2026 Kinky Kristmas Attendee Vetting Form

Legal Name

First NameLast Name

Your Email

example@example.com

Cell Number

Format: (000) 000-0000.

Scene Name

If people in the kink community know you by a scene name, or if you'd like to be acknowledged by a name other than your legal or vanilla life name, put that here.

Pronouns

What is your gender identity?

Kink Fest is explicitly queer and trans inclusive. All genders are welcome here.

How old are you?

Attendees must be 25 or older. No exceptions.

How would you describe your sexual orientation?

How do you identify in terms of BDSM archetypes?

i.e. Dom, sub, switch, voyeur, evolving, newbie, pet, rigger, rope bunny, etc.

How long have you been knowingly/intentionally practicing kink?

Is this your first time attending an event hosted 4 Kinky Friends?

What is your social media handle(s)?

Include IG or FB social handle(s). This will be used for vetting purposes only.

What are the most recent kink events that you have attended? Please include the host(s) info, if possible.

Please provide contact information i.e. social media of at least one person in the Black kink community who can serve as a reference for you? NOTE: if you are new to the scene and do not have references, you will need to do a follow up one-on-one with the host(s) in addition to completing this form

Please include their scene name and social handle(s), if applicable.

What does consent mean to you, and how does it show up in your kink or sex life?

What is one thing you can commit to as an attendee to help ensure we are creating a space that is safe and affirming for all our guests?

Are you interested in volunteering to help with Kinky Kristmas?

Volunteer Roles are listed here - https://bit.ly/44FxFpz

Do you have prior experience volunteering or hosting at kink or play events?

Virtual volunteer orientation is required in order to serve as a volunteer. Orientation is Wednesday November 18th from 8:00-9:00PM EST.

4KF Hosts may provide volunteers with an outfit to wear during guest check-in. Do you have any restrictions or objections to this offering?

This years' volunteer theme is Seeing Red for Santa! Volunteers are free to change after doors close.

Below are our volunteer roles for Kinky Kristmas. Choose the role(s) that feel most aligned with your energy and interests — you can pick more than one.

🪩 Workshop Elves (Set-Up Crew) - Before the festivities begin, this crew helps transform the space into a kinky winter wonderland. Tasks may include setting up play zones, arranging décor, checking supplies (toys, wipes, lube, lighting), and making sure the flow of the house supports both comfort and consent. Perfect for folks who love creating vibe, order, and a little ritual before the magic starts.📧 North Pole Pen Pals / Digital Deities (Pre-Event Admin) — [NEW] Act as the digital backbone of the event before the gates even open. This remote, flexible role involves managing the event inbox, handling pre-registration questions, providing exceptional customer service, and ensuring everyone arrives informed and ready. Ideal for organized, communicative folks who love spreadsheets and support.

Volunteers will be expected to serve for 3 hour shifts. Please indicate your availability/desire for each time range.

Rows	Definitely available	Available if needed, but not my preference	Not available/this will not work for me
Available for Cine Lust Event (Dec 4th, 6PM-9PM)
Available for Cine Lust Event (Dec 4th, 9PM-12AM)
Available for early setup (Dec 5th, 6PM - 9PM)
3PM - 6PM
6PM - 9PM
9PM - 12AM
12AM - 3AM
Available for cleanup shift (2AM - 4AM)

To complete the vetting process for your submission, we will need you to create a video response (camera on!) of you answering these additional questions below:
1. Consent in Practice: How do you define and practice active consent in intimate or play spaces? Can you share an example of how you’ve checked in or adjusted in real time based on a partner’s boundaries or comfort?
2. Self-Awareness & Boundaries: What helps you know when you’ve reached your own limit — physically, emotionally, or energetically — and how do you communicate that to others?
3. Curiosity & Alignment: What draws you to kink spaces or the ethos of “Kinky Kristmas”? What are you most curious about exploring or learning in this community context?
4. Accountability & Safety: Everyone has moments where something doesn’t go as planned. If a boundary were crossed, yours or someone else’s, how would you take responsibility or seek repair?
5. Preparation & Intention: Being in a new or intimate community space takes care and readiness. What are you personally committed to doing (emotionally, physically, or spiritually) to prepare yourself to show up grounded, respectful, and open for this event?

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By clicking this box, I affirm that I will comply with the Four Kinky Friends' no tolerance policy around consent violation. I acknowledge that failure to comply with the house rules may result in my automatic removal and being banned from future for Four Kinky Friends events.

I am committed to playing safely. I understand that the hosts believe in the de-stigmatization of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and that control of our sexual health lies with each of us. To that end, testing for transmittable infections is encouraged, and I may be asked by people I'm sexually intimate with about my status, regardless of condom use.

I understand that this event centers consent-based pleasure as a practice. In practice, this means that if it is not consensual, it is not pleasurable. If it is not a clear, un-coerced "YES" then it is a NO. If a person cannot respond, it is a NO. If I am unsure, it is a NO.

I understand that regardless of my own gender identity, sexual orientation, or who I choose to play with, that Four Kinky Friends Events are explicitly safe places for ALL Black people, including queer and trans Black folks. I understand that homophobic and transphobic bullshit will not be tolerated.

I understand that this is ONE of TWO parts of the weekend's safety and consent process. I understand that for Saturday's party I must be on time for the group safety and consent conversation in order to remain at the venue, and that if I cannot make it before doors close, I forfeit my ticket.

By volunteering, you agree to uphold our consent and care culture: Practice FRIES model of consent (Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific).Respect and use the house safeword system (Green / Yellow / Red).Come to your shift grounded, clear-headed, and able to support the consent and safety of others. If you choose to partake, do so in a way that preserves your awareness and capacity. Bring kindness, discretion, and respect to every guest and interaction.

I agree to respect my fellow volunteers and support the hosts in guiding the event

4 Kinky Friends presents Kinky Kristmas

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