We continue to develop our understanding of responsive relationships and in this app you will see reference to mindful activities together with metaphors adapted from work by internationally regarded scientists and researchers including Daniel J. Siegel and John Gottman. We use terms such as emotion coaching and emotion validation as well as mindful emotion coaching.
Dr Sarah Temple's book 'all emotions are ok' is free to download here
Daniel J. Siegel is an internationally reknown researcher, psychiatrist and psycho therapist. he has created a series of easy to understand metaphors which we have adapted over the years.
Click here for Amy's interpretation of Dan Siegel's Hand Model
John Gottman is an American psychologist who has studied human relationships for decades. He describes 4 relationship styles : Emotion Coaching Style (serve and return or responsive), Emotion Dismissing Style (often motivated by a desire to fix eg don’t worry, you’ll be fine), Emotion Disapproving Style (ofen motivated by a desire to control or regain power) and Laissez Faire or Permissive Style.
Emotion Coaching is about building and enriching relationships, focusing on connecting and delaying problem solving until you’ve talked about your feelings.
Seeing the brain as a social organ dependent upon relationships with other people and understanding how our brains develop early on in our lives helps us all understand our emotions.
All Emotions are OK but not all behaviours are OK
Click next (bottom right of this page) to stream a sample of video clips that have been the most popular over the years.
- Dan Siegel talking about emotional connection using The Hand Model metaphor
- John and Julie Gottman talking about healthy connections and relationships
- Brene Brown - Empathy vs Sympathy
- learning about serve and return interactions- from The Center on the Developing Child, Harvard University
- The Shark Musice provided by Circle of Security
- a selection of videos created by The Human Improvement Project. They are also available on The Happy Child App - we are very grateful that we have been given permission to share them with you here
- Vickie shares her story of accessing Talking Therapies
- A 10 minute clip from The Goldie Hawn Foundation featuring Dan Siegel alongside adolescents talking about their lived experience
- Just Breathe provided by Julie and Josh Salzman - with a group of children talking about their emotions and feelings and sharing mindful activities. This last video provides an opportunity for discussion when watched as a family or a group in a club or school.
