The Friendship Self-Assessment

1. When a friend succeeds, I…*

A. Celebrate them like it is my own winB. Say congrats but feel a little jealousC. Compare their success to mineD. Downplay it or stay silent

2. When my friend is going through something hard, I…*

A. Show up, listen, and ask how I can supportB. Send a quick message but do not follow upC. Avoid them because I do not know what to sayD. Disappear until they are back to normal

3. If my friend is not around, I…*

A. Protect their name like they are familyB. Stay neutral and say nothingC. Join in when others talk bad about themD. Lead the gossip or throw shade

4. When I make a mistake that hurts my friend, I…*

A. Own it, apologize, and try to fix itB. Say sorry but expect them to get over itC. Avoid the conversationD. Get defensive or flip it on them

5. If my friend outgrows certain things, I…*

A. Respect it and support their growthB. Feel a little left behind but try to adjustC. Mock or criticize their changeD. Try to pull them back into the old ways

6. When my friend sets boundaries, I…*

A. Respect them and adjust how I show upB. Feel a little bothered but try to honor themC. Take it personal and feel rejectedD. Ignore them and do what I want

7. In group settings, I…*

A. Make sure my friend feels seen and valuedB. Talk to them if no one else is aroundC. Exclude them to fit in with othersD. Clown them or make jokes at their expense

8. When my friend has a new opportunity, I…*

A. Uplift them and offer help if I canB. Say that is cool but do not engage muchC. Criticize or question if they deserve itD. Feel bitter or compete with them

9. If my friend disagrees with me, I…*

A. Listen and try to understand their pointB. Get quiet or frustratedC. Argue until they agree with meD. Cut them off or lash out

10. Overall, my friendship is built on…*

A. Loyalty, trust, and genuine careB. Good moments and shared interestsC. Control, convenience, or competitionD. Drama, ego, or one-sided benefit

Total Score

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