The Love Literacy Study
How many years have you been married?
Are you male or female?
Male
Female
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Expectations at The Beginning
When you first got married, did you believe love would mostly feel easy?
Yes
Mostly
Not Really
No
Did you expect your spouse to naturally understand your emotional needs without much explanation?
Yes
Sometimes
Not Really
No
Did you believe that strong love would automatically protect your marriage from drifting apart?
Yes
I think so
Probably Not
No
Lived Experience Now
Do you currently feel as emotionally connected as you expected you would?
More than expected
About what I expected
Less than expected
Much less
Have you ever thought, “This isn’t what I imagined marriage would feel like”?
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
Do you feel chosen in your marriage right now?
Yes
Sometimes
Not Really
No
What has been the biggest surprise about marriage?
How much work it takes
How lonely it can feel
How quickly resentment can build
How different it is from what I expected
The Gap
When you first got married, did you think that love would be enough to keep you both happy?
Absolutely
Kind of
No
Do you believe love is mostly a feeling… or mostly a decision?
Feeling
Decision
Both
I'm not sure
Growth Readiness
If someone taught you practical relationship skills, would you want to learn them?
Yes definitely
Probably
Maybe
No
If nothing changed would you feel fulfulled staying in this marriage?
Yes, I feel fulfilled as things are
Mostly, but something is missing
I'm not sure anymore
No, something needs to change
Thank you for contributing to the Love Literacy research.
If you are ready to feel more deeply connected and fulfilled in your marriage, I would love to support you.
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