The Invisible Load Self-Assessment

A short reflection for women who are used to carrying too much on their own

This short assessment is designed to help you reflect on how much you’ve been holding — and whether now might be the time for a different kind of support.

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1. Do you find yourself continuing to take on responsibility — even when you know you’re already at capacity?*

Generally YesGenerally No

2. When support is offered, do you instinctively assess whether it will meet your standards — and often decide it’s easier to do it yoursel*

Generally YesGenerally No

3. Do you feel a quiet, ongoing pressure to hold things together — for your work, your family, or the people around you?*

Generally YesGenerally No

4. Do you rarely feel fully “off” — even during time that is supposed to be yours?*

Generally YesGenerally No

5. Do you notice moments of resentment about how much you’re carrying — even if you don’t express it?*

Generally YesGenerally No

6. Have others commented that you take on too much, or that you don’t ask for help?*

Generally YesGenerally No

7. Do you tend to override your body’s signals (fatigue, tension, overwhelm) in order to keep going?*

Generally YesGenerally No

8. Do you feel more comfortable being the one others rely on than being the one who needs support?*

Generally YesGenerally No

9. Do you often think about what needs to be done next — even when you’re trying to rest?*

Generally YesGenerally No

10. Do you find it difficult to fully trust that someone else can hold things with you — or for you?*

Generally YesGenerally No

11. Do you hold yourself to a standard that leaves very little room for rest, uncertainty, or imperfection?*

Generally YesGenerally No

12. Are you open to the possibility that the way you’ve been carrying everything may no longer be the way forward?*

Generally YesGenerally No