What's Keeping You Up at Night

Which statement best describes your current situation?* This field is required.

We are contemplating divorce and unsure of next steps.

My spouse/partner has brought up divorce and I don't know what to do next.

We are currently in the midst of a divorce.

We are already divorced.

We were never married, but we have children together.

Do you and your partner have children together?

Yes

We are expecting a child.

Are you and your partner currently living together?

Yes

In the process of separating.

What type of process would you consider if you decide to move forward with divorce? (Choose all that you might be open to — no need to have it figured out yet)

Parent Team's Divorce with Dignity -Working with neutral professionals to reach agreements together, then either filing ourselves or having a drafting attorney finalize and file.

Each of us hiring our own attorneys and going to court attempting to mediate.

The collaborative law process- we each have attorneys and neutrals.

Doing it ourselves (DIY) with little to no professional help.

Not sure yet—I/we need to understand the options better.

Are both of you in agreement about what divorce process to use to move forward?

Yes, we’ve discussed it and are aligned.

Somewhat—we’ve talked, but we’re not on the same page.

Not at all—they don’t know I’m thinking.

Not sure.

What concerns are weighing on you most right now? (Choose all that apply)

What this means for my kids.

How/will our kids be able to adjust?

What this mean for us financially?

How to even start the process?

Whether I’m making the right decision?

What others will think (family, friends, community)?

If I’ll be okay on my own?

Whether I should talk to a lawyer or someone else first?

If we can do this amicably?

Other

What best describes how you're currently thinking about the kind of support or structure you might need if you move forward with divorce?(Choose the one that best fits right now)

I’d prefer a respectful, cooperative approach that keeps us out of court.

I want legal protection—I'm feeling vulnerable and would likely want an attorney to represent me.

I’m open to guidance, but I know we’ll need help navigating conflict.

I honestly have no idea yet.

What kind of support do you think you might need right now? (Choose all that apply)

A neutral guide to help us explore options.

Help with clarity if divorce is the right decision.

Help with accepting the reality that we are headed towards divorce.

Someone to talk to who won’t take sides.

Education about the divorce process.

Support talking to my partner about this.

A roadmap of next steps.

Financial clarity and planning.

Parenting plan guidance if we go down this path.

Not sure yet.

Currently, what is your preferred style of support as you begin to navigate this next chapter? (Choose 2 that feel most important to you right now)

I want to be educated so I can DIY where I can.

I’d rather keep lawyers out of it if possible.

I want help preparing to work with my attorney.

I prefer one-on-one support.

I prefer a structured program or group approach.

I want clear guidance from a neutral professional.

I want someone who understands how to support the whole family—not just the legal side

I value guidance from professionals who understand child development and emotional well-being during divorce.

I prefer that my partner and I work jointly with professional resources provided to allow us to move efficiently through this process.

Is there anything else you wished we would have asked and you would like to share with us at this time?

Do you and your partner have children together?

Yes

We are expecting a child.

Are you and your partner currently living together?

Yes

In the process of separating.

Have you two discussed divorce in the past, or was this a surprise?

We've discussed it before.

This came as a complete surprise.

We've had conflict, but not talked about divorce.

What best describes your mindset right now?

I want to try to repair the relationship.

I think divorce might be necessary, but I’m not ready.

I’m feeling frozen and overwhelmed.

Other

What type of process would you consider if you decide to move forward with divorce? (Choose all that you might be open to — no need to have it figured out yet)

Parent Team's Divorce with Dignity -Working with neutral professionals to reach agreements together, then either filing ourselves or having a drafting attorney finalize and file.

Each of us hiring our own attorneys and going to court attempting to mediate.

The collaborative law process- we each have attorneys and neutrals.

Doing it ourselves (DIY) with little to no professional help.

Not sure yet—I/we need to understand the options better.

What concerns are weighing on you most right now? (Choose all that apply)

What this means for my kids.

How/will our kids be able to adjust?

What this mean for us financially?

How to even start the process?

Whether I’m making the right decision?

What others will think (family, friends, community)?

If I’ll be okay on my own?

Whether I should talk to a lawyer or someone else first?

If we can do this amicably?

How do I overcome the heartache I am feeling?

Other

What best describes how you're currently thinking about the kind of support or structure you might need if you move forward with divorce?(Choose the one that best fits right now)

I’d prefer a respectful, cooperative approach that keeps us out of court.

I want legal protection—I'm feeling vulnerable and would likely want an attorney to represent me.

I’m open to guidance, but I know we’ll need help navigating conflict.

I honestly have no idea yet.

What kind of support do you think you might need right now? (Choose all that apply)

A neutral guide to help us explore options.

Help with clarity if divorce is the right decision.

Help with accepting the reality that we are headed towards divorce.

Someone to talk to who won’t take sides.

Education about the divorce process.

Support talking to my partner about this.

A roadmap of next steps.

Financial clarity and planning.

Parenting plan guidance if we go down this path.

Not sure yet.

Currently, what is your preferred style of support as you begin to navigate this next chapter? (Choose 2 that feel most important to you right now)

I want to be educated so I can DIY where I can.

I’d rather keep lawyers out of it if possible.

I want help preparing to work with my attorney.

I prefer one-on-one support.

I prefer a structured program or group approach.

I want clear guidance from a neutral professional.

I want someone who understands how to support the whole family—not just the legal side

I value guidance from professionals who understand child development and emotional well-being during divorce.

I prefer that my partner and I work jointly with professional resources provided to allow us to move efficiently through this process.

Do you and your partner have children together?

Yes

We are expecting a child.

Are you and your partner currently living together?

Yes

In the process of separating.

Have attorneys been hired yet?

Yes, we both have attorneys.

Only one of us has an attorney.

No, neither of us has hired an attorney.

No, neither of us has hired an attorney and didn't plan to but we are stuck.

Other

Which areas still feel unresolved, stuck, or unsettling? (Choose all that apply)

Parenting plan agreements

Division of finances.

Communication with my spouse/co-parent.

The legal process.

Lack of transparency with the process.

The back and forth with attorneys feels never-ending.

Emotional overwhelm.

I'm struggling to process the decisions I need to make, and I could use more support.

My spouse/co-parent has moved on and I haven't and I don't know how to work through this.

Everything feels stuck.

Other

How would you describe the tone between you and your spouse/co-parent right now?

Cooperative

Tense but civil

High-conflict

No contact

It varies day to day

Do you feel like you have the clarity and support you need to make informed decisions?

Yes

Somewhat

Not at all

What are you most worried about right now? (Select all that apply)

How this is impacting our kids.

Being treated fairly in the settlement.

I/we will overlook something we should have considered financially.

I/we will overlook something we should have considered regarding our parenting plan agreements.

Financial stability

Housing

The mental health of me or my co-parent.

How long this will drag on.

Being misunderstood by our attorneys or judges.

Losing control over the process.

Not being able to come to agreements to then the judge will just decide what they think is best.

Other

Do you feel like your attorney (if applicable) is supporting your goals?

Yes

Somewhat

Too soon to tell.

I don’t have an attorney.

What kind of support would feel most helpful right now? (Choose all that apply)

Help creating, finalizing or reviewing our parenting plan.

Help communicating or de-escalating with my spouse.

Financial clarity and decision-making support.

Mediation to avoid or reduce legal fees.

Help prepare me/us for meetings with my/our attorney(s).

Support staying grounded or managing stress.

Not sure yet.

Do you think your spouse or co-parent would be open to similar types of support?

Yes, I think they’d be open to it.

Maybe—it depends on how it’s presented.

No, I don’t believe they would be open to anything like this.

I’m not sure and I would not be the right person to ask them either.

I’m not sure but I would be willing to either email or talk to them and see if they are open to a conversation with a neutral party about additional supports.

I'm not sure.

Do you feel like your children (if applicable) have the support they need?

Yes, they tell us they are fine-but I'm not certain.

Yes, they are all set.

Not yet, but I’m working on it

No, I’m not sure what they need

Yes, they are fine, but I think we could be proactive and get some supports in place just to be sure it stays that way.

Not applicable.

I am unsure.

Is there anything else you'd like us to know that could help us support you better?

Do you and your partner have children together?

Yes

We are expecting a child.

How long has it been since your divorce was finalized?

Less than 6 months.

6–12 months

1–3 years

More than 3 years

Do you have a formal parenting plan (custody agreement) in place?

Yes

It’s informal / verbal

Not applicable

How well is your current parenting plan working for the kids and co-parents?

It’s working well.

It mostly works, but we have tension or confusion.

It needs a lot of adjustment.

We’re not following it anymore.

There are a lot of things missing and are causing a lot of conflict.

Not applicable.

How would you describe your communication with your co-parent?

Cooperative

Tense but manageable

High-conflict or emotionally triggering

No contact unless necessary

We don’t co-parent

Have there been significant changes since the divorce that affect your parenting or agreements? (Select all that apply)

New jobs or financial changes.

Moves

Schedule changes

Re-partnering or blended families

Health issues

Mental health concerns

Substance abuse

No major changes

Other

What are you finding most challenging at this stage? (Select all that apply)

Coordinating with my co-parent.

Emotional recovery or personal growth.

Creating financial stability or rebuilding.

Introducing new partners or step-parents.

Disagreements about parenting decisions.

Ongoing legal or logistical complications.

Helping our children adjust.

Other

Do you feel like your children (if applicable) have the support they need?

Yes, they tell us they are fine-but I'm not certain.

Yes, they are all set.

Not yet, but I’m working on it

No, I’m not sure what they need

Yes, they are fine, but I think we could be proactive and get some supports in place just to be sure it stays that way.

Not applicable.

I am unsure.

Do you think your current situation could improve with additional support or guidance?

Yes, definitely

Maybe

Not sure, but I will try anything at this point.

Probably not

What kind of support would feel most helpful right now? (Select all that apply)

Help improving co-parent communication.

A neutral coach or mediator for parenting challenges.

Revisiting or updating the parenting plan.

Financial guidance or planning.

Personal coaching or emotional support.

Support for my children.

I’m not sure yet.

Would you like this support to be just for you, or something you and your co-parent explore together?

Just me — I’m looking for individual support.

Ideally, something we do together.

I’d like to do this together, but I’m not sure my co-parent would be open to it.

I’m committed to improving things and want support even if my co-parent won’t participate

I’m open to either, depending on what’s recommended.

Is there anything else you’d like us to know about your post-divorce experience?

Do you have a current parenting plan or custody arrangement in place?

Yes, it’s court-ordered

Yes, but it’s informal

No formal agreement

We’re still working it out

How would you describe the co-parenting relationship right now?

Cooperative

Inconsistent or unclear communication

High-conflict

We don’t communicate at all

It varies

What’s working well in your current arrangement? (Tell us in 3-5 sentences)

What’s been most difficult or stressful about co-parenting right now? (Check all that apply)

Inconsistent communication

Lack of agreement on schedules or decisions

Concerns about child wellbeing

Financial responsibilities or support

Emotional triggers or past relationship conflict

Lack of legal clarity or structure

Other

Have you had any legal guidance, mediation, or outside support to create your parenting agreement?

Yes

Just beginning to explore options

Do you feel your child/children are getting the support they need in this arrangement?

Yes

Somewhat

Not sure

Are there specific topics you and your co-parent continue to struggle with? (Select all that apply)

Schedules and transitions

Decision-making (schools, doctors, etc.)

Communication and boundaries

Financial contributions

Introducing new partners or changes in home life

Everything feels hard

None right now

Other

Would you like this support to be just for you, or something you and your co-parent explore together?

Just me — I’m looking for individual support.

Ideally, something we do together.

I’d like to do this together, but I’m not sure my co-parent would be open to it.

I’m committed to improving things and want support even if my co-parent won’t participate

I’m open to either, depending on what’s recommended.

Do you think your co-parent would be open to working together with support?

Yes

Maybe

I'm not sure

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