouldn't want raised with both of you in the room. Anything you need me to know privately can wait for your individual session.
The final section is the exception — it's private. The last questions ask where you honestly stand on this relationship. Those answers are read by me alone and never shared with your partner. They serve one purpose: determining the right starting point — which means they only work if you answer them truthfully, including the answers you haven't said out loud yet.
This is an application for assessment, not therapy. Whichever door we start at, its purpose is clarity — about the relationship, and about whether and what kind of work fits. Sometimes the honest answer is that couples work isn't the right next step. That answer is part of what you're paying for.