Five Windows

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Is this your first marriage/long term committed relationship?

YESNO

2

When it comes to your relationship now, what most urgently needs attention, energy, or renewal?Select the ones that feel most true for you right now—and then tell me more in your own words

Rebuilding emotional closeness and connection

Revitalizing physical intimacy and affection

Restoring trust

Creating a shared vision for our future together

Addressing recurring tension, conflict or unresolved problems e.g., finances or relationships with other family or friends

Escaping boredom and stagnation in the relationship

Redefining my role in the relationship

Developing my personal identity

Communication skills

Balancing time together and time apart

Setting personal and/or professional boundaries

Supporting each other’s dreams

Deciding whether to maintain status quo, separate/divorce, or work on our relationship

Healing a crisis or disillusionment that occurred in the past

Letting go of resentment

Creating time to be together

Aging well

Beginning difficult conversations about around dying, death, estate planning, healthcare, etc.

3

What did these choices stir in you? Did something feel true — or off? Was there something you were longing to see that wasn’t there?Please describe below.

4

In what year were you married?If you never married, in what year did you first consider yourself to be in a committed relationship?

e.g., 1984

5

Which of the following reflect your current relationship?Select all that feel true for you right now.

At the Crossroads—But Not in the Dark. The children (if there were any) are grown, the house is emptier—and one of you is quietly (or not so quietly) considering leaving. The other is still holding on, maybe even hoping. You want skilled, nonjudgmental support to explore why you’re here, how you got here, and whether it’s possible to move forward—together or apart—with honesty, clarity, and respect.

Separate spaces. Shared commitment. You know you want to stay together—but you both want some more space in your next chapter. You want to design a way forward that preserves your commitment, protects what works and supports you as you reinvent the rest.

Same Marriage, Different Maps. One of you craves movement—new experiences, new directions. The other finds comfort in rhythm, roots, and the known. Your differences feel daunting—you wonder, “How are we ever going to resolve them?” You’re not trying to become the same person, but you do want to find a path forward that honors your preferences and ensures that you walk together in the years ahead without drifting apart or sacrificing a vital part of yourself.

I Want Us to Fall in Love Again—with Each Other. The emotional closeness you used to experience was lost during decades of half finished dinner conversations and logistical negotiations. Now is the time to re-discover each other as friends, lovers and who you are now, not who you were back then.

Touch Feels Out of Reach—But Maybe Not Forever. Maybe the passion faded. Maybe physical affection or intimacy was never the center of your relationship to begin with. But now, with more time and space, you find yourself wanting something more—physically, erotically. Not for the sake of performance, but for the quiet aliveness that comes with feeling close in your bodies, not just your hearts. You’re not trying to become someone else. You’re ready to explore—gently, honestly—what might still be possible.

The Echo Never Faded. Time gave you distance—but the pain still reverberates. The affair, the breach, the betrayal—it’s still shaping how you relate. And you know, in your bones, that to move forward with real connection, you’ll have to face it—with courage, clarity, and equanimity. Not to rehash it, but to release it. So it no longer drives the present—or defines the future.

The Love Is There—It’s the Communication That Needs an Upgrade. You’re satisfied with your relationship status quo. You don’t want to rehash the past. You could use some hyper-focus on the way you handle conflict—right now. Not therapy. You want to do some targeted work to interrupt the patterns that keep derailing you, so you can communicate with more clarity, negotiate with less friction, and stay connected without going backward.

The Exquisite Road Ahead You feel extraordinarily fortunate in your relationship, fully supported and admired. Desire may or may not have quieted for one or both, but your tenderness, trust and affection sustain you. You want to take advantage of your love, health and freedom to travel the road ahead well, together or with similarly fulfilled couples.

6

Which parts of the descriptions you chose didn’t feel relevant to your relationship—and what, if anything, felt noticeably missing?Feel free to share words, ideas, or situations you wish had been included—or anything that didn’t ring true.

7

How do you describe your gender?Select one.

Woman

Man

Prefer to self-describe

Prefer not to say

8

In your own words, please describe your gender

9

If I were to offer any of the following in the future, in which you be interested?Select any and all offerings you would find relevant or worthwhile.

A conversation designed to help you and your partner explore what’s currently unfolding in your relationship—and where you might want to go from here. This one-time session (held virtually) offers space to reflect and ask questions together. No commitment. Just a quiet place to begin.

Letters on Long-Term Love. Reflections drawn from the private realities of lasting partnership—on distance, desire, disappointment, reinvention, and what it means to stay or leave. For anyone who’s ever wondered whether what they’re feeling is normal—and what might still be possible. Delivered to your email inbox or mailbox.

A time limited series of private sessions for couples navigating disconnection, unresolved conflict, changing needs, or a desire to live apart but stay together. You’d work with a trusted expert to clarify what’s happening, explore what’s possible, and decide how to move forward. Held virtually, with in-person options available by request.

A short term skills-based series of sessions for couples who want practical tools to improve communication, repair patterns, eliminate resentments and/or build deeper connection. You’d learn and practice emotional skills together in a private, guided setting—virtually or in person, private or semi-private. Designed for couples who want more than insight: they want something they can use.

Small-group conversations for couples who want to explore big questions—like intimacy, aging, change, or reinvention—alongside others navigating similar experiences. These are not drop-ins or therapy groups. Each one is thoughtfully composed, guided by a facilitator, and held virtually, in person, or hybrid. Participation is by application.

A 2.5 -day immersion for couples who want more from this next chapter—more intimacy, clearer communication, a better sex life, and a deeper understanding of what’s truly possible together—and want to do it in the refined, elegant and comfortable setting of the world’s most exclusive resorts. You’ll engage in private work as a couple, select group conversations, and be guided by a curated team of relationship experts. Participation is by invitation. The small group is intentionally composed to support honest conversation, mutual respect, and emotional maturity.

None of these feel like the right fit for us right now. We’re not currently looking for this kind of support or exploration.

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Is there a kind of support, space, or conversation you wish existed—but haven’t seen here? Whether just for yourself, or something you’d want to explore with your partner—what feels most relevant or missing right now? Examples: small groups, navigating aging, caregiving, values, adult children, or spiritual shifts…

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Any advice or opinions you’d like to give before you go? What felt useful, what didn’t—for yourself or your relationship? e.g., “I’m interested; my partner…not so much.” (Optional, and appreciated.)