What Stage of Deterioration Is Your Marriage In?
Discover your marriage deterioration stage in 3 minutes and learn what you can do next.
Your marriage didn't get here overnight. Marriages decline in five predictable stages — and knowing which stage you're in tells you what can still be done. Answer 10 quick questions honestly. Takes 3 minutes.
First Name
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Email Address
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When you think about your marriage today, what's the strongest feeling that comes up?
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Disappointment — it's not what I imagined it would be
Frustration — we keep having the same problems over and over
Numbness — I don't feel much of anything anymore
Something recently gave way in me — it may have been big or small, but it was the last straw
Relief — I feel better when we're apart
How do disagreements go in your marriage?
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We argue, but we make up and move on
We have the same fights on repeat and nothing ever gets resolved
We've mostly stopped fighting — neither of us bothers anymore
Something recently — major or minor — landed differently than everything that came before it
There's nothing left to fight about
When something good or bad happens in your day, who do you want to tell first?
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My spouse — but it doesn't land the way it used to
My spouse — though it often turns into tension
A friend, family member, or nobody — not my spouse
Definitely not my spouse — I'm guarding myself around them now
It would never occur to me to tell my spouse
How would you describe physical affection between you?
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Still there, but less spark than before
Inconsistent — warm one week, cold the next
Rare — we're more like roommates
It faded over time, and recently I realized it's gone
Nonexistent, and I prefer it that way
When you imagine your future, your spouse is...
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In the picture, though the picture looks different than I hoped
In the picture, but only if some big things change
Blurry — I honestly can't picture us in five years
A question mark — something in me shifted recently and I can't shift it back
Not in the picture
How much effort are you putting into the marriage right now?
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A lot — I'm trying to get back what we had
Some — but I'm getting tired of being the one who tries
Very little — I've quietly stopped trying
I hit a wall recently — after years of trying, something in me quit
None — the effort left me a long time ago
Have you thought about separation or divorce?
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Fleetingly, in bad moments
More often than I'd like to admit
Regularly — I think about what leaving would look like
Constantly — lately it feels less like a question and more like a conclusion
I've moved past thinking about it — I'm planning it or already living it
How does your spouse's presence in a room make you feel?
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Comfortable, but the excitement is gone
On edge — I brace for what might go wrong
Indifferent — like a piece of furniture is in the room
Hurt or angry every time I look at them
Nothing at all — or I leave the room
If your spouse suddenly became warm, attentive, and loving tomorrow, you would feel...
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Thrilled — it's what I've been waiting for
Hopeful but skeptical — I'd wonder how long it will last
Suspicious — what do they want?
Too hurt to receive it right now
Nothing — it's too late
Which sentence sounds most like what's in your head?
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"This isn't what I signed up for."
"I can't keep doing this same dance."
"I feel alone in my own house."
"That was it for me. After everything, I just can't anymore."
"The marriage is already over — one of us just hasn't said it out loud."
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