• The Dialed-In Dad Checklist
    for Daughters

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  • As a daughter, you're wired uniquely, and your dad will be better able to dial into your heart with your input. If you're willing to answer these questions about how you experience your dad, your responses can be emailed to him and you can download a PDF of your results for your records. Thanks for courageously using your voice and choosing to enter into this process.

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    2 digit month, 2 digit day, 4 digit year
  • 1. Generally speaking, I respect my dad.*
  • 2. I feel my dad knows what's happening in my life.*
  • 3. My dad gently tells me his thoughts/fears about the decisions I make.*
  • 4. My dad gets frustrated/angry with me more than he used to.*
  • 5. He initiates conversations about spiritual things with me.*
  • 6. He talks 'at me' more than 'with me.'*
  • 7. My dad and I go on dates.*
  • 8. My dad struggles to engage me in serious conversations.*
  • 9. My dad is home for dinner with our family.*
  • 10. My dad teases me about my weight.*
  • 11. He makes comments about other people's weight.*
  • 12. My dad asks me thoughtful questions.*
  • 13. My dad knows my female friends and has positively interacted with them.*
  • 14. My dad knows my male friends and has positively interacted with them.*
  • 15. He attends school events or other activities I am involved in.*
  • 16. He has been condescending to my mother, sometimes in front of me.*
  • 17. My dad has taken an active interest in my education.*
  • 18. I can tell my dad about things I am learning in life.*
  • 19. I share about my spiritual journey with my dad.*
  • 20. My dad respects my opinions without pressuring me to believe or think the way he does.*
  • 21. My dad takes an interest in how I use my devices and spend time on screens.*
  • 22. My dad has surprised me with a gift.*
  • 23. I am comfortable crying in front of my dad.*
  • 24. My dad is comfortable letting me see him cry.*
  • 25. We have unique dad-daughter traditions.*
  • 26. My dad and I both enjoy staying active and healthy.*
  • 27. I like bringing my friends to our house.*
  • 28. My dad and I talk openly about alcohol and drugs, and I tell him the truth about it.*
  • 29. We've had an honest, interactive talk about sex (not just my dad lecturing me.)*
  • 30. My dad has more positive interactions with me than negative ones.*
  • 31. He can name my favorite media genres and influencers (music, movies, sports...).*
  • 32. I am secure in my father's love.*
  • 33. My dad has taken me to a movie or concert of my choosing.*
  • 34. My dad criticizes his body in front of me.*
  • 35. My dad prays for me and with me.*
  • 36. He knows how to make me laugh.*
  • 37. He apologizes and asks forgiveness when he has hurt me.*
  • 38. My dad takes an interest in what I'm feeling and thinking.*
  • 39. He speaks honestly with me in a loving way.*
  • 40. My dad has responded in anger when I've done something he didn't like.*
  • 41. He tends to lecture more than listen to me.*
  • 42. He affirms and compliments my mom in front of me.*
  • 43. My dad has written notes to express his love and care for me.*
  • 44. He texts me to touch base and let me know he is thinking about me.*
  • 45. He engages me in conversation after his or my work day.*
  • 46. My dad understands and appreciates my personality and character.*
  • 47. He affirms my beauty with his words -- written or verbal.*
  • 48. I talk to my dad about sensitive topics (ex: gender issues, interpersonal violations, politics, equality...)*
  • 49. My dad makes an effort to meet the people I date.*
  • 50. My dad is physically affectionate to my mom/his partner in front of me.*
  • 51. My dad gives me physical affection.*
  • 52. He has spoken with me about how to save and spend money.*
  • 53. My dad participates in community service with me.*
  • 54. My dad and I do things together that strengthen our faith.*
  • 55. He answers my questions about his life when I ask him.*
  • 56. My dad shows favoritism in the way he relates his children.*
  • 57. My dad opens up about what he is learning in his life.*
  • 58. He keeps an eye on my phone history and/or location to know where I am.*
  • 59. My dad respectfully steps into my world to see what's happening.*
  • 60. My dad has a pattern of checking in with me and listening.*
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