how much are other gay men shaping your self-worth?

how much are other gay men shaping your self-worth?

this assessment will help you reflect on how much external validation — especially from other gay men — may be influencing your confidence, self-image, and sense of worth. through an honest check-in, you’ll gain insight into your relationship with visibility, rejection, and the need to be chosen.
section one: environment & validation

based on : “the four agreements” by don miguel ruiz
when i walk into a gay space, i immediately notice how i compare to others.*

that’s usually true for me.not really something i think about.
i change how i dress, act, or speak to fit into certain gay spaces.*

yes, i do that often.no, i show up the same way everywhere.
if i get ignored by other gay men, it affects how i feel about myself.*

yes, it definitely impacts me.no, i don’t take it personally.
section 2: identity & self-image

based on : “the gifts of imperfection” by brené brown
i sometimes feel like i need to “fix” or “improve” myself to be desirable.*

yes, that’s a common thought.no, i try to accept myself as i am.
i feel more valuable when i’m getting attention from gay men.*

that’s definitely true.attention doesn’t determine my value.
i hide parts of myself in order to be more liked or accepted.*

yes, i edit myself often.no, i’m usually my full self.
section 3: approval & authenticity

based on : “the courage to be disliked” by ichiro kishimi & fumitake koga
i want to be liked — even by people i don’t necessarily like.*

yes, it still matters to me.no, i’ve moved past tha.
i feel disappointed when i don’t get validation — even if i wasn’t looking for love.*

yes, it still sting.no, i know what i’m looking for and what i’m not.
i catch myself trying to impress people instead of just being present.*

yes, i do that often.not really — i’ve stopped performing.
name.*

First NameLast Name
email.*
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i found your assessment through...*

the guided journal.exploring realgaylife.coma youtube video.meeting you in person.other.
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how much are other gay men shaping your self-worth?

section one: environment & validation

section 2: identity & self-image

section 3: approval & authenticity