Experiences of Relationships Scale - Updated

Experiences of Relationships Scale
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The statements below concern how you feel in emotionally intimate relationships. We are interested in how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current relationship. Respond to each statement by circling a number to indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement.
1. I'm afraid that I will lose my partner's love. *

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1 is Strongly Disagree, 7 is Strong Agree
2. I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me. *

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3. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me. *

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1 is Strongly Disagree, 7 is Strong Agree
4. I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as much as I care about them. *

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5. I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him or her. *

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6. I worry a lot about my relationships. *

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7. When my partner is out of sight, I worry that he or she might become interested in someone else. *

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8. When I show my feelings for romantic partners, I'm afraid they will not feel the same about me. *

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9. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me. *

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9. Reverse:*
10. My romantic partner makes me doubt myself*

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11. I do not often worry about being abandoned. *

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12. I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I would like. *

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13. Sometimes romantic partners change their feelings about me for no apparent reason. *

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14. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away. *

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15. I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won't like who I really am. *

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16. It makes me mad that I don't get the affection and support I need from my partner. *

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17. I worry that I won't measure up to other people. *

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18. My partner only seems to notice me when I’m angry. *

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19. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down. *

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20. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner. *

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21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners. *

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22. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners. *

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23. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners. *

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24. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners. *

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25. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close. *

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26. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner. *

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27. It's not difficult for me to get close to my partner. *

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28. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner. *

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29. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need. *

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30. I tell my partner just about everything. *

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31. I talk things over with my partner. *

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32. I am nervous when partners get too close to me*

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33. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners. *

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34. I find it easy to depend on romantic partners. *

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35. It's easy for me to be affectionate with my partner. *

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36. My partner really understands me and my needs. *

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36. Reverse:*
1–18 → Attachment-Related Anxiety*
Anxiety Mean:*
Anxiety Attachement:*
19–36 → Attachment-Related Avoidance*
Avoidance Mean:*
Avoidance Attachement:*
Attachement Style:*
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