Grade your relationship

Grade Your Relationship!

Is your relationship thriving, surviving, or sinking?
This quiz will walk you through real-life scenarios. Please answer honestly and choose the option that best reflects your usual thoughts or behavior. No overthinking. Just go with what feels true, even if it’s unflattering or uncomfortable.

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Your partner has been acting distant lately. You don’t know why, and you start feeling uneasy. How do you handle it?*

Ignore it and assume they’re losing interest, but don’t ask because you don’t want to seem needy.Check their phone or social media for clues before bringing it up.Ask them if something is wrong but assume the worst if they don’t immediately reassure you.Express your concerns directly and give them space to share without pressure or blame.

Your partner forgot your anniversary. You feel hurt. What do you do?*

Give them the silent treatment and wait for them to notice.Sarcastically bring it up later and say, “I guess it just wasn’t that important to you.Tell them you’re upset but downplay your feelings to avoid a fight.Share your disappointment honestly while also being open to their perspective.

You’ve had a terrible day at work and come home feeling drained. Your partner is watching TV. What happens next?*

You say nothing, assuming they wouldn’t care or understand.You hint at your bad day, but if they don’t notice, you withdraw.You tell them about your day but don’t ask for support directly.You share your feelings openly, and your partner pauses what they’re doing to listen and comfort you.

You and your partner have been busy and haven’t spent much time together. What happens?*

You both just do your own thing indefinitely, assuming the other is fine with it.You bring it up but only when feeling resentful about it.You schedule time together, but it feels a little forced.One of you suggests a fun way to reconnect, and you both make an effort to enjoy it.

Your partner seems less interested in sex lately. How do you respond?*

Assume they’re no longer attracted to you and withdraw emotionally.Try to initiate sex anyway and feel rejected if they say no.Ask if something is wrong but feel anxious if they don’t give a clear answer.Have an open conversation about desires, stress, and ways to reconnect physically and emotionally.

Your partner is offered a job in another city, but you’d prefer to stay put. How do you handle it?*

Assume this will ruin the relationship and start shutting down.Tell them to do what they want, but secretly feel resentful.Discuss possible compromises but avoid hard decisions.Have a deep conversation about both of your needs and explore creative solutions together.

Your partner has a very different view on parenting than you do. What happens?*

You assume you’ll never agree and avoid discussing it further.You argue, but neither of you really listens to the other’s point of view.You try to find common ground, but tensions still linger.You engage in ongoing, thoughtful conversations, respecting each other’s views while finding a middle ground.

Your partner wants to go on a solo trip for a week. How do you react?*

Feel abandoned and make them feel guilty for leaving.Let them go but worry constantly and check in excessively.Feel slightly uneasy but support their decision and keep busy with your own activities.Encourage them, enjoy your own time, and reconnect enthusiastically when they return.

Your partner takes care of something important for you, like making a difficult phone call or handling a task you dislike. How do you respond?*

Say nothing.Give a quick thanks.Express gratitude but don’t go on and on about it.Show heartfelt appreciation and make a mental note to do something nice for them in return.

You and your partner have been stuck in a routine and haven’t had much fun together lately. What do you do?*

Accept that relationships just get boring over time.Complain about it but wait for them to come up with an idea.Suggest something fun but feel unsure if they’ll be into it.Proactively plan something playful and new, showing enthusiasm and pumping them up to enjoy it.

You and your partner are tackling a big household project together, but you have different ideas about how to do it. What happens?*

You argue and end up doing things separately.One of you takes over while the other disengages.You compromise but with lingering frustration.You discuss your ideas openly, find a win-win approach, and tackle the project as a team.

Your partner is going through a personal transformation (new hobby, therapy, career change). How do you react?*

Feel threatened and resistant to their changes.Try to be supportive but secretly hope they don’t change too much.Encourage them but feel unsure about what this means for the relationship.Actively support their growth and look for ways to evolve together as a couple.

Your partner doesn’t like your new friend and asks you to stop hanging out. You:*

Stop seeing your friend to avoid conflict, because you won’t win this fight.Lie about spending time with your new friend, but feel nervous about your partner finding out.Ask why but feel pressured to agree.Have an open conversation about why they feel uneasy or disapproving and agree to revisit the decision after discussion.

Your partner is out late and hasn’t texted back. You:*

Assume the worst and spiral into anxious thoughts.Send multiple texts, needing a response to feel reassured.Worry a little but distract yourself until they get back.Trust they’ll reach out when they can and focus on your own evening.
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