What Areas Do I Need to Heal?
A self-reflection quiz to help you identify areas for emotional healing and growth.
Instructions
Rate each statement from 1 (Never true) to 5 (Very true). Be honest—this is about awareness, not shame.
Father Wound / Abandonment Healing
Rate each statement below.
I struggle to trust authority figures.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I fear being left or rejected.
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Never true
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I overwork or overachieve to feel validated.
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Never true
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I feel emotionally guarded in relationships.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I crave affirmation but don’t believe it fully when I receive it.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
Self-Worth & Identity Healing
Rate each statement below.
I compare myself to other women often.
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Never true
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I feel “not enough” in certain areas of my life.
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Never true
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I apologize excessively.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I struggle to accept compliments.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I tie my value to performance or productivity.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
Relationship & Attachment Healing
Rate each statement below.
I attract emotionally unavailable partners.
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Never true
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I ignore red flags to avoid being alone.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I struggle with boundaries.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I feel anxious when someone pulls away.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I stay longer than I should in unhealthy situations.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
Emotional Regulation & Trauma Healing
Rate each statement below.
I overreact to minor situations.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I shut down when overwhelmed.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I avoid difficult conversations.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I replay painful memories frequently.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I struggle to feel safe emotionally.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
Forgiveness & Bitterness Healing
Rate each statement below.
I think about someone who hurt me often.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I feel resentment toward someone from my past.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I struggle to forgive fully.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I feel anger when certain topics are mentioned.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I rehearse conversations I wish I had.
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Never true
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
Control & Anxiety Healing
Rate each statement below.
I need things to go a certain way to feel calm.
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Very true
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I struggle to surrender outcomes.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I overthink decisions.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I fear worst-case scenarios often.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
I feel responsible for fixing everything.
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1 is Never true, 5 is Very true
Scoring Guide
For each section:
• 20–25 → Strong healing focus needed
• 15–19 → Moderate healing work recommended
• 10–14 → Mild area of growth
• Below 10 → Likely not a primary healing focus
Reflect on your top 1–2 highest sections. These are your current healing priorities.
Reflection Prompts
Consider these prompts for deeper self-awareness.
Where did this pattern begin in my life?
Who or what shaped this belief?
What would a healed version of me look like in this area?
What step can I take this month toward healing?
Closing Declaration
“I am not broken — I am becoming. God is healing what hurt me and restoring what shaped me.”
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