1. Consent Literacy Is Non-Negotiable
You must be able to articulate consent beyond “I agree.”
This includes:
- Understanding at least one consent framework (SSC, RACK, PRICK, FRIES, etc.)
- Knowing that consent is ongoing, informed, enthusiastic, and revocable
- Being able to explain how consent functions during power exchange—not just before it
2. You Can Differentiate Fantasy From Framework
Kink aesthetics, porn, and fantasy are not substitutes for practice.
You should be able to:
- Distinguish between roleplay and real-life identity
- Understand that power exchange is co-created, not something “done to” you
- Recognize that submission does not mean passivity, silence, or lack of agency
Remember: Wanting to “give up control” still requires active participation and communication.
3. You Have Language for Your Body, Limits, and Needs
You don’t need perfect terminology or know all of the lingo but you do need some specificity.
This includes:
- Being able to list hard limits, soft limits, and curiosities
- Having at least a preliminary understanding of your aftercare needs (or willingness to explore them collaboratively)
4. You Understand Obedience ≠ People Pleasing
Healthy submission is intentional, not self-erasing.
Readiness means:
- You can identify what you want, even while offering control
- You understand that obedience is negotiated, contextual, and consensual
- You are not relying on a Dominant to determine your worth, safety, or limits
Gentle Reminder: Power exchange is not a replacement for self-agency.
5. You Are Prepared for Professional Boundaries
Professional kink spaces are structured by design.
You must be comfortable with:
- Clear session scopes (not “anything goes”)
- No assumption of ongoing dynamics without explicit agreement
- Financial exchange as being part of the container and never a substitute for negotiation or care. Professional Dominance is not improvised intimacy.
- Documentation, vetting, and consent conversations as part of the process
6. Emotional Regulation Is Your Responsibility
Kink can be intense, vulnerable, and activating.
Readiness includes:
- Willingness to communicate discomfort or uncertainty
- Capacity to self-soothe alongside receiving care
- Understanding that a Dominant facilitates experiences, not emotional rescue
If this page feels confronting, confusing, or frustrating... pause there. That reaction itself is information worth exploring.
Kink readiness is learned, not innate. Education, reflection, and community engagement are encouraged before seeking professional or long-term power exchange. If you recognize that you’re curious but not yet fully prepared for professional kink or power exchange, I offer Guided Discovery sessions designed for education, reflection, and intentional exploration.
Guided Discovery is not a session, a dynamic, or a substitute for vetting. It is a structured container to:
Learn consent frameworks and negotiation language
Clarify desires, limits, and curiosities
Explore power exchange concepts without performance pressure
Build readiness without shame or urgency
If you’re seeking more understanding before booking or applying, this is the appropriate next step.
Link to Guided Discovery Form
If you have done the work and are kink-literate, I welcome you to proceed with the form.