Grow for Good

  • Relational Patterns Assessment

    Know yourself. Grow from there.

  • Ever felt stuck in your relationships or wondered why you feel disconnected? It's like you're navigating without a map.

    This simple, 10-minute assessment is that roadmap. It's a confidential starting point to gain profound insights into your relational patterns and discover a clear path toward building healthier, more authentic connections — and a more whole and integrated life.

  • Step 1: Notice Your Stress Response

  • Think of a time in the last month when you felt stressed or triggered in a close relationship.

    Take a minute to close your eyes and recall the situation.

  • Select the statement below that best represents how you responded:*

  • Pay attention to your body's response as you remember. This immediate, gut reaction often reveals your attachment system in action.

  • Step 2: Identify your core pattern with others

  • Based on your response '{Step1NoticeYourStressResponse}', which pattern feels most true for you in your close relationships?*

  • Step 3: Identify Your Core Spiritual Pattern

  • Now, let's revisit the situation you brought to mind in Step 1, but from a different angle.

    If you wrote it down, it was: '{Situation}'.

    Think about that moment of distress, loss, or threat to your sense of meaning.

    What was your initial emotional response to your connection with God?

    This could be the sacred, a higher power, the universe, or your sense of life's ultimate meaning.

  • Which pattern fits best overall?*

  • Step 4: Embrace Your Starting Point

    From awareness to compassion.

  • Thank you for your thoughtful reflection.

    The situation you reflected on:
    {Situation}

    Your response to stress:
    {Step1NoticeYourStressResponse}

    Your pattern with others:
    {Step2IdentifyYourCorePatternWithOthers}

    Your spiritual pattern:
    {Step3IdentifyYourCoreSpiritualPattern}

    Whatever patterns you identified, meet them with compassion. They developed for good reasons—they helped you survive. They are not a life sentence; they are simply your starting point for growth.

    If you identified an insecure pattern, you're in good company—research shows that around 40% of people share this journey. If your patterns are secure, take a moment to be grateful for the people in your life who helped you develop that internal security.

    Reflection questions

  • Step 5: Get Your Personalised Results

  • To receive a personalised email of your complete assessment, including your situation and reflections, please enter your name and email below. This report can be a valuable touchstone for your growth journey.

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