Attachment style quick assessment

Ever felt stuck in your relationships or wondered why you feel disconnected? It's like you're navigating without a map.

This simple, 5-minute assessment is that roadmap. It's a confidential starting point to gain profound insights into your relational patterns and discover a clear path toward building healthier, more authentic connections—and a more whole and integrated life.

Think of a time in the last month when you felt stressed or triggered in a close relationship. Take a minute to close your eyes and recall the situation.

Pay attention to your body's response as you remember. This immediate, gut reaction often reveals your attachment system in action.

Now, let's revisit the situation you brought to mind in Step 1, but from a different angle.

(If you wrote it down, it was: {Situation})

Think about that moment of distress, loss, or threat to your sense of meaning. What was your initial emotional response to your connection with the sacred?

(This could be God, a higher power, the universe, or your sense of life's ultimate meaning.)

Thank you for your thoughtful reflection. Here’s a summary of what you shared:

The situation you reflected on:
{Situation}

Your response to stress:
{Step1NoticeYourStressResponse}

Your pattern with others:
{Step2IdentifyYourCorePatternWithOthers}

Your spiritual pattern:
{Step3IdentifyYourCoreSpiritualPattern}

Remember: Whatever patterns you identified, meet them with compassion. They developed for good reasons—they helped you survive. They are not a life sentence; they are simply your starting point for growth.

If you identified an insecure pattern, you're in good company—research shows that around 40% of people share this journey. If your patterns are secure, take a moment to be grateful for the people in your life who helped you develop that internal security.

Reflection questions

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