Bisexual (also known as bi) people are attracted to more than one gender romantically or sexually.
But NGL, that explanation is a little too simplistic. The sexual spectrum is a huge, lovely, and occasionally perplexing thing.
A gay person is homosexual, but if we describe something like a scene or a party as gay test quiz, that means it's bright, merry.
Dove Pressnall, MA, LMFT believes that because our culture is so focused on binary distinctions, it can be simple to feel under pressure to "pick a side" when it comes to sexual orientation.
Human sexual experience and identity actually fall along a range among cultures.
Bisexual people could prefer one gender over the other. Or they find both genders attractive.
Furthermore, it's very normal for your emotions to alter throughout time.
15 signs to look for if you think you might be bi
Here are 15 signs that you might be a bi babe.
1. Gender doesn’t matter to you
Can a person be attracted to someone regardless of the junk they’re rocking down under? Heck yes! For bi peeps, it’s more about how you feel about a person.
Their gender doesn’t always matter as much.
PSA: This doesn’t mean you’re going to be romantically or sexually interested in everyone.
2. You think TV or movie characters are hot
If you’re into Ross and Rachel… or Jim and Pam… etc. you might be attracted to multiple genders. Maybe you even noticed this when you were a kid while watching cartoon on cartoonetwork.
Obviously, this isn’t a definitive test. But it could help you start an internal chat about what you want, what you really really want.
3. Conflicting feels
Bisexuality — or any sexuality — isn’t black-and-white. So bi feelings can be uber confusing, especially if you’ve preferred one gender your whole life.
These feelings are 100 percent normal. The confusion should get better over time once you explore your feelings and desires a bit more.
4. It doesn’t have to be 50/50
Sexuality isn’t one-size-fits-all. Everyone has their own romantic preferences and sex styles. Bi peeps are no different.
You don’t have to evenly divide your interest between all genders. You can go through periods where you’re more interested in one than another.
Or you can prefer one gender romantically and another gender sexually. There’s no exact science here.
5. You question your dreams
You can analyze your dreams all day long but sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Your dreams don’t have to mean much or anything at all.
But if you can’t stop thinking about a bi-tastic dream, there might be a reason.
6. You dig the label
Sometimes the label “bi” just fits. If you feel comfortable with this label it’s a good indicator that you’re bi.
Keep in mind, you DO NOT have to label yourself as bi. You could also relate to labels like bicurious, biromantic, cupiosexual, fluid, queer, omnisexual, pansexual, panromantic, olysexual, or something else.
You can also just say “no” to all labels which is totally cool too.
7. You relate to other bi or queer people
When a celeb comes out as bi or queer, do you feel a sense of pride? Or maybe there’s a new bi character on your fave show and you think, “IT ME!”
While this doesn’t mean you’re bi (you could just be stoked someone is coming out as their authentic self) it could be an indicator.
8. You can’t stop thinking about it
If you’re daydreaming about a beautiful bi love affair on the reg, it might be a sign you’re into any gender.
9. You like how it feels
Fantasizing about sex can be the bomb. But until you do the deed for realz, you might not know if you actually like it.
Plus, everyone is different. Maybe you just didn’t vibe with the person you hooked up with.
10. You took a quiz
Taking an online “AM I BI?” quiz prob isn’t the best way to see if you’re a card-carrying LGBTQA+ member.
But sometimes these quizzes can help you understand how you really feel which is a good thing.
11. You have a crush or are in luv
A crush can hit you like a ton of bricks. But it can be even more “WHAT IS HAPPENING?” vibes if you have romantic or sexual feelings for someone of a different gender than you’re used to.
Even if your crush doesn’t turn out to be “the one” it could still be a sign you’re interested in that gender in general.
12. You take it personally when someone disses BiLife
Bi folks have to deal with A LOT of smack from all sides of the sexuality spectrum. Plenty of people assume that bi people are extremely sexually charged and that is why the whole “gender doesn’t matter” thing exists.
There’s also the stigma of “you’re not gay enough” or “you’re not straight enough.”
If you’re bi you might take these unfair stigmas personally or feel hurt or attacked by them:
- “It’s just a phase.”
- “You’re just greedy.”
- “You must be slutty.”
- “You’re down for threesomes.”
- And the biggie: “Bisexuality isn’t real.”
Well, let’s end the debate right now:
13. You can picture a long-term relationship with any gender
A good way to tell if you’re bi is to visualize a long-term partnership with someone from any gender. You might feel more comfortable with one gender than another. Or, it all sounds great.
14. The bi flag is a source of pride
When pink, purple, and blue are combined it’s a glorious thing. (Yet there’s still no bi flag emoji UGH!)
When you start to accept and love your bi-mazing self, it’s pretty clear that you know who you are. And you should be proud!
15. It just feels right
At the end of the day, the most important thing is doing what makes you happy. If a bi lifestyle is what works for you, then go for it!