Note: This vote on the values, policies and protocols of the Human Awareness Institute is intended for publication as a way to bring transparency to what is and is not considered a teaching at HAI by the board and facilitators. Transparency about best practices both supports awareness and allows for informed choice.

It is also a chance to vote on key areas of community safety, and a line in the sand to either begin legal proceedings with a goal of shutting HAI down or mark the point when HAI says "no" to sexual abuse, "no" to traumatic ignorance and abuse and begins the process of saying "YES" to the practices that can bring it into alignment with the mission it was formed to serve.

Note: "Metadata" is the sharing of essential information in statistical form without revealing the identity of anyone who wishes to share personal information confidentially.

We at HAI understand that much of the damage in areas of sexual abuse results from the secrecy, silence, shame and consequent lack of intimacy and support that such silence produces at a time when the abuse-survivor most needs to be seen and have a sense of belonging to calm down the body and ensure that the authentic self feels safe and welcome. As such an ethical organization serving public interest must cooperate and support the full transparency as preferred by a sexual abuse survivor. It is the wish of Dane that a list of all ethical and therapeutic abuses be published by HAI to its entire community with an apology and a list of what will be done to increase the safety of all participants as follows:

Every facilitator and board-member at the time of Dane's direct request to be heard and supported (see e-mail sequence: https://humanawarenessinstituteatchoice.com/email-correspondence) will make a separate video for the HAI community outlining:

• What they are sorry about.
• What they believe is appropriate and what they will do in the future when the facilitators and board receive evidence of abuse of power or sexual abuse within the community and within the team/facilitator body.
• What specific mistakes they believe that they made, in either inaction or action inconsistent with data relating to responding to sexual abuse.
• Why they believe they made these mistakes.
• Whether they feel fit to continue in their role and why they will not make these mistakes in the future.

Further, we at HAI are committed to requesting the resignation of anyone in HAI leadership who is not committed to avoiding harm to our community and making amends when that occurs. We believe that anyone who is unwilling or unable to articulate their values and thoughts in a manner that earns public trust cannot serve the HAI mission statement or our community in a leadership position in an organization that has as a core focus sexuality and sustainable relationships.

It is HAI's policy not to charge clients for services deemed abusive. If evidence of abuse by a team member or facilitator is obtained it is HAI's highest priority to learn what happened, improve the quality of the protocols and training and refund any money paid by the client for those services. In this case even after both Anne and Peter acknowledged abuse Anne asked Dane to pay her for mediation services and Dane was never offered a refund by Peter, HAI or Anne.

It is HAI's first priority to avoid harm to a HAI client as part of this commitment we apply a principle that in all ways possible a client will have all damage resulting from such harm repaired by the most competent licensed support available. In the case of Dane Rose presenting evidence of therapeutic and sexual abuse by a HAI facilitator, HAI would offer to pay for the services of a licensed sexual and trauma abuse therapist until such time as the therapist believes that Dane is restored to a place of healthy and sane independence.

As part of HAI's commitment to transparency, we are committed to publishing all best practices and all protocols relating to win-win relationships, avoiding trauma, avoiding sexual abuse, responding to sexual abuse online and encouraging all HAI participants to read these and give ongoing feedback about how well they work.

As a public non-profit, HAI owns its responsibility to act in an informed way consistent with best practices in the prevention and healing of sexual abuse and trauma. A minimum of one independent licensed trauma therapist and one licensed sexual abuse therapist will be added to the board and maintained as long as HAI functions as a public non-profit to insure that board decisions relating to public safety in these areas are in the interest of the public.

As professionals charging money to teach and embody healthy relationship practices in multiple roles, HAI understands that in perceived conflicts of interest between the well-being of a client and the agendas of a facilitator's spouse the client's well-being must be considered the primary responsibility of both facilitator and spouse.  In the event, that both spouses can't place the interest of their client as primary, one or both of the spouses must resign from their position within HAI or be removed by the board. In this case, Sarah S. has communicated her primary loyalty to Peter Sandhill and her marriage over her participant and therapeutic client, creating a danger to public interests given Peter Sandhill repeated violation of healthy therapeutic and sexual ethics. 
Sarah's Apology

It is viewed as unethical for any member of HAI's team to discourage someone from reporting sexual abuse to the police. Sexual abuse survivors will be given the message that they are valuable and that healing the pattern of abuse is HAI's highest priority and they will be encouraged to seek independent support from the best resources available to them.

As a school teaching relationship skills to client's who want to learn how to have sustainable loving relationships, HAI recognizes the high levels of ignorance, and unconsciousness in the areas of trauma, addiction, compulsion, betrayal, lies and sexual abuse within our culture.  HAI is committed to educating its clients both within HAI's workshop curriculum and by proactively referring clients to books, workshops and other resources that can facilitate their successful and healthy navigation in these terrains.

We at HAI care enough about our school and the public to gather and share meta-data about all aspects of relational health within the community. We commit to creating a portal that gathers data at least every six months on key aspects of relational health within the community and making this available to all members of HAI community at least every six months.

We are committed to a reality where every client is making steady process towards their win as they define that win. In order to see how well we are doing as a school, we are committed to providing a digital portal in which we invite every HAI client to express:

1. What their hundred percent win looks like.
2. How far away or how close to that win they are.
3. Prompted by regular questions, how well they are doing at making process towards that win and what we can do at HAI to help.

We are committed to publishing this data as metadata to give a sense and a reality check on what percentage of HAI clients are making steady process towards their definition of a win.

We commit to raising and allocating $50,000 towards implementing these technologies over the next 36 months with $25,000 raised in the first year.

As part of our commitment to a world where everyone wins, HAI is committed to having the best suicide prevention and response protocols in the world.  We will do this by regularly educating clients at workshops and online about the causes of suicide and the ways that HAI and its community can be a resource.  We are committed to know who in our community is feeling suicidal and what they need to reduce their pain and trauma to a point where they want to live.

We at HAI recognize that our skills and abilities are not the most effective to ensure the relational success of every HAI participant. We are committed to creating and regularly updated a list of media, schools, and therapists that fill in the gaps in our curriculum and encourage community members to grow on their own and bring what they learn back to the community.

We understand that sexual, therapeutic and emotional abuse can have far reaching impacts on a participant's health mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. We take this incredibly seriously, particularly at HAI by an HAI facilitator. It is our number one priority to repair such harm. In the case of Dane Rose, Peter Sandhill, the facilitators, and board of directors we commit to the following:

In the interests of reducing HAI's legal fees, we vote to appointing a mutually selected trio of a experts, such as a sexual abuse therapist, trauma therapist and an attorney familiar with sexual abuse cases to assess the harm caused to Dane Rose and to award damages considered to be average in a case of this nature and adequate to restore the impact of HAI's abuse. Deliberations in this process including a one hour interview with Dane and the trio as well as the written outcome will be recorded with a mix of audio and video and made public in an unbridged format per Dane's preference. This data will be made freely available with the intention of heightening awareness on the true cost of professional negligence in therapeutic settings and the misuse of psychedelics.

We understand that one of the deepest ways to hurt someone is to ignore, fail to honor and provide a space for the unique strengths of an individual to make a difference. Most of a community's wealth is in the bound-up and disconnected talents in its individuals. We believe in a world of abundance and are committed to sharing power and opportunity with a protocol that allows personal skills to be known in the community, and as well as an avenue by which they can be given and received. Towards that end, the profile of each HAI community members will include a category “What are your core gifts?", "And in your ideal world how would you share these in the community?"

A statement of commitment “to a world where everyone wins” is hollow without the technology that tracks each person's win and how much HAI is and is not helping that, as well as suggesting protocols for the best win-win responses to conflict, with ongoing feedback. We commit to gathering at least 10 such protocols for producing a win-win outcome, practicing them by default and reporting on the failures and successes our client's experience as they are used.

We at HAI believe our success is ultimately measured by the degree to which we minimize unnecessary suffering, repair it when it occurs and have a positive impact on our participants as they experience that impact over time.  Clients who experience negative impact by a facilitator or a team member that they want to address, for either their own or future participant's well-being, will receive a detailed reply and have the opportunity to share how satisfied they are with that reply and why.  A HAI participant who requests this to be public may have this exchange listed on an area of HAI member-only website so that other participants have the chance to read through some of the concerns about safety by any participant and to see how those are addressed by HAI leadership.  This will allow participants to make choices about how vulnerable they are with HAI leadership based on a reasonable assumption that what is done to one person is not personal and is likely to be done to them.

We on the HAI board understand that our role is making independent decisions in the interest of our mission and the public.  We commit as a board that in any instance of reported abuse by a HAI facilitator or team member to do one of the following:

a. Meet and record a full unhurried dialogue with the person who has been sexually or otherwise abused following the guidelines of our written protocol developed in consultation with leading experts in sexual and relationship abuse.

b. Appoint an independent licensed sexual abuse or trauma abuse therapist to listen and record the entire incident of the abuse and make a recommendation for the board to vote on.  These recommendations and the abuse, as well as the decisions, should the victim of sexual abuse survivor prefer, will be published in the community.

We at HAI understand that, particularly in the case of abuse survivors, the distinction between love and abuse, lust and adrenaline, addiction and love, can be confusing. We are committed to providing a clear verbal and mental map for all HAI clients with clear and effective definitions for each of these words.  We are also committed to providing healthy guidelines and protocols that can help our clients navigate terrains such as: self-love, an abusive relationship, a traumatic relationship, sexual addiction, emotional compulsivity, unconscious intergenerational abuse, chauvinism and other distinctions relevant to conscious healthy relationships.

We recognize that most sexual relationships end for reasons other than death. We also recognize that most HAI participants have experienced at least one traumatic ending that felt abusive, out of control and that could easily have been ended in a healthy and more conscious manner. As part of our commitment to win-win relationships, we are committed to practicing a discussion that models a kind and respectful way to end a sexual relationship that is no longer working for one or both people.

We recognize at HAI that the heart is as important as the body. Relationships are as likely to suffer from mental and emotional disease, confusion or ignorance as from physical or sexual disease. We are therefore committed to practicing a safe emotional conversation prior to having sex which includes a traumatic relationship history, emotional attachment patterns around sex, mutual needs around communication, mutual needs around monogamy and its definition (however defined) and a clear agreement about how to handle an unwanted pregnancy should it occur.  We are committed to refining this conversation until our survey data shows that the sexual relationships that occur between HAI participants who follow our recommended protocol leave both people's hearts honored the vast majority of the time and to report that metadata to the community after each survey.

HAI acknowledges that some HAI participants have traumatic events during a workshop. HAI understands that in a traumatically illiterate culture, neither they or an untrained team member is likely to know how to recognize or respond to trauma. As part of HAI's commitment to win-win events, HAI facilitators, with the help of a licensed trauma therapist is committed to creating a series of tutorial videos which all members of the team are required to watch before being a team member and which participants are requested to watch prior to doing a level 1. These videos should include how to recognize the symptoms of trauma in oneself, what trauma means, what techniques an individual can do for themselves should they know the symptoms and how they might ask for help, as well as a list of resources for trauma support outside of the HAI community. These videos should emphasize that people with a traumatic history of relational or sexual abuse should consider seeking independent traumatic support from a licensed practitioner to serve as a safety net prior to doing their first workshop.

HAI is committed to the science of understanding, healing, and love that leads to long term sustainable and healthy relationships. The best way to go about understanding what helps and what hurts people is to gather data over time.

We recognize that we are in a unique position to gather meta-data about the correlation between the practices at HAI and the degree and longevity of a healthy win-win relationship. We are also in a position to gather important cultural data that can help statistically map the significance of trauma in the ability to love and other correlations. These include correlations between addiction and domestic violence, sexual activity and the amount of sexual abuse. We will make that meta-data available to sociology and psychology students as well as our own team and the public to better understand and respond to this data for the benefit of HAI clients and the larger culture.

We understand that when our lack of training or breach of ethics results in a HAI client to entering a traumatic state, our primary responsibility is to attune to and respond to the needs of our client immediately to prevent the trauma to becoming PTSD. To do this we commit to the following protocol:

Ask and write down our client's response to the following questions:

• Who within the facilitator body or community do you feel safe with?
• What can we do to best support you?
• Who are within the facilitator body or community do you feel safe with?
• What is the biggest source of your fear and pain at this time?

We are committed to doing our best to respond to this list immediately and to check-in regularly with the following questions:

• How we are doing in our response to your needs 1 to 10?
• How difficult is it to be fully present in your body 1 to 10?
• How much fear and pain are you in 1 to 10?
• How lonely do you feel 1 to 10?
• How confused and overwhelmed do you feel 1 to 10?
• What could we do right now that would make the biggest difference in improving your well-being?

In an area involving facilitator abuse, we acknowledge our limitations in prioritizing the needs of our clients ahead of our personal relationships within HAI. As such we will acknowledge and apologize for those limitations and support our client to seek an independent sexual abuse therapist outside of HAI so that our client will receive the best care available without needing to take care of our fears and needs in HAI leadership. We will offer to assist in finding such a therapist and ask the question "do you feel capable of locating and hiring such a therapist at this time?" We will follow up at least once a month until our client reports that they are back on their feet.

Physical threats to HAI community members, by a community member or a staff at HAI will be responded to immediately with support:

1. The abuser will be contacted and asked to confirm that they withdraw any threat to any community members.
2. If necessary the HAI participant will be supported in getting a restraining order and the abuser will be denied access to the community until making amends.
3. The community will be alerted to the individual making the threat with a request to report further incidents.

We at HAI recognize the trauma caused in this culture by being homeless, unable to pay medical bills and the need for support this leads to. This creates a power-dynamic that can be dangerous when sex is involved when one person depends on a lover in the community for survival. To minimize the shame and abuses of power that occur in this situation, we are committed to taking the following steps:

1) Providing a forum in the community where people who feel vulnerable about their three primary human needs to survive, feel secure and feel love and belonging, can post their situation without shame and ask for the support that would most help them meet these needs.

2) That everyone attending workshops is taught about this vulnerability and the responsibility of the person in the more secure position to support a partner in meeting their independent needs for safety, belonging and survival prior to expressing needs for sex, to avoid the scenario of someone saying "yes" to something they don't want out of desperation and fear.

3) When signing up for a workshop participants will be given a questionnaire that includes the questions:

• Are you going through trauma at this time? If so, please explain...
• Are you in fear of survival, safety or an addict at this time?
• Do you have anyone outside of the HAI container who you feel safe to go to for help if you experience abuse in the HAI community?

4) A team of volunteers or HAI staff will be formed to follow up at least once a month with members of this group to ask: "Are you safe? Do you need help or to talk to someone?"

This is done in the clear understanding that sex prior to basic dignity and human needs is rarely loving to either party, and a commitment that the amplification of sexual activity at HAI workshops does not lead to a predictable escalation of abuse.

Shortly after Dane informed the facilitators that he would not keep their secret any longer, his heartbeat and Norcal announce passwords and posts were blocked with no explanation, something that had never occurred in 10 years. This is inconsistent with the list agreements, which do not state "Anyone wishing to tell the community about sexual abuse by a facilitator will be silenced by blocking them on the list when they need the most support." We at HAI apologize for this behavior, and commit never to silence a sexual abuse-survivor again in our community. Consistent with this protocol, Dane's accounts will be fully restored immediately. At the Human Awareness Institute we further stand for a sexual-abuse-survivor's rights to be heard and supported in our community trump any legal concerns we may have, resulting from our breach of law or therapeutic ethics. Any member at HAI who is found to have taken action to silence a sexual abuse survivor will be asked to leave the Human Awareness Institute or publicly apologize and make amends to those who experience a further betrayal at the time support is most needed.

We at HAI apologize to Dane for sending him a contract to sign asking him to promise never to sue HAI and never to tell anyone about the abuses he had experienced at the hands of Peter Sandhill and the facilitator body. We understand that it is our responsibility as a public non-profit to model best practices and it is our community's responsibility to share any threats within the community that they perceive so they can be addressed in the open, rather than hiding behind closed doors. We commit never to ask anyone at HAI at any level to sign a non-disclosure agreement to silence their voice around abuses at any level of HAI. Although Dane never signed this contract, he never should have been encouraged to in the first place - particularly in parallel with HAI's position that they would offer zero support for the abuse when we falsely stated that it was "not a HAI issue."

We recognize that it is impossible to have win/win loving relationships when we are ignorant and unconscious of abuse, trauma and the dark side of relationships. We welcome the opportunity at HAI to own and understand our cultural shadow. Towards that end, we will include at least one hour of introduction and space-holding for our participants to speak about and learn to understand the lines between abuse and love they have experienced in their lives so that this part of our culture is present in an environment where new lover-relationships are probable. Questions and raised hands about "how many people have experienced x" and shares about "how did this change you and what was its impact?" and data about how to respond and stop such patterns of self-abuse, victimization, and abuse of others is all part of our role to see that love does not get confused with the re-enactment of sexually oriented abuse patterns, which generally continue until they are conscious and data is integrated.

We at HAI are not experts in everything and have a responsibility to know our limits of expertise. We recognize that by recommending facilitators without disclosing license status or competency levels in areas of trauma, PTSD and abuse we set some of our clients up to fail. We commit to each facilitator sharing their specific training, license status as well as areas they are less experienced and to gathering and sharing client feedback publicly at the end of treatment including:

1. What was your goal in working with this practitioner?
2. Did the practitioner suggest other resources to give you options to grow outside the relationship?
3. How much did you learn that you did not know?
4. Did you feel honored in all of the parts of you that wanted to come out?
5. How safe did you feel?
6. Did the practitioner express sexual interest in you overtly or covertly?
7. Did you feel you could be honest, or that you needed to please the practitioner in some way?
8. What do you think were the strengths of this practitioner?
9. What do you think the practitioner could do better and why?
10. Who would you recommend this practitioner for and who would you not recommend the practitioner for?
11. Do you feel that your survival, safety, self-love and growth was the number one agenda at all times?
12. Was there anything you wanted that you did not receive?
13. Did you feel that the practitioner understood the issue you wanted to deal with?

We understand that to lead, teach and heal requires an adult willing to embrace all feedback, and at the risk of leaving the practitioner feeling exposed at times, choose to put our client's right to make informed decisions first.

We at HAI encourage everyone in the community to speak openly about sexual and psychological abuse. Dane Rose did the right thing by asking to be heard and supported when Peter Sandhill's sexual and psychological abuses reached a level he was unable to adequately respond to, given the lack of training for responding to such abuse more effectively within our workshops. We let him and ourselves down at this point by meeting with his abuser behind closed doors in response to his request to be heard, thus communicating our loyalty to his abuser and our choice to exclude him as our priority, thus escalating his levels of loneliness, grief and trauma. We are committed to either disbanding our organization or to insuring that the well-being of anyone coming forward again will be at the center, and they will be encouraged to speak publicly about the experience and that we will inform the community, if desired by the abuse survivor, of what occurred and how the community can support them.

Please list all actions that you believe are important to minimize sexual and traumatic abuse within the HAI community as follow:

I have watched the videos titled "reinventing HAI with safety first" https://reinventinghai.homesteadcloud.com/

This form is intended as public information to help guide HAI around best practices going forward.