Important Information for Becoming a Mentee
What is the purpose of the program?
The ImpACT Mentor Program is designed to give your child an opportunity to have a one-on-one relationship with an Empowered U mentor. Through these relationships, as well as recreational and group activities, mentors provide friendship, support, and guidance to your child. The mentors are there to act as a positive role model and confidant.
Can my child be tutored by his or her mentor?
The ImpACT Mentor Program is not a tutoring program. While sometimes pairs decide together to work on school work, this is not a requirement for the mentors. There are many other programs that focus on tutoring if you feel that your child needs academic support. The ImpACT Mentor Program focuses on fostering lasting and meaningful relationships between the mentor and mentee rather than concentrating just on academics.
What should I do if my child cannot attend a meeting or event with their mentor?
Have your child call his or her mentor and reschedule. Be sure to keep the phone numbers of the mentor handy so that you or your child can call them when needed. If you cannot reach the mentor, please call the Treva Gadson at (803) 446-8093 and leave a message with the ImpACT Mentor Program.
Can other family members or I go with my child and the mentor?
A mentoring relationship is special in part because it is a one-on-one relationship. Even teens that feel very close to their parents sometimes need to talk with friends outside of the family. The mentor is an adult friend with whom your child can talk about things that concern him or her. Please respect their private time together. Moreover, mentors are not baby-sitters and cannot be responsible for anyone except their mentee.
The mentor and your child will inform you about their plans each week. If at any time you are uncomfortable with their plans, please let us know. Mentors will be sensitive to you parental concerns and will try to find an arrangement that is acceptable to you.
How can I be sure that the mentor will support my rules and regulations?
In the beginning, talk to the mentor about any rules or regulations that you expect to arise in his or her relationship with your child. If you have strict rules about activities in which your child may not participate, etc. then please discuss these with the mentor. By making this information known at the beginning, you can help avoid misunderstandings later.
What if the mentor says things with which I do not agree?
No matter how carefully we match mentors and mentees, you may find that some areas of your beliefs and ideas differ with those of the mentor’s. If there are important issues to you, please let the mentor know. You can request that the mentor NOT question your most important beliefs or values when with your child.
Who will pay for activities of the mentor and my child?
Mentors and mentees always pay for their own expenses. If there is a cost for an activity, then you or your child will be responsible for the youth’s fair share. Monthly events at Empowered U cost-free; we also provide the mentors with many low-cost or no-cost activity suggestions. As with any friend, mentors may treat your child occasionally, but it should not be expected on a regular basis.
How often should I be in contact with the mentor and how much should I say about family problems/ concerns?
Get to know the mentor well enough to feel comfortable with him or her being with you child. Before each meeting, discuss the plans and times for returning home. Try talking directly to the mentor about your concerns, but please avoid talking to the mentor about your child in front of your child. If there is something the mentor should really know, then call them when your child is not around.
What if there are concerns or questions I don’t want to discuss with the mentor?
Please feel free to contact Treva Gadson, Development Director by phone at (803) 446-8093 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org. They are here to make the Youth Mentor Program work for students, mentors, and parents. A Community Outreach Committee member will call you several times during the school year to see how things are going. But don’t wait for them to call! We would like to know about anything that concerns you as soon as possible.