SAFEWORDS: A safeword is a pre-agreed word or phrase used to pause or stop the dynamic immediately, ensuring comfort, consent, and safety for everyone involved. While I personally do not perform excessive aftercare, I may stay to help ground you, or request you drink/eat something.
You’re welcome to suggest your own preferred safeword(s), or we can use the commonly accepted stoplight system, outlined below:
Red Light: Stop immediately. This signals that a boundary has been reached or something feels wrong, and all activity must cease without question. No not feel guilty for using this.
Yellow Light: Slow down or proceed with caution. This indicates discomfort, uncertainty, or the need to pause, check in, or adjust. PLEASE let me know if you would like to check in, adjust or make chances. Do not feel guilty for using this.
Green Light: Everything feels good, and you’re comfortable continuing. This confirms consent and enthusiasm. If you’re excited, expressing that enthusiasm is encouraged, appreciated and welcomed.
The stoplight system may be used whenever needed; “green” does not need to be stated constantly, but “yellow” or “red” should be used immediately if discomfort or boundaries arise.