Thank you for volunteering your time to work with these wonderful kids!
Many of the children we serve have been through so much in their young lives and they have been affected by trauma, which presents itself in many different ways.
Alicia's Closet team members will always try to provide any necessary context and background, which will help to understand certain behaviors or triggers.
Below are a few helpful tips to remember when interacting with the children:
-Please engage/connect with the children by playing with them, interacting through games, drawing with them, having conversations, etc. at their comfort level. Relationships are built through connection, please do not be afraid to take the initiative to interact with the children rather than just "supervising".
- If in separate rooms according to age, keeping siblings together may be necessary to avoid feelings of fear or separation anxiety. This will be especially true for children newly entered into foster care.
-Using a calm, soothing voice when speaking will be helpful.
-For a child who is having a hard time separating from their caregiver or engaging in activities, oftentimes giving them a task or “job” will help them feel more comfortable.
-Consistently reassuring a child their caregiver is going to return is always helpful.
-Using any kind of “distraction” can be helpful. For example, “Mary” is becoming increasingly upset during drop-off. Distracting her by decorating her name tag or asking her to help you with a job will take her mind off her anxiety of separating from her caregiver. If staffing allows, taking a child who is struggling on a short walk is a good idea as well.
Please keep in mind that sometimes the children we care for may do things that seem to make no sense or are emotional without an obvious reason. This is all very “normal” within the vulnerable children population. It will be important to remember that this is meant to be a fun, stress-free time for the children, and anything you can do to help them feel comfortable and at ease will be beneficial.
We appreciate your willingness to care for these children, and in turn, support their caregivers!
If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact Maya Ward, Alicia's Closet Founder/Executive Director, at maya@aliciascloset.org.