Real Life IT — Deep Dive Assessment

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A few things first. There are no right answers in here — only honest ones, and no one's grading you. Answer how things really are, not how you wish they were. Don't rush it; this isn't a quiz to beat. When you reach the end, you'll get your Real Life Score, your season, and which of the four types you are. Let's go.
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I spent 20 years lost in addiction before everything changed. This is the assessment I wish someone had handed me back then. Be honest in here — not impressive, honest. That's where it all starts. — Mike
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Full Name* This field is required.
First Name
Last Name
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Email Address* This field is required.
example@example.com
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These questions help us understand where you are in your recovery journey — your support system, your inner world, and the foundation underneath everything else. Answer as honestly as you can. There are no right or wrong answers, only true ones. Keep going.

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When was the last time you used your primary substance or engaged in your primary compulsive behavior?* This field is required.
Within the past 24 hours
Within the past week
Within the past month
Within the past year
Over a year ago or never
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How would you describe your relationship with Jesus right now?* This field is required.
I don't believe or I'm distant from faith entirely
I believe but I feel far from Him right now
I'm reconnecting but it's inconsistent
I have a regular walk with Him most days
He is the center of my daily life
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Do you currently have an accountability partner, sponsor, or trusted person you talk to regularly about your recovery?* This field is required.
No — I'm doing this alone
I have someone but we rarely talk
I talk to someone about once a month
I talk to someone every week
I have multiple people who know my full story
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How would you describe your current faith foundation?* This field is required.
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I have no faith foundation
My faith is the anchor of everything I do
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How often do you attend a recovery meeting — Celebrate Recovery, AA, NA, church group, or similar?* This field is required.
Never
Only when I'm in crisis
Once a month or so
Once a week
Multiple times a week
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When a craving or temptation hits, what do you typically do?* This field is required.
I give in almost immediately
I try to resist alone and often fail
I distract myself with something else
I call someone and talk it through
I pray first then reach out to my support network
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On a scale of 1 to 10, how strong is your current relapse prevention plan?* This field is required.
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No plan at all
Clear, tested, and ready
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How honest are you with the people closest to you about your struggles?* This field is required.
I hide everything
I share surface-level things only
I'm honest with one or two people sometimes
I'm honest with my inner circle most of the time
I live transparently — no secrets
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How well have you identified and begun to address the root pain underneath your addiction or compulsive behavior?* This field is required.
I haven't looked at it yet
I know something is there but haven't addressed it
I'm aware of it and working on it slowly
I've done significant work on the root causes
I've done deep work and continue to tend it
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When a craving or trigger hits, how well do you recognize it before it takes over?* This field is required.
I usually don't realize it until after
Sometimes I catch it but not consistently
I recognize it about half the time
I usually catch it early
I recognize triggers quickly and have a response ready
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How often does shame or guilt about your past pull you back toward old patterns?* This field is required.
Almost daily — it's heavy and constant
Frequently — it shows up most weeks
Sometimes — certain seasons are harder than others
Rarely — I've processed most of it
Almost never — I walk in grace and forgiveness
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How would you describe the health of your closest family relationships right now?* This field is required.
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Deeply strained or broken
Genuine source of strength and support
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You're doing real work here.

Most people never get this honest with themselves.

Keep going.
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Do you currently have a sponsor or mentor further along in recovery who you can call in a crisis?* This field is required.
No — I have no one like that
I have someone but wouldn't feel comfortable calling in a crisis
I have someone I could call but rarely do
Yes and I've used them in difficult moments
Yes — this relationship is active, consistent, and life-giving
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How do you currently handle boredom or unstructured time?* This field is required.
It's one of my biggest triggers — I don't have a plan
I struggle with it and often default to old patterns
I have some strategies but they don't always work
I usually navigate it well with healthy activities
I have consistent healthy defaults and rarely struggle
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How often do you process grief, loss, or difficult emotions in a healthy way?* This field is required.
Never — I avoid it
Rarely — I push it down
Sometimes — when it becomes unavoidable
Regularly — I have some practices and people to go to
Consistently — I process emotions as they come and don't let them pile up
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When you are confronted or criticized, how do you typically respond?* This field is required.
I get defensive or shut down immediately
I feel attacked and usually react poorly
I'm working on it — sometimes I respond well sometimes not
I can usually hear feedback without losing my footing
I receive correction with gratitude — I know it makes me sharper
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How consistently do you practice daily spiritual disciplines — prayer, Scripture, worship, or meditation?* This field is required.
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No consistent spiritual practices
Every day non-negotiable
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How intentional are you about your digital environment — what you watch, scroll, and consume online?* This field is required.
Not at all — it's an open door to a lot of harmful content
Somewhat — I know it's a problem but haven't made changes
I've made some changes but there's still significant work to do
I'm fairly intentional and have healthy guardrails in place
My digital environment is clean monitored and consistently aligned with my recovery
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How well do you manage your emotions without using substances, behaviors, or unhealthy coping mechanisms?* This field is required.
Very poorly — emotions almost always lead to acting out
Poorly — I struggle more often than not
Inconsistently — some emotions I handle others not
Pretty well most of the time
I have strong emotional regulation and healthy tools I actually use
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Have you made amends or taken meaningful steps toward the people you've hurt in your past?* This field is required.
No — I haven't started
I've thought about it but haven't acted
I've made some amends — it's a work in progress
I've made most of the amends I'm able to make
I've done thorough amends work and continue to make things right when needed
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How consistent are your daily routines — sleep, meals, exercise, quiet time?* This field is required.
I have no consistent daily routine
I have a loose routine that I follow occasionally
Some routines are solid others are unreliable
Most of my daily routines are consistent and working
My daily routines are strong intentional and life-giving
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How would you describe your current level of hope for your financial and health future — not just recovery?* This field is required.
I feel hopeless about all three areas of my life
I have hope for recovery but not really for health or finances
I have some hope across all three but it feels fragile
I'm genuinely hopeful about all three and taking action
I have clear vision active plans and deep hope across all three
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How connected are you to a healthy community beyond just recovery meetings?* This field is required.
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Isolated no real community
Deeply connected to a life-giving community
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If you slipped or relapsed today, do you know exactly what you would do in the next 24 hours?* This field is required.
No — I would hide it and try to deal with it alone
I'd probably struggle alone for a while before reaching out
I have a vague idea but not a real plan
I have a plan and people I would contact
I have a clear tested plan immediate contacts and I would act on it without hesitation
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I feel alone in my recovery journey.* This field is required.
Completely — no one truly knows what I am going through
Mostly — I have people around but they don't see the real me
Sometimes — depending on the day or season
Rarely — I am usually known and connected
Almost never — I have deep consistent connection I can count on
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I am carrying guilt or shame I cannot seem to put down.* This field is required.
Yes — it is heavy and constant
Frequently — it weighs on me most days
Sometimes — it surfaces in certain seasons
Rarely — I have processed most of it
Almost never — I walk in grace and forgiveness
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It is hard for me to trust other people.* This field is required.
Yes — I trust no one with anything real
Mostly — I am guarded with almost everyone
It is a struggle but I have one or two I let in
I can trust the right people most of the time
I trust my inner circle deeply and discern others wisely
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My family or closest relationships make my recovery more difficult.* This field is required.
Yes — they are a constant trigger or source of harm
Mostly — there is more damage than support
Mixed — some help some hurt
Mostly supportive even when imperfect
They are a strong source of support for my recovery
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It is hard to let go of the part of my identity tied to my using or acting out.* This field is required.
Yes — that is still who I see when I look in the mirror
Mostly — I know I should let it go but it is who I have been
I am working on it but it is a real struggle
I see myself differently most of the time
I have fully released that identity — I am a new creation
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How would you describe your overall sense of hope about your future?* This field is required.
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I have almost no hope right now
I have deep grounded hope I know where I'm headed
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These questions look at how well you're stewarding the body God gave you — sleep, nutrition, movement, stress, and overall vitality. Your physical health and your recovery are more connected than most people realize.
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How many hours of sleep do you get on a typical night?* This field is required.
Less than 5 hours
5 to 6 hours
6 to 7 hours
7 to 8 hours
8 or more hours consistently
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How would you describe your typical daily eating pattern?* This field is required.
I rarely eat regular meals it's very inconsistent
I eat one or two meals a day often fast food or processed
I eat somewhat regularly but nutrition is not a priority
I eat fairly consistently with reasonable nutrition most days
I eat intentionally prioritize whole foods and fuel my body well
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How many days per week do you engage in intentional physical movement or exercise?* This field is required.
Zero I'm not active
One to two days
Three days
Four to five days
Six or more days consistently
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How would you describe your typical energy level throughout the day?* This field is required.
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Completely depleted I struggle to function
High and consistent energy all day
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How much water do you drink on a typical day?* This field is required.
Almost none, mostly coffee, soda, or other drinks
A glass or two at most
About half the recommended amount
Close to 8 glasses or more most days
I'm well-hydrated consistently it's a priority
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How consistent is your morning routine?* This field is required.
I have no morning routine
I have a loose routine I follow occasionally
My routine is inconsistent good days and bad
I have a solid morning routine most days
My morning routine is consistent intentional and sets up my whole day
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How often do you eat breakfast or have a nourishing first meal?* This field is required.
Almost never
Rarely maybe once or twice a week
A few times a week
Most days
Every day it's part of my routine
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How would you describe your relationship with sugar and processed carbohydrates?* This field is required.
I rely on them heavily they are a daily staple
I eat a lot of them and know it's a problem
I eat more than I should but am working on it
I manage it pretty well most of the time
I'm intentional about limiting sugar and processed carbs consistently
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How consistent is your bedtime — do you go to sleep around the same time each night?* This field is required.
Completely inconsistent I sleep at random times
Mostly inconsistent varies by hours each night
Somewhat consistent within an hour or two most nights
Fairly consistent same window most nights
Very consistent I protect my sleep schedule intentionally
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How much screen time do you have in the hour before bed?* This field is required.
I'm on screens right up until I fall asleep
Usually 30 to 60 minutes of screens before bed
I try to limit it but don't always succeed
I usually put screens away 30 to 45 minutes before bed
I have a consistent no-screen wind-down routine every night
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How does stress typically show up in your body?* This field is required.
I carry constant physical tension headaches tight muscles stomach issues
I notice stress physically pretty often
I feel it sometimes but manage it okay
I notice it quickly and have some tools to address it
I have strong body awareness and address stress before it accumulates
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How would you describe your current exercise type and structure?* This field is required.
No exercise of any kind
Occasional walking or light activity only
Some cardio or movement but no real structure
A mix of cardio and some strength training on a schedule
Structured consistent strength training plus cardio on a regular schedule
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When life gets stressful, what happens to your health habits?* This field is required.
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Everything collapses
My health habits are the anchor I return to
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Halfway through Health.

You're doing the work most people put off.

Keep going.
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Do you currently take any supplements to support your health?* This field is required.
No I take nothing
Just a basic multivitamin occasionally
A few basic supplements inconsistently
A consistent supplement routine that I've researched
A well-structured intentional supplement protocol aligned with my health goals
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How often do you see a primary care provider or have a wellness checkup?* This field is required.
Never I avoid doctors
Only when something is seriously wrong
Every few years
About once a year
Annually plus I proactively monitor labs and biomarkers
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How consistent is your exercise schedule week to week?* This field is required.
Completely inconsistent I rarely follow through
I start and stop frequently
I'm consistent for a week or two then fall off
Mostly consistent with occasional misses
Very consistent exercise is a non-negotiable part of my week
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Do you have a regular mindfulness, breathing, or prayer practice that calms your nervous system?* This field is required.
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No nothing like that
Consistent daily practice that genuinely grounds me
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How would you describe your mental clarity and focus on a typical day?* This field is required.
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Foggy and unfocused most of the time
Sharp clear and focused consistently
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How often do you experience headaches, tension, or chronic physical pain?* This field is required.
Daily it significantly affects my quality of life
Several times a week
A few times a month
Occasionally rarely affects my function
Almost never I feel physically well most of the time
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How often do you cook meals at home versus eating out or ordering in?* This field is required.
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Rarely do I eat out or order in, almost every meal
Mostly eating out, maybe one home meal a week
About half and half
I cook most meals at home
I cook almost all my meals intentionally and prioritize whole ingredients
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How much time do you spend outside in natural light on a typical day?* This field is required.
Almost none
Less than 15 minutes
15 to 30 minutes
30 to 60 minutes
More than an hour outdoors in natural light most days
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How would you describe your gut health — digestion, bloating, regularity?* This field is required.
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Significant ongoing issues
Strong I pay attention to gut health and it shows
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Do you actively track or monitor any health metrics?* This field is required.
No I don't track anything
I occasionally check my weight
I track one or two things somewhat consistently
I track several metrics regularly
I actively monitor sleep nutrition movement and key biomarkers
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How would you describe your current fitness — could you handle an unexpected physical demand?* This field is required.
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No my physical condition is very poor
In strong physical condition and regularly challenge myself
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Overall, how would you rate your current physical health and vitality?* This field is required.
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Very poor I feel unwell most of the time
Excellent I feel strong clear and fully alive
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These questions look at your relationship with money — your awareness, your habits, your mindset, and your progress toward freedom. This is the section most people want to skip. Don't. This is where real life change happens.
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How would you describe your current relationship with money?* This field is required.
Money is a source of constant stress and anxiety
I avoid thinking about money because it feels overwhelming
I'm aware of the issues but haven't made real progress
I'm making progress and have some things working
I have a healthy intentional relationship with money
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Do you currently use a monthly budget?* This field is required.
No I have no budget
I've tried but never stuck with it
I have a loose budget I follow inconsistently
I have a budget I follow most months
I use a written zero-based budget every month without exception
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How often do you spend money to cope with stress, boredom, or difficult emotions?* This field is required.
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Very often it's one of my primary coping mechanisms
Almost never money and emotional coping are separate for me
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How would you describe your current debt situation?* This field is required.
Severe I am in a debt crisis with no clear path out
Significant debt that feels overwhelming
Manageable debt that affects my life and choices
Some debt I'm actively working to eliminate
I am debt-free or within reach with a clear plan
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Do you have any savings — even a small emergency fund?* This field is required.
Nothing at all
Less than $100 saved
A few hundred dollars
One to three months of expenses saved
Three or more months of expenses in an accessible account
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What was the primary message you received about money growing up?* This field is required.
Money was a source of shame conflict or secrecy
We never had enough — scarcity was the constant message
Money wasn't really discussed
Money was handled practically but without much intentionality
I had healthy financial modeling and education growing up
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How well do you track your income and spending each month?* This field is required.
I have no idea where my money goes
I have a rough sense but no real tracking
I check my bank app occasionally
I track most transactions most months
I track every dollar every month — nothing is unaccounted for
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If an unexpected $500 expense hit you today, what would happen?* This field is required.
It would be a financial crisis with no good options
I'd use a credit card and go into more debt
I'd figure it out but it would seriously stress my budget
I'd handle it from savings without major disruption
I'd cover it easily from my emergency fund and replenish it
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Do you consistently save a portion of your income each month?* This field is required.
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No there is nothing left to save
I automate savings every month before spending begins
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How much does financial stress affect your mental health, relationships, or recovery?* This field is required.
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Minimally my finances are stable
Severely it is one of my biggest stressors
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Do you have written financial goals?* This field is required.
No I've never written down financial goals
I've thought about goals but never written them
I have vague goals I've written somewhere
I have written goals I review occasionally
I have clear written financial goals I review and act on regularly
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Do you give or tithe regularly?* This field is required.
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No giving isn't part of my financial picture right now
Generous giving is a non-negotiable part of my financial life
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Final stretch.

These last questions matter.

Answer honestly — the more truthful you are, the more powerful your results.
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How would you describe your relationship with credit cards?* This field is required.
I rely on credit cards to cover basic living expenses
I use credit cards regularly and carry a balance
I use credit cards and sometimes carry a balance
I use credit cards carefully and pay them off monthly
I don't use credit cards — cash and debit only
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Are you currently investing for retirement or long-term financial growth?* This field is required.
No no investments of any kind
I have an old account somewhere but nothing active
I have something set up but contribute inconsistently
I contribute regularly to at least one retirement account
I have a diversified investment strategy I actively manage
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How transparent are you with your spouse or an accountability partner about your finances?* This field is required.
Completely hidden nobody knows the full picture
My partner has some idea but not the real truth
We discuss money occasionally but avoid hard conversations
We're mostly on the same page with some gaps
Full transparency my finances are an open book to my inner circle
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Have you ever worked with a financial coach, advisor, or taken a financial course?* This field is required.
Never
I've thought about it but never done it
I've done some reading or online research on my own
I've taken a course or read books that helped
I have worked with a coach or advisor and it made a real difference
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How would you describe your income growth over the past two years?* This field is required.
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My income has decreased significantly
Strong intentional income growth with a plan to keep building
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Do you have adequate insurance coverage — health, auto, life, and home or renters?* This field is required.
No coverage or significantly underinsured in most areas
Some coverage but major gaps I haven't addressed
Basic coverage but I haven't reviewed or optimized it
Adequate coverage that I've thought through
Full reviewed and optimized coverage across all major areas
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How closely do you tie your self-worth to your net worth or income?* This field is required.
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Not at all my identity is rooted in who God says I am
Very closely my financial situation defines how I feel about myself
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Do you believe financial freedom is actually possible for you?* This field is required.
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No I don't believe it's possible for someone like me
I believe it fully and I'm living proof it's happening
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When you receive unexpected money — a bonus, a gift, a refund — what do you typically do?* This field is required.
It's spend it almost immediately often on non-essentials
I spend most of it and save a small amount
I split it between spending and some savings
I save or apply most of it toward a goal
It has an assignment before it even arrives — I give, save, and invest it intentionally
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Do you understand the difference between your assets and your liabilities?* This field is required.
Not really I've never thought about it that way
I have a general sense but no real clarity
I understand it conceptually but haven't mapped mine out
I know what I own and what I owe with reasonable clarity
I have a clear picture of my net worth and review it regularly
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How many income streams do you currently have?* This field is required.
One — a single job or income source
One primary plus an occasional side income
Two consistent income sources
Three or more consistent income sources
Multiple diversified streams with intentional growth
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Do you have a plan to become completely debt-free?* This field is required.
No debt just feels like a permanent part of life
I want to but have no real plan
I have a general idea but nothing specific
I have a written plan and I'm working it
I have a clear debt-free date and I'm on track to hit it
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If you lost your primary income today, how long could you survive on savings alone?* This field is required.
Less than one week
One to two weeks
One month
Two to three months
Four months or more
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You did it. The scored portion is complete. That took courage. The section below is optional — only complete it if you have recent bloodwork. You can always come back and add it later.
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Chronological Age (years)* This field is required.
Your actual age in years — required to calculate biological age
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Albumin (g/dL)
Normal range: 3.5 – 5.0
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Creatinine (mg/dL)
Normal range: 0.6 – 1.2
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Glucose — Fasting (mg/dL)
Normal fasting range: 70 – 100 mg/dL
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C-Reactive Protein / CRP (mg/L)
Low inflammation: under 1.0
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Lymphocyte Percentage (%)
Normal range: 20 – 40%
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Mean Corpuscular Volume / MCV (fL)
Normal range: 80 – 100
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Red Cell Distribution Width / RDW (%)
Normal range: 11.5 – 14.5%
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Alkaline Phosphatase / ALP (U/L)
Normal range: 44 – 147
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White Blood Cell Count / WBC (K/uL)
Normal range: 4.5 – 11.0
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Vitamin D (ng/mL)
Optimal range: 40 – 80
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HbA1c (%)
Normal: under 5.7% — Prediabetes: 5.7 – 6.4%
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