Self-Coach Series: From People-Pleasing to Personal Power

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🔍 Why This Matters

Have you ever found yourself saying "yes" when you really meant "no"? Or holding back your opinion to keep the peace — even when it mattered to you?

Many of us move through life meeting others' expectations, keeping others comfortable, and doing what’s “practical” or “right” — yet deep down, we feel disconnected from what we truly want. Over time, this can lead to frustration, burnout, or a subtle sense that we’re living someone else’s version of our life.

Autonomy isn’t about being rebellious or rigid. It’s about knowing what matters to you — and making choices that reflect your values, even when it’s hard. It’s the foundation of integrity, self-trust, and authentic confidence.

This worksheet helps you pause, tune inward, and explore the moments where you’ve been compromising yourself — and what a more aligned response could look like. You’ll walk away clearer, calmer, and more connected to the part of you that knows what’s right — for you.

Guided Reflection

🔹 Step 1: Recognize the Disconnect

Where in life do you feel like you’re acting out of pressure, guilt, or habit rather than your own values?.

🔎 Where are you losing your voice or values?*

Describe what’s been happening in the disconnected area — and how it’s made you feel.

🔹 Step 3: Reconnect with Your Inner Compass

What truly matters to you in this area of your life? What values or principles do you want to stand for?

Call out the “shoulds” shaping your choices.*

Capture the rules, pressures, or internal expectations that have been steering your actions.

🔹 Step 2: Spot the “Shoulds”

What expectations (from others or yourself) are influencing your choices? How do they differ from what you really want?

Name what really matters to you in this area*

Write down the values, needs, or principles you want to honour — even if they’ve been buried for a while.

🔹 Step 4: Define a True-to-You Response

What’s a small action, decision, or boundary you could take that would feel more aligned — even if it's uncomfortable?

Describe one small action that feels more “you.”*

This could be a boundary, a new response, or a quiet change — something aligned with your values.

🔹 Step 5: Prepare for Inner/Outer Resistance

What doubts, fears, or pushback might show up — and how will you stay grounded in your decision?

Get honest about what might hold you back — and how you’ll stay grounded.*

Note any fears, doubts, or possible reactions from others, and how you plan to stay true to your decision.

🧭 Final Thoughts

Sometimes the most empowering thing you can do is pause and ask yourself, “What do I want — really?” Not what others expect. Not what feels safe or familiar. But what genuinely aligns with who you are and what you value.

This worksheet helped you create space to reconnect with that inner compass. And even one values-aligned decision — no matter how small — can begin to shift the direction of your day, your week, or even your life.

Of course, clarity is just one part of the journey. You might still encounter doubts, fears, or guilt that try to pull you back into old habits. That’s okay — it’s part of the process. If you noticed any recurring thought patterns or inner resistance while completing this worksheet, you might find the “From Difficult Thoughts to Empowered Action” worksheet helpful too. It’s designed to help you gently challenge limiting beliefs and regain mental clarity when you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed.

And if you'd like a safe space to talk through what surfaced, you’re warmly invited to book a free Clarity Chat. Sometimes all it takes is one honest conversation to turn clarity into action.

With care,
Larry
Mindplorer Well-Being™ — Rise from Within™
www.mindplorersg.com
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