Couples Questionnaire

  • Information.

    Answering the below questions will give us a detailed picture of you, your relationship and who your partner might be from your current perspective. It will also help you to understand aspects of your unique perspective in more detail. Our algorithm favours honesty, self awareness and a commitment to growth.
  • Today's Date*
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  • Date of birth*
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  • Do you attend a place of worship?*

  • Intro Questions

  • How was your childhood?*
  • How were your teenage years?*
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  • How were your twenties?*
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  • How many romantic relationships lasting greater than one year "without a break or break up(s)" have you had?*
  • How many romantic relationships lasting greater than one year "with a break or break up(s)" have you had?*
  • Have you been unfaithful?*
  • Has someone been unfaithful to you?*
  • Did you stay together after you discovered your partner was unfaithful?*
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  • There are things about me and my past my partner does not know.*
  • If my partner found out about these things they might leave me.*
  • Cheating is, any act you would not want your partner to see or know about.*
  • Are your parents still together?*
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  • Do you personally know a couple who has a high quality relationship?*
  • 0/250
  • Do you personally interact regularly with a couple that you consider toxic?*
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  • Do you personally interact regularly with a person(s) that you consider toxic?*
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  • Category One

    Communication & Understanding
  • We communicate openly about our feelings without fear of judgment.*
  • I feel heard and understood by my partner.*
  • We can discuss difficult topics without escalating into conflict.*
  • We both take responsibility for misunderstandings.*
  • We actively listen to each other without interrupting.*
  • We express appreciation for each other regularly.*
  • I feel comfortable being honest, even about uncomfortable things.*
  • We talk about our goals and priorities openly.*
  • I understand my partner’s communication style.*
  • We repair communication breakdowns effectively.*

  • Category Two

    Trust & Emotional Safety
  • I can rely on my partner to keep their promises.*
  • My partner’s actions align with their words.*
  • I feel emotionally safe to be vulnerable.*
  • We’re transparent about important matters (finances, commitments, etc.)*
  • My partner respects my boundaries.*
  • We’re honest about mistakes or lapses in judgment.*
  • I believe my partner has my best interests at heart.*
  • Jealousy or insecurity rarely impact our connection.*
  • We both feel free to maintain individual friendships or interests.*
  • I trust my partner fully, even when we’re apart.*

  • Category Three

    Shared vision & Values
  • We share a similar vision for our future together.*
  • Our values align on key issues (family, lifestyle, purpose).*
  • We support each other’s goals and ambitions*
  • We make big decisions collaboratively*
  • Differences in beliefs or perspectives need to be unpacked*
  • We share similar priorities around money and time*
  • We regularly revisit our goals as a couple*
  • I feel that we’re "on the same team."*
  • We handle disagreements in a way that strengthens alignment*
  • Our shared values guide how we handle challenges.*

  • Category Four

    Intimacy & Affection
  • I feel emotionally connected to my partner.*
  • Physical affection is a natural part of our relationship*
  • We talk openly about our sexual needs and boundaries.*
  • Our physical intimacy feels mutual and fulfilling.*
  • We prioritise quality time together.*
  • Small gestures of affection are common between us.*
  • We express love in ways that matter to both of us.*
  • I feel desired and valued by my partner.*
  • We can discuss mismatched desire without shame or blame.*
  • Our emotional and physical closeness reinforces each other.*
  • How many times per week would you prefer to have sex?*
  • Which is your strongest motivation for sex?*
  • What do you believe your partner's strongest motivation for sex is?*

  • Category Five

    Conflict & Resilience
  • We resolve disagreements respectfully*
  • We focus on solutions, not blame.*
  • We apologise and forgive readily.*
  • We avoid letting resentment build.*
  • We can discuss mistakes without shame or attack.*
  • Conflict doesn’t linger and poison the atmosphere.*
  • We learn from arguments instead of repeating them.*
  • Stressful times bring us closer together.*
  • We can disagree without doubting the relationship.*
  • We both contribute to repairing after conflict.*

  • Bonus Questions

  • Would you rather avoid uncomfortable conversations to keep peace now, or confront issues directly even if it causes short-term conflict?*
  • Would your partner rather avoid uncomfortable conversations to keep peace now, or confront issues directly even if it causes short-term conflict?*
  • Yelling in an argument with your partner is acceptable*
  • Should partners have access to each other’s phones, social media, or private messages?*
  • Would you feel nervous if your partner was given an hour to look through your phone?*
  • Do you believe strong relationships are found (soulmates) or built (through effort)?*
  • Do you believe your partner is your soulmate?*
  • Do you believe you can build a fantastic relationship with your current partner?*
  • Would you rather have a partner who’s always kind but occasionally dishonest, or always honest but sometimes harsh?*
  • Do you have seperate finances or combined.*
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