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Cassandra Syndrome - Relationship & Identity Distress Scale (CS-RIDS-24)

This self-assessment is designed to measure the emotional and relational impact of being in a partnership with someone who may be on the autism spectrum (or otherwise neurodivergent). It explores four key areas: relational distress, identity erosion, communication and validation, and coping and resilience.
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    INSTRUCTIONS

    Read each statement and rate how strongly you agree or disagree based on your current experiences in your relationship.

    All responses are confidential.

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    Understanding Severe Cassandra-Related Distress

    Your total score is: {totalScore}, which falls into the Severe Range (89-120)

    Score Breakdown 

    89-120: Severe Cassandra-Related Distress

    57–88: Moderate Cassandra-Related Distress

    24–56: No Cassandra-Related Distress

    Your Score Suggests:

    • You may be experiencing intense emotional exhaustion and profound loneliness within your relationship.

    • The level of disconnection and invalidation you feel could be deeply destabilizing, leaving you questioning your own perceptions.

    • Your partner’s behavior may feel persistently confusing or dismissive, contributing to a high degree of relational strain.

    • These symptoms are likely having a significant impact on your mental health and daily functioning; professional support is strongly recommended.

    How Therapy Can Help

    • Therapy can provide a safe, supportive space to process the betrayal, validate your pain, and begin healing at your own pace.

    • Rebuild your sense of self, and reconnect with your needs, boundaries, and inner strength.

    • In couples therapy, we help partners repair emotional ruptures, rebuild safety, and engage in the vulnerable, work of restoring trust—if both partners are willing.

    • While healing may take time, there is hope: with the right support, many individuals and couples are able to move from rupture to resilience, creating stronger, more honest connections.
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    Understanding Moderate Cassandra-Related Distress

    Your total score is: {totalScore}, which falls into the Moderate Range (57-88).

     

    Score Breakdown 

    89-120: Severe Cassandra-Related Distress

    57–88: Moderate Cassandra-Related Distress

    24–56: No Cassandra-Related Distress

     

    Your Score Suggests:

    • You may feel frequently misunderstood or emotionally unsupported, though not entirely disconnected from your partner.

    • The emotional toll is noticeable but may come in waves, creating cycles of doubt, frustration, and hope.

    • There may be growing concern about how the relationship is affecting your self-esteem and sense of identity.

    • While some coping strategies are helping, ongoing stress may still be impacting your well-being and connection.


    How Therapy Can Help

    • Our therapists, who specialize in Cassandra Syndrome, can help you make sense of the emotional ups and downs you’re experiencing.

    • Therapy offers a space to identify patterns, clarify your needs, and build communication tools that better support your emotional health.

    • We can help you reconnect with your sense of self and strengthen resilience in the face of relational stress.

    • If you’re interested, couples therapy can also support greater understanding between you and your neurodiverse partner.
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    Understanding No Cassandra-Related Distress

    Your total score is: {totalScore}, which falls into the No Distress Range (24-56).

     

    Score Breakdown 

    89-120: Severe Cassandra-Related Distress

    57–88: Moderate Cassandra-Related Distress

    24–56: No Cassandra-Related Distress

     

    Your Score Suggests:

    • You may be navigating neurodiversity in your relationship with relative ease, experiencing few emotional disruptions.

    • Communication may feel manageable, with a growing ability to understand and adapt to each other’s differences.

    • Your sense of self appears stable, with minimal erosion tied to relational dynamics.

    • While challenges may still come up, they likely don’t cause significant emotional distress or interfere with daily life.

    How Therapy Can Help

    • Therapy can offer a proactive space to reflect on your relationship and build long-term tools for navigating neurodiverse dynamics.

    • Our therapists, who specialize in Cassandra Syndrome, can support continued growth, insight, and resilience.

    • Even in low-distress situations, therapy can help deepen emotional connection and prevent future misunderstandings.

    • You can use therapy to clarify your needs, strengthen communication, and stay grounded as your relationship evolves.

     

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    Subscale Breakdown

    In addition to providing a Total Score, the Cassandra Syndrome Relationship & Identity Distress Scale (CS-RIDS-24) also explores four key areas: relational distress, identity erosion, communication and validation, and coping and resilience.

    1. Relational Distress (6-30)

    Your Score: {relationalDistress}

    6–13: No Distress – You may feel relatively emotionally connected and supported in your relationship, with few signs of Cassandra-related strain.

    14–22: Moderate Distress – You may be experiencing recurring disconnection, frustration, or emotional strain that impacts your sense of closeness and safety.

    23–30: Severe Distress – Your relationship may feel highly distressing, with intense feelings of isolation, emotional depletion, or being unseen by your partner.

    2. Identity Erosion (6-30)

    Your Score: {identityErosion}

    6–13: No Erosion – You likely feel grounded in your sense of self and are able to maintain your identity within the relationship.

    14–22: Moderate Erosion –
    You may be noticing shifts in your self-esteem, confidence, or clarity about who you are in the context of the relationship.

    23–30: Severe Erosion –
    Your relationship may be deeply impacting your identity, leaving you feeling lost, diminished, or disconnected from your core self.

     

    3. Communication & Validation (6-30)

    Your Score: {communicationampamp}

    6–13: No Disruption – You likely feel heard, understood, and emotionally validated in your communication with your partner.

    14–22: Moderate Disruption – You may experience frequent misunderstandings or feel that your emotional needs are inconsistently acknowledged.

    23–30: Severe Disruption – Communication may feel one-sided, confusing, or invalidating, leaving you feeling dismissed or emotionally invisible in the relationship.

     

    4. Coping & Resilience (6-30)

    Your Score: {copingampamp}

    6–13: No Resilience – You may be feeling emotionally overwhelmed, depleted, or unable to effectively cope with the ongoing stress in your relationship.

    14–22: Moderate Resilience – You’re likely using some coping strategies, but emotional strain may still be impacting your ability to stay grounded and recover.

    23–30: High Resilience – You appear to be managing relationship stress with strength and adaptability, maintaining a sense of balance and emotional stability.


    Next Steps 

    1. Reflect on Your Results: If your scores are higher in certain subscales (e.g., Identity Erosion, Communication & Validation), you may want to focus on strategies to rebuild self-confidence or improve communication.

    2. Reach Out for Support: We have clinicians who specialize in Cassandra Syndrome–related issues and can help you explore your unique challenges, offer tailored strategies, and guide you toward healthier coping mechanisms.

    3. Stay Connected: Consider talking with trusted friends or joining support groups (online or in-person) for validation and shared experiences.

    4. Retake Periodically: You may find it useful to retake this assessment after making changes or seeking support, to track how your feelings evolve over time.

     

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    What's Next?

    You will be sent a copy of your scores if you've provided your email address.

    If you marked that you are interested in counseling services, our Client Care Coordinator will be in touch within 24 hours to connect you with one of our experts.

    Please Note: If you provide an email address, you will be added to our mailing list. However, you can reach out to unsubscribe at any time.

    Reach out to our Client Care Coordinator, Cassie Clayton, if you have any questions in the meantime!

    Email : clientcare@newpathfamily.com

    Text or Call: (408) 475-2746

     

    DISCLAIMER:

    This assessment is intended for informational and self-reflection purposes only.

    It was developed by our clinical team as a tool to help individuals better understand their current experience of trust disruption following betrayal in a relationship.

    It is not a diagnostic tool and does not replace professional mental health care, therapy, or medical advice. Results should be interpreted with care and may not reflect all aspects of your situation or relationship dynamics.

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