In close relationships, we all get caught sometimes in “negative cycles” of interaction, despite both people's best intentions and efforts. You react to the other person’s reactions, and the other person reacts to your reactions, and round and round you go in a feedback loop, with both of you hurting.
There is always a lot more going on than you can see on the surface. This exercise can help us begin to understand the underlying feelings that drive the negative cycles you get caught in, which is the first step toward changing them.
You can get caught in different cycles with different people. As you complete this exercise, please think about a specific relationship in your life that you would like to understand and perhaps change. If you are coming in for counseling with another person, please complete this exercise as it relates to that person.
To better focus on the behaviors, thoughts, and feelings that matter the most to you, please choose no more than 5 options for each question or sentence completion.